Rest In Peace Ladi NyghtShade

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~~Yesterday at 11:40 she stopped breathing.

I took her to the vet to have her spirit released from her body. She passed as the tech got the needle in her arm to put her to sleep. She had just started pushing in the fluid. She deteriorated too fast.

My whole world has crumbled. She was the most special kitty in the world. She was a special needs kitty who never really aged mentally. She was very cuddly and spent most of her time on or near me. She loved her Daddy very much. Every morning she was on his lap for her morning spank and face scratch. Then to me for her morning nap and cuddle. She loved to sit between me and my monitor while I was playing MMOs or just surfing the net. She would sit on my mousepad, then get mad at me for tickling the furs on her tummy playing my video games and clicking my mouse buttons. I slept without her for the first night in years. I woke up without her.

I'm just sitting and staring into space and either crying or feeling nothing. The last 9 years and 9 months were spent with her being the center of my universe. I would be so happy to see her every time I got home. ... My life is just empty now. I know it will get better, everything does. But when ever I was down about anything at all, she would come and lay on me. Her little face on my cheek and her arm around my neck. I will never feel that again. Nothing made the world better then she did.

My cat MyRage had gotten out of the house and met some Toms. She was pregnant, but lost the kittens, and went through all the hormone changes. That was what brought me to TCS.  The shelter got 3 3 week old kittens and MyRage fostered them until they were old enough to adopt. Ladi NyghtShade was the black manx in the bunch. She never moved out.

I helped bottle feed them because MyRage wasn't producing enough milk. I watched her grow. She was my baby. I can't have kids, and she was mine.  My husband and I split up November 2nd and it was pretty hard on Shadey. I found out last Thursday she had cancer (Lymphoma). Her daddy spent all the time he could with her. He stayed the night the last few nights. We fed her bacon, ham, seafood soft kitty food. We cuddled with her and loved her. We did everything in the world to make sure she knew how important she was to us.

Ladi NyghtShade

6.4.04 - 3.18.14

She will be forever loved and missed. No cat will ever take her place in my heart. She was my soulcat.
 

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What a beautiful tribute to a wonderful cat! I'm crying as I read it, I know the terrible anguish you are going through. You gave her almost 10 years of love and devotion, I'm sure she knew exactly how much you loved her. Please surround yourself with supportive people and express your feelings to those that care. By sharing your grief, healing begins. Reaching out to others is very hard when you hurt so much, but you need understanding.                                  Losing your Ladi NyghtShade leaves a huge hole in your heart, but eventually time will help you heal that hole and you will remember her with smiles instead of tears.Our babies would never want us to be so sad, but to remember that great love we shared with them through the years. Try not to think of it as a loss but more as a great treasure that we will forever keep in our hearts and souls. You will NEVER have another take her place in your heart, but eventually you can honor her memory by sharing your love and a new space in your heart with another little soul.

    Ladi NyghtShade, you graced your family and the world with your presence and bonded with your families souls, RIP dear little one!
 

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Oh I am so sorry and I totally understand I just lost my baby girl last night. I cannot tell her story yet it is too painful but I just came in from burying her.

You are not alone. We weep together.
 
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http://www.thecatsite.com/t/38136/shelter-just-called-d

The thread about the kittens, including Shadey, when I saw her for the first time. This thread chronicals my Shadey's first few weeks with us.

Thank you both for your replies. Alisa, I am so very sorry for your loss. I can't read through the posts here yet. My heart is far too raw right now.

Shadey was my world. Her mom, MyRage (Mirage) just isn't much like her. She is more of a cat then a human. Shadey was human all the way in a cat body.

She was my anchor. She was my reason for being. She used to lay on my chest wrapped up in my coat or hoodie and we would just stare into each other's eyes. I don't wish this pain on anyone.

She flew on a plane with me as my cary on from Denver to New Orleans. She rode in a car with me from Houma Louisiana to Sheridan Wyoming. She rode in a van with my husband and I to Oklahoma from Louisiana when everyone was evacuated from Hurricane Gustav in 2008. She was always with me. I think we spent all of 2 weeks apart in her whole life. All together in almost 10 years we were probably apart for a month, if I took all the days and added them together.

