My baby Woo has tumours in her tummy and the vet says it's incurable. I have had this cat since a kitten and has been.with me.for 10years now. To say she is more than a cat is an understatement, she is a soulmate (sounds ridiculous but she is!) never have I had a cat so intune and intouch with me. How can.I out down something I love with all my heart and gives me such joy. I've never felt pain and desperation like this.....I'm.heartbroken in.every sense and can't seem to find the strength to pick myself up. Woo is still with me however I'm suppose to be putting her to sleep on Monday......how do I even begin to go through with this.....how do I sit there and look her in the eye knowing what's about to happen? Please can someone help me get through this distressing time? I feel so alone and like no one understands. :'( x
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When is the right time.....and how to move on
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I feel your pain and understand completely what you are going through.our little kitty Otis is dying of FIP, currently he is declining right in front of us.
There's no pearl of wisdom I can offer you. Other than he knows love and care by his mum.
As it stands there is nothing more you can do and you cannot feel guilty about ending the pain.
as cat carer givers we do everything we possibly can for them, that includes preventing suffering.
Enjoy the time you have now talk to kitty, spoil him with foods and treats if he wants them, they know your love.
keep the courage for him, he doesn't understand why he's mommies upset stay strong for him.
on Monday you will have fear in your heart when you take him to the vets, it's a calm humane and simple process, so much less than watching suffering, afterwards you will be numb, relieved you did the right thing, and incredibly sad. when you come home it will feel like the home is empty as they won't be there, this is normal, cry if you need to cry, yell if you need to yell, you will grieve!
After a few days the pain will start to heal, the memories will stay strong, and the cats spirit will always be around.
you are doing the right thing, kitty knows and you need to stay strong.
big love and hugs for you right now xx
There's no pearl of wisdom I can offer you. Other than he knows love and care by his mum.
As it stands there is nothing more you can do and you cannot feel guilty about ending the pain.
as cat carer givers we do everything we possibly can for them, that includes preventing suffering.
Enjoy the time you have now talk to kitty, spoil him with foods and treats if he wants them, they know your love.
keep the courage for him, he doesn't understand why he's mommies upset stay strong for him.
on Monday you will have fear in your heart when you take him to the vets, it's a calm humane and simple process, so much less than watching suffering, afterwards you will be numb, relieved you did the right thing, and incredibly sad. when you come home it will feel like the home is empty as they won't be there, this is normal, cry if you need to cry, yell if you need to yell, you will grieve!
After a few days the pain will start to heal, the memories will stay strong, and the cats spirit will always be around.
you are doing the right thing, kitty knows and you need to stay strong.
big love and hugs for you right now xx
As for understanding, you are definitely in the right place now! The majority of us know all too well how traumatic and enormous the loss will be on your life.
Welcome, I'm so glad you found the site. I'm sorry for the circumstances though, but hopefully you will feel less alone, and maybe even enlightened a bit.
I want you to know first of all, that I have a cat Krissy, who I got the day she was born, who is about to turn 12 soon, and she is just as you described your kitty for me, I can't even imagine how I will ever get through losing her when her time comes, how I can get through that much pain, she saved me in a very dark time of my life, and we couldn't possibly be closer.
The pain is so hard losing any cat we own, and spend years of our life with, but then there are those who we have an exceptional bond with, a soulmate so to speak. So I do get it
I'm not the only one here who does either, you'll see.
For one, cancel Monday's appt. There is no way you can possibly do it that way, scheduled.....no way.
You will need to see how it goes, being careful not to allow her to suffer to avoid letting her go. This is important, you will be giving her your final thank you for all she has given you through the years. The love, comfort and companionship she has given to you will be repaid at this time when she truly needs it from you.
But it must be done the minute you look at her, see she is not good, is suffering, and call, tell them you are on your way. This can't be like making an appt, unthinkable to me.
What might help you get through this is try to look at it from your cat's point. Cat's don't fear death like we do. They don't think about how they will never see you again, or feel your warm hugs, or pretty face. They accept it, this is why a cat will suddenly go off to die, they find a quiet, secluded spot where they will go, and simply wait to die.
