Bonding issues?

My Bennett and I used to be inseparable. she was wherever I was; she climbed into my lap to sleep at night, and cuddled in my arms in the mornings, and she would display all the normal signs that I was her person.
Ragdolls are one-person cats, but lately, she can't seem to get far enough away from me to suit her. It breaks my heart, because my bond with her was so special to me. Lately, she's been sleeping on the floor of my room instead of my bed, she follows around my mother instead, and she just seems not to care whether or not I'm here. I know it sounds stupid, but she was the closest friend I had, and I've been wondering lately if a cat cat just stop bonding with their person and start bonding to someone else?
She's about nine months old now, and I'm sort of hoping it has to do with her age, more than that I did something to make her hate me. I try not to bug her when she seems like she doesn't want to be around me, but I'd do anything to get my sweet little girl to bond with me again!

That would be heartbreaking for me! I've always secretly loved how my Gus has an affinity for me over my boyfriend, it is very special and I know I would feel the same if I lost that bond with him.

I would just ensure that your interactions with her are always positive and rewarding so she can always associate you with her favorite things, i.e.  treats, meals, playtime, head scratches etc. Perhaps now she has made that association with your mom!

Did anything change?  A new scent (on you or your mom), new pets or people in the house, accidents (accidentally step on her tail or something?)  

If not, she could be going through a phase.  My cats go through times when they're snuggly and others when they're more aloof.  And it could be that she's changing as she gets older.  My cats certainly got more independent as they got older. But it doesn't mean she doesn't love you.   

I have accidentally hurt her a few times--I tried snuggling her and rubbing her sore paw. If she no longer trusts/loves me, what can I do to earn it back? How do I know how to make it okay again?
She's the most important thing in my life.

Bennetts Mum said:

I have accidentally hurt her a few times--I tried snuggling her and rubbing her sore paw. If she no longer trusts/loves me, what can I do to earn it back? How do I know how to make it okay again?
She's the most important thing in my life.

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Oh it doesn't mean she doesn't love you any more.     She may be just being cautious.  Give it some time.  

(I ended up putting collars with bells on my cats so I can hear them coming--it's too easy to step on a tail or paw, seems they're always underfoot.)  

You know, you got some good advice about this in February when you posted about this--http://www.thecatsite.com/t/272816/how-can-i-fix-this#post_3497459

Did you ever take her to the vet?  That might be a good place to start.  :-)

I did. They couldn't find a physical reason for her behavior--everything checked out healthy.

That's good news!

I do understand missing the closeness and I'm sorry it's making you sad. Take it slow--maybe spending time sitting on the floor reading so she hears your calm voice; playing soft music when she's in your room with you; does she like to be brushed? Perhaps she would enjoy that. Also, cats do change as they grow older, just like people do, so this all may be part of her getting a little more independent as she grows up.

hello!
I read some similar threads and tried doing what someone suggested there, as well as what you suggested.
we've made a point of setting a playtime in the morning and right before bed. after we play before bed, I give her a treat and talk to her in a soothing voice--she seems to enjoy it and is a LOT more calm. I've been trying to give her more space, and she always eventually climbs up on my bed to sleep. I'll always miss how she would cuddle in the morning, though, and I hope that when she's an adult shes goes back to her old sweetness. 

Bennetts Mum - I totally understand what you mean about missing the cuddles and just being sad that your sweet girl has become distant.   My girl is the light of my life, but recently has been going through a bit of an aloof period due to a new kitten being introduced.  While I can't really offer advice as to what may be the problem with yours, I just wanted to say that I totally get it.  I miss the cuddles too.  But slowly she is coming back around, and I'm sure yours will too!

Bennetts Mum said:

 
hello!
I read some similar threads and tried doing what someone suggested there, as well as what you suggested.
we've made a point of setting a playtime in the morning and right before bed. after we play before bed, I give her a treat and talk to her in a soothing voice--she seems to enjoy it and is a LOT more calm. I've been trying to give her more space, and she always eventually climbs up on my bed to sleep. I'll always miss how she would cuddle in the morning, though, and I hope that when she's an adult shes goes back to her old sweetness. 

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I'm so glad to hear she's coming around.  I know it's not the same, but it sounds like you're feeling better about it.