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Hi. My husband and I have been living together since August of 2012. We have 3 cats: Eli and TJ are brothers, Siamese mixes. Chris found them at a shelter when he lived in Maine when they were almost 2. Charlee is a female ... cat. I found her cowering in a puddle under a bush during a Florida thunderstorm when she was about 6 or 7 weeks old. I stuck a fluffy towel in a cat carrier and got her in there to dry, and it took 4 days for her to decide I wasn't going to eat her. By the time Chris and I moved in together, Eli and TJ were 4, and Charlee was 2. All three cats have been altered (spay/neuter only; neither of us believes in declawing).
We moved all 3 cats into the house at the same time, so there wouldn't be any previously staked territory to defend. They explored for the first few hours, and found their initial favorite spots. After a few days (maybe a week at most) Charlee started freaking out. Spitting, hissing, defecating, screaming ... and this was when nothing was going on. His boys handled it very patiently; she'd start in, and they'd look at her like she was just being childish, then they'd put their head down and go back to sleep. We tried everything we could think of to stop this behavior; from introducing a spray bottle of water to hissing at her anytime she started acting up to scruffing her and tossing her in a cat carrier for a "time out."
After a couple months of this, she got braver, and started attacking the boys. Understand that she is only half their size. TJ gave her one chance. She jumped on him; he started, snaked out from under her, and went about 2-3 feet away, then just sat and watched her. He looked like he was trying to decide whether she wanted to fight or play. The second time she jumped on him, he flipped her, sat on her back, batted her ears for a minute, and then walked away. He didn't use any claws, and no blood was drawn. She didn't go after him again. Eli put up with her jumping on him and taunting him and screaming at him for close to 5 or 6 months. Once he'd had enough, there was no turning back. She snuck up behind him and batted at his heels one night, and he turned around, swatted her 4 times, then turned back around and continued walking ... this took only 1 second, and he didn't miss a beat in his step. She was left sitting under the table, looking like she had no idea what had just happened. She then screamed, defecated on the floor, and ran behind the couch (he was a good 2 feet away by this time, and still moving away from her).
Since then, any time she'd back herself into a corner, Eli would walk towards her, as if he was just daring her to do something. She'd scream and defecate, then streak into another hiding spot. Eli would then wind around one of our legs to get our attention, then walk to where she'd just been, and start scratching the floor as if he were covering her pile. It looked very much like "OOOOO, look what SHE did!" It took us almost a month to realize he was antagonizing her like this.
We finally got tired of hearing her all night long, and put her outside. Since I originally found her, she seemed terrified of the outdoors, and we figured that we could safely put her on the screened-in porch, and let everyone reset before bringing her back in. We were trying desperately to find another way to introduce her without getting the same results. She started trying to dart out the porch door anytime we opened it, and we decided that this might be a good opportunity, so we put a halter and leash on her, and let her outside. She walked around the house, exploring every corner of the yard, and seemed to be in heaven. However, when she got close to the porch again, she refused to go in. When we picked her up and brought her onto the porch, she started one of her normal fits. After a couple of weeks, we gave up and let her outside.
It has been about 8 months since we let her go outside on her own, and she hasn't had a problem since. She stays in the yard, bounds around like a gazelle when you pull in the driveway, and runs to greet you after you've parked and turned the engine off (she doesn't seem to like the car, but that's not a bad thing). She'll walk you to the porch, and will come onto the porch if she needs food (that's where we keep the food so we don't inadvertently feed the neighborhood strays). She gets along with the neighborhood strays for the most part; there's only a couple of them that she doesn't like, and she'll scream at them anytime they start towards the yard. She attacks them if she catches them in the yard, but it only took 2 or 3 cat fights before they stopped coming through the yard. About 75% of the neighborhood cats are allowed in the yard, and Charlee will even play with them, but she still wants nothing to do with TJ or Eli unless they're on the opposite side of a barrier, be it a window or the screen door. This is fine for now; we have a "guard cat" in the yard, and two house cats in the house. When it's cool enough, Charlee stays in the yard, TJ and Eli go out onto the porch, and all three of them seem to get along.
Chris and I are going to be moving from Florida to Vermont in the next few months. We are going to try again to introduce all three cats to living together, and see if it works. If not, our only backup plan is for Charlee to live in the 3 car garage at the house we're buying (heated, of course). However, considering how much she seems to enjoy being outside, we'll have to come up with something more long-term. Chris' aunt lived in the house for awhile, and she had lots of cats, who came and went as they pleased, like Charlee does. She lost one to a vehicle, and the rest to nature .... foxes, coyotes, fishers, etc. I don't want to take a cat who is happiest outside and never allow her out again, but I don't want her to be eaten or freeze to death (I'm sure she won't realize just how cold the snow is). We will be strapped for cash for a little while, so an outdoor enclosure is out of the question until we get some cash together. Does anyone have any ideas that can help us get all three cats living together? They don't have to snuggle with each other and be best buddies, but we want them to at least agree to share space without freaking out.