I feel pain in my throat and my chest. literally. An empty pain. I just don't feel like I can do this without her.

Then 3 hours after she passed, I found out I need to look for a new place to live.  I want to stay here in this house where I spent the last year of her life with her.

 
 

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I am so sorry for your loss. :hugs: RIP Ladi NyghtShade. :rbheart:

When my Molly died our house was up for sale. When we left I had a hard time with it as I felt it was Molly's house and I was leaving her behind. :heart2: Now that time has passed, I can tell you that you won't be leaving her behind. She's always with you. :heart2: You will always have her in your heart and your memories of her with you, no matter where you are.
 

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Oh I am so sorry and I totally understand I just lost my baby girl last night. I cannot tell her story yet it is too painful but I just came in from burying her.

You are not alone. We weep together.
I'm so sorry. :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
 
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I looked at Shadey's first month with you, OMG what a beautiful baby! It must be so nice to have all those pictures, I should have taken way more! It said I needed a password for the other two.
 

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I am so sorry to hear this news. May she rest in peace and may you find strength to deal with her loss.
 
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I fixed it so they are not password protected.

Thank you for all your kind words. I cannot even begin to understand what I am feeling. Anyone who really knows me or is on my FB friends list knows Shadey was my world. So many of my posts were about her, and pictures of her.

My heart wants to stop beating.

Here are more albums.  I have pictures of her every day from the day we got her, until she was about a year old. I have her whole kitten hood in pics. This was my child. I just can't believe she is gone.

4th month

http://smg.photobucket.com/user/MyFelinez/slideshow/01 Lady NyghtShade 9 25 to 10 24 04

http://smg.photobucket.com/user/MyFelinez/slideshow/01 Lady Shady Jan 2005

http://smg.photobucket.com/user/MyFelinez/slideshow/01 Lady Shady Feb 2005

http://smg.photobucket.com/user/MyFelinez/slideshow/02 Ladi NyghtShade
 

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I'm so sorry for your loss of Shadey. A loss like that leaves you feeling numb and lost at first. She'll always be a part of you and live on in your heart, but her physical absence must hurt terribly.

RIP, Shadey. :rbheart:
 
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I looked at Shadey's first month with you, OMG what a beautiful baby! It must be so nice to have all those pictures, I should have taken way more! It said I needed a password for the other two.
OMG... I have a few gigs of pictures of her. I loved taking pictures of her and her siblings when they were kittens. I took a lot of pictures of her as an adult too. I think I took more pics of her in her last few days then I did on most days.  Having the pics kind of helps, but it hurts. It's a double edged sword. I want everyone to see them and fall in love with her. She was such a photogenic cat and so patient with me. She let me set stuff on her, dress her up, what ever I wanted. Then she would sit there long enough for me to get one pic.  She was the best sport ever as far as felines go. I want her back so bad. She had such a huge personality that I've been asked if we will have a memorial for her.  She also had visitors after we found out she was terminal.  Everyone loved her. Some of my closest friends are mourning like a human passed.  She had human friends just like a human. She wasn't just a cat. She was barely a cat. She was so human. So So SO human.  When I looked at her, I saw a little kid dressed up as a cat.  Now my girl is no longer here. I am just dying for her to come back to me in another form. I know her spirit will be back with me.  Our spirits are meant to be together. I just loved this Manx form so so much. I hope she comes back as a feline. a breed that is hardy and healthy and will live for a very very long time.
 

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Rest in Peace, Shadey. I am so sorry for your loss, but is is heart warming to see how loved and cherished she was by you. It is so sad that your times together had to come to an end. We are all here for you, and can empathise with the pain of you losing your beautiful little goddess. 

much love, 
 
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Thank you all. I'm sorry, Things are going insane in my life. Divorce, my cousin's boyfriend took his own life yesterday. Today marks a month I've been without my girl.

I wish we could merge thses two threads.
 
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