need help has anyone ever been a cat foster?

If you don't mind my asking how often have you been calling?

I don't see that they would have reason to lie to you. I'd take them at their word.

when I ask them the name they all tell me they volunteer for many groups...no one offers the info..and they called me out of the

hundreds upon hundreds of rescue group i emailed in a frenzy last year...i cannot remember which one since there were just so so many...I do know her name the lady that takes them for me Cindy Morgan and I live in Southern California

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more than likely too many times... i get in these panics and call ...not many times in a day but probably every other day the first week..i know its annoying but i cant help it

Georgiesmommy said:

 
Thank you thank you StephenQ!! You will never know how valuable that number is to me i have been searching for help ...I am still grieving the loss of my Georgie in October and this was just the milk that boiled this pot over

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Your welcome!  Give them a call, they will be there for you!

So glad several members have jumped in to help you with your worry and stress over how they are doing.

As other are saying, the fosters are volunteers, they offer their homes and care to help cats in need, to be rehomed rather than left behind, abandoned or euthanized at shelters.

I know with all of my fosters, each and every single one has a heart of kindness, compassion to help the helpless, and go out of their way, often times to the point of neglecting their personal lives, simply because of the mind set of 'they can wait, this can't type thing.

It's nothing like even people fostering, the majority does it from their heart, but now and then hear of some people doing if for the money, or abusing kids, etc.

No, we are not paid, so rest assured nobody is going to deal with dirty cat boxes, or other issues if their heart isn't into it.

Just think about that. We never do any shuffling either, unless on a rare occasion that maybe someone is going on vacation for a couple weeks, or someone isn't getting along well with another, so the bottom line there is, they keep them until they are adopted. Never are sent to a shelter, as we are independent rescue groups.

I think it's an excellent idea for you to call the number @StephenQ  posted, I bet she will put your mind at rest about all this

The only thing that bother s me is that when i signed them over they stress very much that not all of them will get adopted and that lets me know they may get put down and they never give me any real information about where they are located or anything....

Georgiesmommy said:

 
The only thing that bother s me is that when i signed them over they stress very much that not all of them will get adopted and that lets me know they may get put down and they never give me any real information about where they are located or anything....

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If they are a rescue then they will not ever be put down, no worries there. Rescues are just that, rescues. Not shelters where they only have so much time.

I also think you seriously need to find out the name of this org who the foster goes through.

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 DOes your organization tell the owners that are relinquishing their cats that they dont all get adopted? when I sign them over thats what the paper work says

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If they are a rescue then they will not ever be put down, no worries there. Rescues are just that, rescues. Not shelters where they only have so much time.

I also think you seriously need to find out the name of this org who the foster goes through.

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Yes, THAT.  We really can't give you any more help without a name.  If you signed something obviously this group has a name.  Figure it out and tell us.  You are asking for blind advice.  While as catwoman707 says rescues will not put healthy animals (or animals that can be reasonably made to be healthy) down, shelters will.  It is therefore imperative that you figure out if this is a rescue or shelter and what its name is.  Not all shelters are created equal either. We really cannot advise you without more info. 

Do you have a copy of this document that you signed? Can you tell us the context of the bit you are fixated on? 

Hi there Georgiesmommy. I have fostered adult kitties before too. Usually the foster kitties stay with the foster families until they are adopted and that can take a very, very long time in some cases. But, never have I heard of any fosters putting down healthy, adult kitties just to make room for more. That is the beauty of a foster network of good hearted people. The more they have the better and when the foster families are full, the organization doesn't keep calling them to take on more cats.

