My baby girl passed away today (7 years old) she developed a cancerous tumor in her intestines and the surgery was very expensive so meanwhile while i was figuring out things financially, she was on medications. She became very weak and i had contemplated putting her to sleep but knew She could pull thru until the surgery. I came home from work today and she was dying. she was having convulsions and looked mentally dead. i rushed her to the emergency vet to get her euthanized. She passed away as soon as we got there & before they could do anything. I'm carrying this guilt around that I should have put her to sleep earlier that day and she wouldnt have had to suffer through that hour of her body shutting down. I'm glad because she is not suffering anymore and in a happy place, but how can I shake this guilt of letting her go through it so long? I feel so bad...
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Shaking guilt
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Dear Leelee, I am so sorry for your loss. I know exactly how you feel as I lost my beautiful baby boy 6days ago to FIP. He started having seizures on his last day and the final one he couldnt get out of it so I rushed him to the hospital to put him down. Believe me you if you would have done it sooner you would still feel another sense of guilt as I am full of guilts as well that maybe I did something wrong that caused it...
The best thing you can do is to think of the great moments you had with her during these years. I am sure you gave her an amazing life...Please be strong!
The best thing you can do is to think of the great moments you had with her during these years. I am sure you gave her an amazing life...Please be strong!
I'm so sorry for your loss. I too went through what you
went through, 11 months ago with my sweet girl Priscilla. She was passing, from old age, and I know a natural death is painless but she seemed to show signs of pain. I picked her up to rush her to the vet to be p.t.s. and before I got to the door she passed in my arms. I felt horrible like I had let her down.
I know she would not want me feeling like that. It will take time. You're not just feeling guilty but grieving the loss too. I know if Priscilla had showed signs sooner I would of called the vet but she didn't and you would of too. I've seen many deaths, with humans, and the majority never had pain. We never want those we love to suffer and you would of never intentionally let that happen. She's at peace now and I truly believe that she doesn't want you to feel guilty!
The passing of our babies always brings a certain amount of guilt, some more then others. It would be a Godsend if they all could pass over to the Bridge in their sleep at 20 years old, but believe me that very seldom happens. You did all you were able to do, and you did rush her to the vet, it was the most anyone could expect. You were with her when she died and that is all she wanted, her time had come. My experience with cancers points to the fact that even with surgery, she most likely would have had a continued decline in her quality of life, cancer is a terrible disease that few kitties fully recover from.
I'm crying as I post this because I know what you are going through, most of us on this site have lost their furbabies and can empathize with you and what you are going through. We all have our what ifs and the should haves, but we all muddle through the best we can. Right now you need to surround your self with supportive people who can help to share this terrible grief you have right now. Be gentle and patient with yourself, it takes a long time to heal a broken heart. Please remember, your baby would not want you to be so sad , she would want you rejoice in the love you two shared and to keep her alive in your heart. Treasure your memories, they are the best legacies that exist, and you will heal enough in time to remember your sweet little girl with smiles instead of tears. Know you are not alone in your grief, bless you for loving so much to hurt so bad. RIP sweet little girl!
I'm crying as I post this because I know what you are going through, most of us on this site have lost their furbabies and can empathize with you and what you are going through. We all have our what ifs and the should haves, but we all muddle through the best we can. Right now you need to surround your self with supportive people who can help to share this terrible grief you have right now. Be gentle and patient with yourself, it takes a long time to heal a broken heart. Please remember, your baby would not want you to be so sad , she would want you rejoice in the love you two shared and to keep her alive in your heart. Treasure your memories, they are the best legacies that exist, and you will heal enough in time to remember your sweet little girl with smiles instead of tears. Know you are not alone in your grief, bless you for loving so much to hurt so bad. RIP sweet little girl!
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I'm so sorry for your loss, @leelee09.
Please don't blame yourself. Things can take a turn for the worse so suddenly and there's no way to predict it. It can happen overnight, even within just a few hours. You were doing the best you could. You gave her a comfortable home and showed her so much love, and she knew it.
Rest in peace, baby girl.
Please don't blame yourself. Things can take a turn for the worse so suddenly and there's no way to predict it. It can happen overnight, even within just a few hours. You were doing the best you could. You gave her a comfortable home and showed her so much love, and she knew it.
Rest in peace, baby girl.
I'm so sorry for your loss, @leelee09
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Please don't blame yourself. Things can take a turn for the worse so suddenly and there's no way to predict it. It can happen overnight, even within just a few hours. You were doing the best you could. You gave her a comfortable home and showed her so much love, and she knew it.
Rest in peace, baby girl.
I'm very sorry for your loss.
She knew you loved her and did the best you could. If you had had her put down hours or days earlier, you'd be asking yourself whether you decided to do so too soon, which is natural in the circumstances. Be kind to yourself. There was no way of knowing when the "right" time was.
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Oh no I'm sorry for your loss. It was hard actually seeing her body shut down but I guess you're right either way we carry some sort of guilt. Thank you for your kind words. You stay strong as well
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Thank you I really needed to hear these words
I'm so sorry for your loss. You did your best.
