I posted on here last November about my cat, squitten (spayed siamese female, 8 years old) She had fallen out with my partners cat Star: (spayed female, part Siamese, one year old) and we have lived in hell ever since. We reintroduced them, tried simultaneous feeding, spent a fortune on feliway, trips to the vet, ect... Stars now been missing for 5 days now as it looks like Squitten has chased her away from her home. And my partners had enough and is threatening to move out, we've been together 5 years and have no other issues but my bloody cat..
Squitten has always been hard work (I have had more trouble with her than my son of 15 years) She follows me around screaming and moaning constantly, she has the most horrid voice I've ever heard in a cat-it is worse than a babys cry, last night I tried some calming spot on-that didn't work-she screamed for 4 hours until I lost it and shut her in another room, but our bungalow is a bit small so theres nowhere I can put her where we can't hear her. This is the second relationship shes destroyed. I chose her over a husband 6 years ago. My partner and I can't even have a five minuet conversation because she drowns us out. She controls every aspect of my life. Every day I have a headache, I have a cronic illness and its getting worse and worse due to all this stress.. Shes fine for other people-I put her in our local cattery for two days just to have a break and they kept saying how lovely she is.
I don't want to rehome her, we've been together since she was a kitten but I've clearly done something very wrong with bringing her up, ive never met a cat as noisy or as nasty as squitten. I'm beginning to wonder why I'm keeping her, it doesn't feel like she love me or wants to be with me, I don't have anyone who could foster her or look after her for a bit, maybe with her out of the way, Star might come back home. Stars a amazing, very self sufficient cat, we live very rurally and I believe she can survive out in the fields for ages but why should she have to live outside because my cats taken offence to her? my partners very upset about it all, he promised Star a wonderful, safe rural home and now he thinks shes too scared of Squitten to come home.
Excuse my disjointed ramblings, as usual, Squitten woke me up at 3 am squealing like a banshee ( what a way to be ripped out of sleep-I wake on the verge of a panic attack every day) I had to shut her in the greenhouse for a hour just so I can sit and write this.
Has anyone got any ideas? all this upset is destroying our lives... ive got to the point where I'm not sure who to hang first, myself or my cat.
Squitten has always been hard work (I have had more trouble with her than my son of 15 years) She follows me around screaming and moaning constantly, she has the most horrid voice I've ever heard in a cat-it is worse than a babys cry, last night I tried some calming spot on-that didn't work-she screamed for 4 hours until I lost it and shut her in another room, but our bungalow is a bit small so theres nowhere I can put her where we can't hear her. This is the second relationship shes destroyed. I chose her over a husband 6 years ago. My partner and I can't even have a five minuet conversation because she drowns us out. She controls every aspect of my life. Every day I have a headache, I have a cronic illness and its getting worse and worse due to all this stress.. Shes fine for other people-I put her in our local cattery for two days just to have a break and they kept saying how lovely she is.
I don't want to rehome her, we've been together since she was a kitten but I've clearly done something very wrong with bringing her up, ive never met a cat as noisy or as nasty as squitten. I'm beginning to wonder why I'm keeping her, it doesn't feel like she love me or wants to be with me, I don't have anyone who could foster her or look after her for a bit, maybe with her out of the way, Star might come back home. Stars a amazing, very self sufficient cat, we live very rurally and I believe she can survive out in the fields for ages but why should she have to live outside because my cats taken offence to her? my partners very upset about it all, he promised Star a wonderful, safe rural home and now he thinks shes too scared of Squitten to come home.
Excuse my disjointed ramblings, as usual, Squitten woke me up at 3 am squealing like a banshee ( what a way to be ripped out of sleep-I wake on the verge of a panic attack every day) I had to shut her in the greenhouse for a hour just so I can sit and write this.
Has anyone got any ideas? all this upset is destroying our lives... ive got to the point where I'm not sure who to hang first, myself or my cat.