Usually once you relinquish an animal to these organizations they will offer you no more information on the animals if you signed that contract. A hard reality and I know the anguish you are suffering and how your heart is breaking over this. PLEASE know that you did the right thing for yourself and for the cats. It is SO easy to get in over your head with rescuing and taking in stray, homeless kitties and that is what happened in your situation. Your intentions were pure, good, and kind. Your heart is broken over this, I get that. BUT - you must try to focus and care for the cats that you still have and try to think positively about the special kitty you speak of. Who knows!! He may already have a new home. I think once they leave us and move on to another situation, they adapt and adjust in time. I can assure you that you are missing him more than he is missing you - and I say that with great kindness and respect. I just want you to try to let go, be good to yourself and focus on what is in front of you NOT behind you. OR, I fear you will make yourself mad over these thoughts of guilt, worry and anguish. What you are going through is a huge loss and that a pet loss group may be able to help you sort through your feelings over this. :nod: These groups are not only for the death of a pet but for losing a pet even in the way you have. You are not alone.

I think we all have had our hearts broken in the name of rescuing. We cannot keep them all because for me, there comes a point when you just can't give them proper care. You have to know your limits and stick to that. IF you must try to find this special kitty, then I would agree that looking on the contract you signed and making calls - you may be able to locate him or not. They may not divulge any information and you will have to move on - somehow - and accept that. My heart goes out to you...........:heart3: :heart3:

the hard part is someone gave me some information that the person who took my cats has been known to take cats from people under the ruse of being a rescue group but in reality they just haul them down to a far away shelter and have them put down...i find this out AFTER i gave my babies to her...I am so upset because I will never ever know the truth...they may all be dead now and have died scared and with strangers that did not love them and wondering why i did this to them....i can not believe i did this to any of them but especially not my special one...ill never get over not listening to my heart instead of my son

Georgiesmommy said:

 
the hard part is someone gave me some information that the person who took my cats has been known to take cats from people under the ruse of being a rescue group but in reality they just haul them down to a far away shelter and have them put down...i find this out AFTER i gave my babies to her...I am so upset because I will never ever know the truth...they may all be dead now and have died scared and with strangers that did not love them and wondering why i did this to them....i can not believe i did this to any of them but especially not my special one...ill never get over not listening to my heart instead of my son

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We have all been clearly explaining to you, that people who offer their homes to fostering animals that need to be rehomed, have no possible reason to do this other than to help the animals and the people with their situations.

Why would you possibly believe a foolish thing like this? What benefit could anyone possibly have for doing that??! None. This is nonsense and I believe you are loading yourself with unnecessary guilt. Allowing this silly rumor to turn everything good you did by downsizing your home and their environment? 

This is not sensible at all. 

You even said in a prior post, you are unable to afford vet care, and while your initial intentions on helping/saving cats who were in need of help was a great thing, it got turned around and just too overpopulated, so this is a good, positive thing for them. The best thing you could have possibly done for the cats' future.

You are making yourself crazy over this. Can you really, in your heart, find any reason what-so-ever for someone to accept fosters only to ship them off to a shelter and euthanized? No, that's not what fostering is about. No benefit to that at all.

Georgiesmommy said:

the hard part is someone gave me some information that the person who took my cats has been known to take cats from people under the ruse of being a rescue group but in reality they just haul them down to a far away shelter and have them put down...i find this out AFTER i gave my babies to her...I am so upset because I will never ever know the truth...they may all be dead now and have died scared and with strangers that did not love them and wondering why i did this to them....i can not believe i did this to any of them but especially not my special one...ill never get over not listening to my heart instead of my son

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:grphug: I do think you need a support system such as a pet loss group of some sort. OR, there has to be someone amongst the organization that you speak of that can help you deal with this - others who have been through the same thing. Again, I say, you are not alone in having to relinquish cats when you have too many to properly care for. Believe it or not, this is common and what happens to many deeply compassionate cat lover's such as yourself. I honestly think you do need additional support outside of TCS - someone face to face to talk with about this, someone who will understand and help guide you to some sort of peace with this heartbreaking situation that you had no other choice to make. We all have been in your shoes a time or two at one point in our lives - that is what rescuing leads to most times. Some of us are able to accept this and move on and others are so deeply hurt and damaged emotionally over their decision that extra support is needed.