We moved all 3 cats into the house at the same time, so there wouldn't be any previously staked territory to defend. They explored for the first few hours, and found their initial favorite spots. After a few days (maybe a week at most) Charlee started freaking out. Spitting, hissing, defecating, screaming ... and this was when nothing was going on. His boys handled it very patiently; she'd start in, and they'd look at her like she was just being childish, then they'd put their head down and go back to sleep. We tried everything we could think of to stop this behavior; from introducing a spray bottle of water to hissing at her anytime she started acting up to scruffing her and tossing her in a cat carrier for a "time out."
After a couple months of this, she got braver, and started attacking the boys. Understand that she is only half their size. TJ gave her one chance. She jumped on him; he started, snaked out from under her, and went about 2-3 feet away, then just sat and watched her. He looked like he was trying to decide whether she wanted to fight or play. The second time she jumped on him, he flipped her, sat on her back, batted her ears for a minute, and then walked away. He didn't use any claws, and no blood was drawn. She didn't go after him again. Eli put up with her jumping on him and taunting him and screaming at him for close to 5 or 6 months. Once he'd had enough, there was no turning back. She snuck up behind him and batted at his heels one night, and he turned around, swatted her 4 times, then turned back around and continued walking ... this took only 1 second, and he didn't miss a beat in his step. She was left sitting under the table, looking like she had no idea what had just happened. She then screamed, defecated on the floor, and ran behind the couch (he was a good 2 feet away by this time, and still moving away from her).
Since then, any time she'd back herself into a corner, Eli would walk towards her, as if he was just daring her to do something. She'd scream and defecate, then streak into another hiding spot. Eli would then wind around one of our legs to get our attention, then walk to where she'd just been, and start scratching the floor as if he were covering her pile. It looked very much like "OOOOO, look what SHE did!" It took us almost a month to realize he was antagonizing her like this.
We finally got tired of hearing her all night long, and put her outside. Since I originally found her, she seemed terrified of the outdoors, and we figured that we could safely put her on the screened-in porch, and let everyone reset before bringing her back in. We were trying desperately to find another way to introduce her without getting the same results. She started trying to dart out the porch door anytime we opened it, and we decided that this might be a good opportunity, so we put a halter and leash on her, and let her outside. She walked around the house, exploring every corner of the yard, and seemed to be in heaven. However, when she got close to the porch again, she refused to go in. When we picked her up and brought her onto the porch, she started one of her normal fits. After a couple of weeks, we gave up and let her outside.
It has been about 8 months since we let her go outside on her own, and she hasn't had a problem since. She stays in the yard, bounds around like a gazelle when you pull in the driveway, and runs to greet you after you've parked and turned the engine off (she doesn't seem to like the car, but that's not a bad thing). She'll walk you to the porch, and will come onto the porch if she needs food (that's where we keep the food so we don't inadvertently feed the neighborhood strays). She gets along with the neighborhood strays for the most part; there's only a couple of them that she doesn't like, and she'll scream at them anytime they start towards the yard. She attacks them if she catches them in the yard, but it only took 2 or 3 cat fights before they stopped coming through the yard. About 75% of the neighborhood cats are allowed in the yard, and Charlee will even play with them, but she still wants nothing to do with TJ or Eli unless they're on the opposite side of a barrier, be it a window or the screen door. This is fine for now; we have a "guard cat" in the yard, and two house cats in the house. When it's cool enough, Charlee stays in the yard, TJ and Eli go out onto the porch, and all three of them seem to get along.
Chris and I are going to be moving from Florida to Vermont in the next few months. We are going to try again to introduce all three cats to living together, and see if it works. If not, our only backup plan is for Charlee to live in the 3 car garage at the house we're buying (heated, of course). However, considering how much she seems to enjoy being outside, we'll have to come up with something more long-term. Chris' aunt lived in the house for awhile, and she had lots of cats, who came and went as they pleased, like Charlee does. She lost one to a vehicle, and the rest to nature .... foxes, coyotes, fishers, etc. I don't want to take a cat who is happiest outside and never allow her out again, but I don't want her to be eaten or freeze to death (I'm sure she won't realize just how cold the snow is). We will be strapped for cash for a little while, so an outdoor enclosure is out of the question until we get some cash together. Does anyone have any ideas that can help us get all three cats living together? They don't have to snuggle with each other and be best buddies, but we want them to at least agree to share space without freaking out.