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post #1 of 29
Thread Starter 
My 31/2 yeard old Shaelyn has had issues recently. She sees a Speech therapist,Occ therapist and soon a Physiotherapist. Well her Ped figures shes delayed to 24 months. This is very hard for me as a mom. My daughgter is beautiful and smart and we love her. I want to know why. I want to know if she will ever catch up. I want this to end.
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post #3 of 29
I am sorry you are having a rough time with your daughter! Hopefully her doctor can figure out what is going on and find a way to help her develop. No matter what she is your precious gift! I will keep her in my prayers.
post #4 of 29
I am sorry Shaelyn is having a difficult time. But I am glad that she has a mum who cares so much for her and loves her with all her heart - that is the most important thing. I hope the doctor will figure out what is going on with her.


post #5 of 29
Many hugs for you!!
post #6 of 29
I hope they figure out what's wrong with her!

Many hugs for you and family at this time!

post #7 of 29
Lots of warm fuzzies headed your way. You may never find out why, but please remember that the human spirit is awesome and has surprised a lot of professionals in its ability to recover. Warm hugs for both of you.
post #8 of 29
((((((((Hugs))))))))lots of hugs for you.
post #9 of 29
I hope she gets better!
post #10 of 29
I'm so sorry Danielle. Don't ever give up or quit trying though! Sometimes these wee ones surprise us!
post #11 of 29
I'm so sorry to hear that. Sending houghts and prayers and hugs your way!!

post #12 of 29
My neighbor's son had some sort of speech issue when he was little - When he wanted his mother to get him something, he would grunt or scream instead of using words. They found out it was something to do with his tongue being enlarged (I wish I could remember the details) Anyway, he continued speech therapy and eventually grew out of the problem. By the time he was 4 he was speaking clearly and talking non stop, LOL!! Hang in there. ((((((hugs))))))

post #13 of 29
I am sorry that you are going through this. However keep in mind not to put added pressure on her to speak now. All children go through stages at different ages. Not all do the same at the same age. I am sure it is quite frustruating as well with her that she can not communicate with you so when she sees you or anyone else stressed out, it just further makes it difficult for her and makes her feel like she has done something wrong. You have to see her world through her eyes. Communicate through her world and her ways, not neccesarily through the 'adult' perspective or what adults expect from her at her age. And don't let the other moms keep you down, the competitiveness amongst parents is very sickening, this I learned very quickly with my first son. Your child will advance, but in the mean time communicate to her in her ways and in her world. It will be less stressful for both of you I believe. And always keep hope alive, never despair, children are amazing and do amaze and baffle us adults LOL! I also feel you should always try different doctors, etc. I'm not into the have to label a child's problem and feed it medicine, this is why I actually prefer certain doctors to others because of their open-mindness to not always try to bring a quick fix or think it's a 'text-book' case. And on top of all that, some of my neighbors parents swear by the books that teach kids how to read and speak, I forgot the name of it at the tip of my tongue, but they always have commercials for it on the cartoon network. Anyone know what I'm talking about?
post #14 of 29
I am so sorry to read this and I feel for you ((((HUGS))))
My prayers will be with you and your sweet baby girl
post #15 of 29
{{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}}}} Things will get better, just hang in there.
post #16 of 29
Please don't despair! Shaelyn will get better! Think positive, that's what I say! (((hugs)))
post #17 of 29

I'm so sorry to hear this. I'm sure you are very worried about your daughter. Children develop at different rates. . . . some are more talkative than others. My son was talking up a storm like a little old man at a very young age, while my daughter sounded like a foreigner until she was 10! Hang in there. Let the doctors run some tests to ease your mind. . . . perhaps there's a reason for her current problems that can be corrected. Medicine has come such a long way. I work with a genetics counselor who deals with pediatric genetics. There are so many different reasons for children to have problems with development. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
post #18 of 29
Wishing the best for you and Shaelyn.

post #19 of 29
Some small children make up their own languages and ways of communicating. Then, one day, they start chattering away and you can't shut them up!

Every kid develops at his/her own rate. My Mark didn't walk, until he was 16 mos old. Some people made comments and I told them that he'd walk, when he got darned good and ready. Sure enough, I woke up one morning to find him ambling around my bedroom, emptying the dresser drawers.

You spend your kids' first two years, teaching them to walk and talk and the next 16 years, telling them to "sit down and shut up".

Raising kids, the best thing is usually to trust your instincts. Kids just will NOT be pigeonholed. Despite the efforts of so-called "experts", most kids develop at their own speeds and darned if most of them don't turn out, just fine!

Hang in there. At 3 1/2, all that a kid really needs to know is that someone loves them , how to play and don't pull the kitty's tail.
post #20 of 29
Originally posted by katl8e
.....You spend your kids' first two years, teaching them to walk and talk and the next 16 years, telling them to "sit down and shut up".
ROTFLMAO! Cindy I spewed my coffee after reading this!! Too funny...
post #21 of 29
Hi Danielle.