Of course, we are HERE!!! I am not saying anything less. It took a whole lot of courage to part with some of your cats and do the right thing by them, totally selfless on your part. I commend you for that!! I think the way you are feeling and the way you express yourself here with such great sadness, loss and guilt that you do need an outside support group. Be good to yourself, take care of yourself in your time of need. A grief support system is where I would suggest you start to heal yourself. You had no other choice and somehow have to accept that and learn to go on. This is a huge loss and you are suffering with guilt and I am so very sorry....

I just want to say that I've always said," I'm my worst enemy and I drive myself insane"
Please call the number Stephen gave you. I truly understand your pain. We all want to help .

Most shelters in California are too busy and do their best to avoid taking in more cats; there are rescue groups who "pull" cats from the "Green Mile", so IMO, your kitties are more than likely with a foster family.  Young adult cats do tend to adapt readily but maybe you can find a friend to retrieve your special boy for you.  As the others have already said, it would help if we knew the name of the group who assumed responsibility of your kitties.

You might be able to contact a nearby cat fancier organization and see if they know anything about the persons that you are suspicious of.  More than likely, the fosters have become irritated with your calls simply because it is kitten season and they are very busy dealing with that, and they may resent that anyone is being suspicious. I know that you need to find out, in the unlikely event that rumors are true, which, considering the gas prices plus the hassle of surrendering an animal, makes them sound even more absurd. (Personally, I would definitely have done my utmost to reassure you!!!)

Meanwhile, please know that your TCS family continues to send prayers and vibes that all goes well for you and your kitties 

I hope that you get updates very soon & please let us know what you find out 

i know believe me I know how wrong it is for me to believe that this person would do such a horrendous thing but my mind goes there when in the very first place i was cautious to hand them over because out of HUNDREDS of rescues and foster groups that were all full and all said no , SHE always and i mean always has room...how is that possible? I try so hard to tell myself that she just does that she has a great network and I should be glad i got them help..but these were cats i have had their whole lives, know them by name even though i had over 20 know each of their personalities this was beyond difficult for me i never wanted to be without them but then I know it was not fair on them to be so over crowded i did it because i love them but i hate not knowing...I was very very attached and this is very painful even 3 weeks (today actually) later.....

Georgiesmommy said:

i know believe me I know how wrong it is for me to believe that this person would do such a horrendous thing but my mind goes there when in the very first place i was cautious to hand them over because out of HUNDREDS of rescues and foster groups that were all full and all said no , SHE always and i mean always has room...how is that possible? I try so hard to tell myself that she just does that she has a great network and I should be glad i got them help..but these were cats i have had their whole lives, know them by name even though i had over 20 know each of their personalities this was beyond difficult for me i never wanted to be without them but then I know it was not fair on them to be so over crowded i did it because i love them but i hate not knowing...I was very very attached and this is very painful even 3 weeks (today actually) later.....

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I understand your pain. I truly do. They love us unconditionally unlike humans. Believe me they do it for the love also. Maybe she just opened her doors to doing fostering and so she had the room or she was able to find homes for the ones she had. Fosters keep them until they find them homes. You are letting your mind go places it shouldn't because you love them. You didn't surrender them under your control. You were forced to and as a result you weren't ready to say good bye. I get it. My heart aches for you . I would be in a dark place if I were you. I would be reaching out to a support group. You have faced a great loss and you have every right to grieve.

thank you all for trying so hard to help me get over this loss..every step forward i take i jump back 5
i miss my babies so very much i wish i had known i still had more time to find them homes, my landlord hasnt even checked yet..i could have had 4 more weeks to love them and maybe be more patient in finding them real homes...i am trying to find away to stop feeling so sad to stop thinking they are feeling what i am feeling im trying to tell myself they are all fine and have moved on..its just me ...this is harder than when georgie died bc neither one of had a choice,...here i made the decision and i never wanted to do this

I'm glad you wrote. I was worried about you. I'm praying for you. It's literally one day at a time.

thank you so much for being so sweet to worry..no one else has a clue what i am going through you have been so helpful to me...seems like 4 weeks i should be feeling better but not as much as id like