My husband and I have 3 cats. They range in age from 16 to 6. For the most part they are good cats. They don't have any serous behavior issues. That is not to say that they are angels. The big problem is that they don't really like each other much. They sometimes swat at each other and chase each other some times but they never have serous fights. They are not hurting each other. They try to keep their distance from each other but they can all be in the same room without any problems.
What I need advice on is playtime. That is when they seem to have issues with each other. The 6 year old is rambunctious and an aggressive player. The other 2 cats get frustrated because she attacks the the feather on the teaser wand with gusto and the other 2 older cats never really get a chance at it. I suggested that we play with each of them separately. My husband disagrees. We have a cat room with food, a litter box area cat trees and other stuff for them. Since we live in the city if they got out of the apartment they could be hit by a car in seconds. That is were they are put when the front door will be open. I want to put 2 of them in the room while we play with one of them then feed the one we played with in our room then take out the next and so on until all 3 have been tired out and fed. My husband really wants them to all get along. He feels putting 2 in the cat room while we play with another is mean or cruel. I do kind of get what he is saying but I think its more important that each of them get time with us alone playing instead of having 2 cats playtime disrupted by the other.
Any advice you can give me would be great. Thanks in advance for the advice.