I'm sorry to hear about Shaelyn and that you are worrying about her. As others have said, children develop and different rates and are individuals. There is no right development scale. I don't have children of my own but I can only offer a story. I have to admit that I do not know of the situation. I offer this story to provide you some sort of hope of a happy ending, and hopefully ease some of your worrying.

There was a little girl who barely spoke when she started pre-school. It wasn't because she didn't know english, it wasn't because she was scared to. She simply had her own reasons. The teacher was worried and called in the parents. The parents were bemused and said that their little girl was intelligent and could speak. The teacher said that there was no evidence of the little girl talking.

So a series of sessions were held to teach the little girl to speak while her friends went out to play. It was decided that the little girl was slow at learning. The teacher wanted to hold the little girl back a year to allow for development. A meeting was held to discuss the future of the little girl. It was decided that she could move to the next grade level only if she started to speak. The parents explained this to their daughter as best they could. The little girl became worried and did speak. Not a lot, just a little. It was simply "Yes", "No", "Please" and "Thank you". It was just enough to allow her to proceed to grade school.

Throughout primary school, teachers were made aware that the girl was slow at learning. Though the quiet little girl made new friends and did well in school, often outdoing her peers. Yet, the teachers still had the thought in the back of their minds that this girl had learning difficulties as she always was confused about simple tasks or concepts.

The little girl grew up and became a young woman. She graduated high school in the top 5% of her year. Her parents were proud and she finally felt that she had proved her teachers wrong. She wasn't slow and she was as good as everyone else. She continued on to study at university where she now only has one more year before graduation.

The little girl in this story is me.
post #22 of 29
Mags - you have a very heartwarming story. Thank you for sharing it!
post #23 of 29
Keep thinking positive thoughts! Every child is precious, even children with problems.

My parents and teachers thought I was slow, turned out I had very very poor vision, and couldn't see the books they were showing me. I got glasses, and they couldn't stop me reading. Our next door neighbours had a boy who didn't talk until he was 4 1/2. The rest of us just guessed what he wanted, and looked after him. We all thought he was slow, turns out he was hard of hearing, and now works as a mechanical engineer in a nuclear plant. There is a huge number of reasons for a child to have delayed speech and delayed development, and all of them have remedies.
post #24 of 29
Originally posted by kimward34
ROTFLMAO! Cindy I spewed my coffee after reading this!! Too funny...
same here LOL!!! I know I've seen that quote somewhere but it is true LMAO!!!!

I also had the same problem, I could talk but didn't want to, with all the stuff that happened to me, and I couldn't see, had glasses at the age of 6 big freaking coke bottles LMAO!!!! With corrective shoes so that pretty much put me in the 'freak' category in elementary.

Like your story Loveless gem...very sweet
post #25 of 29

Excellent advice here from others.

Hang in there, and love her for who she is, don't let her be labeled.
post #26 of 29
{{{{{Hugs for you and Shaelyn}}}}}
post #27 of 29
Thread Starter 
Thank you all for your kind words.
Mags that is a amazing story!
I think i should clarify though: Shaelyn knows quite a few words but just does not put them together. She identfies pictures,knows her ABC's but bascially i can't have a conversation with her. Its very confusing i know. She will be going for blood tests to rule out anything else. Thanks
post #28 of 29
I am so, so sorry that you are struggling with all of this. It is always a parent's biggest worry, about anything going wrong with their children. My youngest did not talk understandably, until she was well past age 3. She could say the alphabet, count to 20, but TRY to have a conversation with her? NOPE!!! Her sister and she did have this garbled sort of language they communicated in, and her older sister ALWAYS seemed to know EXACTLY what her little sister was saying. --And usually, the older one interpreted it as the younger one needing a cookie or a snack (hmmmmmm.....) then I'd ask the younger one, and she'd nod "yes"--so they'd BOTH get a snack or a cookie! One day I brought her to the Pediatrician and he was evaluating her. The younger one was saying sylables and pointing and of course, the older one jumped up, ran across the exam room and picked up a toy for her little sister. The Pediatrician looked at me, and said, "Mom, there is "the problem" if that is what you want to call it! Big Sis is doing everything for her little sis, so no need for the little one to really HAVE to learn to speak yet!! She can just point and grunt!!! VERY soon, after that, my little one began to speak in phrases and then into sentences. But she did end up going to a speech therapist, from Kindergarten through 4th grade. I do hope this resolves itself very soon, as I KNOW it is very frightening as a parent, in situations of the "unknown".... {{HUGS}}
post #29 of 29
I'm in the same boat Fluffy's Mom. My 13 month old daughter has been seeing a physical therapist for about 3 months now. There is talk of bringing in an occupational therapist soon. Just hang in there. Samantha has actually made leaps and bounds in the past few months. They think she had sensitivity problems..meaning she didn't like certain sensations so avoided them. At 9 months she wasn't even turning over, now at 13 months she crawls, sits unassisted, and is pulling to stand. They're actually "keeping an eye" on her language development as well..she and her twin brother are behind..they aren't as concerned seeing as twins usually talk late(they have somebody that talks their language I guess). Anyway, point is you are a good Mom. I'm sure your little one will be up to speed soon.
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