He was the best cat I ever owned. its like a piece on my hart was ripped out. I used to sit on the steps of my laundry room and read the paper with him on my lap.I miss him a lot. I have a hostility for people now. I feel like the world is crap and everyone.EVERYONE is lower then dirt. When I think about my boy I miss him and want to cry bot I really can't. I want to get another Siamese or an Oriental Short hair female but when would it be the right time? can I ever get over my hate for people at large? I know that i'm kind of blowing steam off now. But it just hurts so much.
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Lost My Siamese Boy Last Month
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I'm so very sorry for your loss.
The feeling angry with everything is part of the grieving process - honestly, things will get better and there is always a place for your boy in your heart.
Farewell to a dear friend
The feeling angry with everything is part of the grieving process - honestly, things will get better and there is always a place for your boy in your heart.
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I am so very sorry for your loss.
It's true, what Mani said, anger is a part of grief. Grief is very personal but we do share it with you. Take comfort in knowing that your tears of loss will one day be accompanied by a smile when you remember your dear friend.
I can only agree with the others--grief makes all our emotions shockingly raw and magnified. It takes time but you will get through this. Post here any time you like if it helps--many of us understand what you are going through.
I'm so sorry.
I'm so sorry.
My sweet baby was killed by a careless driver, so I know very well the anger you are talking about. And then the anger and guilt comes at myself for ever letting her outside even though she loved it so much. Anger is a natural part of grieving, don't try to hold it in, accept it and try to find an acceptable outlet to vent it out, you'll progress through your grief stages until time helps you heal. There is a huge hole in your heart right now but try to reach out to people like on this site that will give you a support system and provide you with the understanding you need. We all know the terrible feelings you are having right now and want to give you what comfort we can. As for getting another little soul to help heal your heart, you'll know when the time is right, I'm happy you are willing to honor the memories you shared with your baby by giving love to another. Focusing your love and attention on another does help with the pain, but only you know if the time is right. I'll pray for you both, bless you for caring enough to hurt so bad. RIP beautiful Siamese Boy!
I'm so very sorry for your loss.
The feeling angry with everything is part of the grieving process - honestly, things will get better and there is always a place for your boy in your heart.
My condolences. The pain does lessen with time, but you need to leave yourself time to grieve. As to when the time is right to get another cat, that really is individual. We lost our boy a little over a year ago, and decided to wait four or five months before making plans to get another cat. A week later I went to the shelter to drop off some food and came home with our current cat, whom I dubbed our "grief counselor". Having him has really helped, and we haven't regretted not waiting longer.- Thread Starter Thread Starter
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Thank you all for the support .I'll get another cat but not till about Sept or so. I'd be happy just to get a Siamese or Oriental Shorthair that is as smart as my boy was . Does in matter to wait so long to get another cat and does in make you fell guilty to get one after about a few months of morning?
No, because I believe you honor your baby by sharing your love with another. Your Siamese Boy taught you what a wonderful bond you can develop, and he would be proud.It does help to get your mind off of your sadness too, I know it seems to hurt even more by feeling guilty about not feeling sad all the time, almost like it's a crime to feel happy. But I believe in my heart our babies would never want us to feel so sad, how would you want your baby to feel if you passed? Yes we mourn, that is only right, we lost something extremely important in our lives. But we have to have feelings of happiness again, there is no way in all of creation our babies would want us to feel so terrible for the rest of our lives when we think of them. They would want us to smile and be happy, knowing we shared a love that few get to experience. Let time temper teh anguish you feel, you'll know when the time is right to love another, and it's almost certain that little soul will choose you and the time, not the other way around! Take care and God bless!
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Thank you for your kind words. It still hurts.
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Love always hurts but when you get your new kitty the pain will turn to fond memories, there will still be bad days for a while but that is natural. We are all with you and share your pain.
I hope you find another perfect pal in Sept. I have other cats so when I lost my baby on Tuesday they lay with me and comforted me as I cry. Having another cat while you mourn is perfectly ok.
You sound like you have plenty of love to give.
I hope you find another perfect pal in Sept. I have other cats so when I lost my baby on Tuesday they lay with me and comforted me as I cry. Having another cat while you mourn is perfectly ok.
You sound like you have plenty of love to give.
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God I just wish I could not fell. It hurts so bad.
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I know honey, it really does especially when it is sudden like that.
We are here for you if you need to vent at any time.
I have gone out several times this week by my cats grave and just sobbed. It will lessen but the love never fades, eventually you will be able to think of your cat fondly but there will always be that spark of pain. If it becomes to much feel free to email me.
Sending many Hugs to you.
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Thanks. I asked in a thread where there are Siamese or Oriental Short Hair breeders here in Southern Calif. But no one answered .I feel like the world is against me here for some reason.
This is an international site, and the vast majority of the members have moggies (domestics), so chances are nobody here could make a recommendation.
There's no fixed time when you "should" get another cat. Some people wait months, while others bring in new cats in a matter of days or weeks.
There's no fixed time when you "should" get another cat. Some people wait months, while others bring in new cats in a matter of days or weeks.
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Call local vets also they should know some reputable breeders.
Please try other sites on the internet, and at your local shelters. Ours here has a few precious Oriental cats, of course it's impossible to say if they are purebreds or not. Please know that it's normal to be depressed and to think the world is against you, but I for one will cry for your loss and keep you in my thoughts. I know how much it hurts, and it does seem unending, but one day you will remember your sweet baby with smiles instead of tears, as he would never want you to be so sad. I would bet you can't find a new little one because the perfect one for you is not 'ready'. Believe me, you will be chosen for the next baby in your life at the right time, don't give up. I'll definitely try to accept some of your pain if I can by understanding and taking your pain on as my own. My own pain still comes crashing back at times, so intense it takes my breathe away. Bless you for loving so much, try to be gentle and patient with yourself, it takes a long time heal.
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Thank you
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Well I'm feeling a little better. I started to collect names and phone numbers of Siamese breeders since no one here wants to help me find a good breeders. How come I fell like an outcaste when I asked for simple help any get nothing.? Would someone please care to answer me that?
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I am glad you are feeling better.
I am sorry you are feeling excluded and ignored. Sometimes people are very wrapped up in their own lives that they seem to lack empathy.
Just know that the struggles you go through to find a new siamese will probably be rewarded 10 times over when you get your new baby. You will look back and tell your new kitty, it was very hard to find you but worth every minute.
I wish I knew some breeders where you are I would totally help you find one.
HUGS
