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Alright so I've made several posts about this before and you guys have given great suggestions that I"ve tried and its helped somewhat. So here's the rundown
Original cat: tiny tuxedo girl, 1 year old
New cat: big tuxedo guy, 2 years old
After no less than 3 separate introduction/feliway/etc, I've gotten them to this interim stage. They don't fight on sight of each other, and honestly their fighting is restricted to only several moments only:
Fight one: occasionally the new cat will attempt to corner and groom the original cat. She doesn't appreciate this and usually either attempts to run (which causes him to chase her) and then a fight. This happens 100% of the time if I let them on the same bed as me, so now they're both not allowed on the bed, which I think original cat resents a little.
Fight two: New cat will occasionally jump out and ambush original cat. I don't think he's doing it maliciously, he seems to want to play, but the original cat is terrified of him and will run away.
It's weird because they co-exist besides the occasional fight (no blood drawn), and I"m not sure if this is as good as its going to get? They don't play together (and in fact, the original cat WILL NOT play if I try to play with them both), so they need two separate play times. It feels almost like I have two separate pets who don't like to interact at all.
I got new cat because original cat seemed to be bored when I was at work, but now since they don't play together, they just BOTH seem to be bored (well new cat is bored and frustrated). Original cat was needy and couldn't be out of sight of me before new cat, and she remains this way after getting a buddy. So basically, most of the things that I got a second cat for have not been resolved (needyness, boredom, etc) by the new cat. It's just kind of...doubled it, except now there are fights and my original cat is just generally more fearful now and rarely purrs when before she used to be a purr machine :/ It's been 5 months since I got the new cat.
I recently got an opportunity to give New cat to a new home but I'm not sure if this is the right decision or if I'm being selfish for wanting two cats that are friends rather than two cats who just acknowledge each other's existence (and barely?) The new cat has no issues, its just their relationship is not great, and I know I can't force it. I like my new cat, he's adorable but at the same time, having two cats who hate to interact with each other but both have high play drives is rather exhausting since it's just me in a small apt alone. Do you guys have any thoughts?
Original cat: tiny tuxedo girl, 1 year old
New cat: big tuxedo guy, 2 years old
After no less than 3 separate introduction/feliway/etc, I've gotten them to this interim stage. They don't fight on sight of each other, and honestly their fighting is restricted to only several moments only:
Fight one: occasionally the new cat will attempt to corner and groom the original cat. She doesn't appreciate this and usually either attempts to run (which causes him to chase her) and then a fight. This happens 100% of the time if I let them on the same bed as me, so now they're both not allowed on the bed, which I think original cat resents a little.
Fight two: New cat will occasionally jump out and ambush original cat. I don't think he's doing it maliciously, he seems to want to play, but the original cat is terrified of him and will run away.
It's weird because they co-exist besides the occasional fight (no blood drawn), and I"m not sure if this is as good as its going to get? They don't play together (and in fact, the original cat WILL NOT play if I try to play with them both), so they need two separate play times. It feels almost like I have two separate pets who don't like to interact at all.
I got new cat because original cat seemed to be bored when I was at work, but now since they don't play together, they just BOTH seem to be bored (well new cat is bored and frustrated). Original cat was needy and couldn't be out of sight of me before new cat, and she remains this way after getting a buddy. So basically, most of the things that I got a second cat for have not been resolved (needyness, boredom, etc) by the new cat. It's just kind of...doubled it, except now there are fights and my original cat is just generally more fearful now and rarely purrs when before she used to be a purr machine :/ It's been 5 months since I got the new cat.
I recently got an opportunity to give New cat to a new home but I'm not sure if this is the right decision or if I'm being selfish for wanting two cats that are friends rather than two cats who just acknowledge each other's existence (and barely?) The new cat has no issues, its just their relationship is not great, and I know I can't force it. I like my new cat, he's adorable but at the same time, having two cats who hate to interact with each other but both have high play drives is rather exhausting since it's just me in a small apt alone. Do you guys have any thoughts?