Somehow knowing they lack fear and don't think about missing us, etc helps me. They know when it's time, and don't fight it. When their lives become hurtful, they can't eat or drink right, feel weak, lose all interest in being social, they know it's time. They need us to know this as well. It is the only humane, unselfish thing we MUST do for them, not to prolong to avoid doing what we know must be done, but be strong, for them, for their final gift of love, for gratitude for all they have given to us.
You will be okay, eventually, life will not be the same, not for a long time, and you will feel a deep loss, a big heartache. The only thing is time and tears, endless tears, and taking it day by day.
I wish you strength to get you through this, for her. Hugs.
Welcome, I'm so glad you found the site. I'm sorry for the circumstances though, but hopefully you will feel less alone, and maybe even enlightened a bit.
I want you to know first of all, that I have a cat Krissy, who I got the day she was born, who is about to turn 12 soon, and she is just as you described your kitty for me, I can't even imagine how I will ever get through losing her when her time comes, how I can get through that much pain, she saved me in a very dark time of my life, and we couldn't possibly be closer.
The pain is so hard losing any cat we own, and spend years of our life with, but then there are those who we have an exceptional bond with, a soulmate so to speak. So I do get it
I'm not the only one here who does either, you'll see.
For one, cancel Monday's appt. There is no way you can possibly do it that way, scheduled.....no way.
You will need to see how it goes, being careful not to allow her to suffer to avoid letting her go. This is important, you will be giving her your final thank you for all she has given you through the years. The love, comfort and companionship she has given to you will be repaid at this time when she truly needs it from you.
But it must be done the minute you look at her, see she is not good, is suffering, and call, tell them you are on your way. This can't be like making an appt, unthinkable to me.
What might help you get through this is try to look at it from your cat's point. Cat's don't fear death like we do. They don't think about how they will never see you again, or feel your warm hugs, or pretty face. They accept it, this is why a cat will suddenly go off to die, they find a quiet, secluded spot where they will go, and simply wait to die.
Somehow knowing they lack fear and don't think about missing us, etc helps me. They know when it's time, and don't fight it. When their lives become hurtful, they can't eat or drink right, feel weak, lose all interest in being social, they know it's time. They need us to know this as well. It is the only humane, unselfish thing we MUST do for them, not to prolong to avoid doing what we know must be done, but be strong, for them, for their final gift of love, for gratitude for all they have given to us.
You will be okay, eventually, life will not be the same, not for a long time, and you will feel a deep loss, a big heartache. The only thing is time and tears, endless tears, and taking it day by day.
I wish you strength to get you through this, for her. Hugs.
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Thank you for your replies it means so much to know there is support out there. I'm.truly in bits.....my app is just penciled in I am.taking it day by day.....however she is so thin 2.3 kilos to be precise, and barely eats in the evening she looks like she could give up....however in the mornings she is perky and comes running to me etc etc. The vet has said it is kinda to put her to sleep and I know this but the pain and grief I already have is overwhelming. My little woo is truly a soulmate who when she has to leave me will take a piece of me with her. I'm so worried she will be frightened and scared when I have to take her. She has a sister that I'm.also worried about however our bond isn't as great and me n Lil woo. I'm aching with sadness 
thank.you so much for ur responses xxx
thank.you so much for ur responses xxx
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Letting our beloved, dear cat go when his or her time is near, is heartbreaking. The kind words on this thread must comfort you greatly. The words bring back to me the pain of many generations of my beloved cats. It is never easy. But for our cats, it is a serene and personal time for you and your pet. OUr pets depend on us to save them from suffering and there comes a time when it is time to let them rest. Your kitty will look at you and you will know when the time is right. It is painless for your kitty. The vet first gives her/him a shot to put them to sleep peacefully and then another shot that will stop their heart. It truly is painless.......but your heart will ache.........mine aches for each one of my cats. Your heart will be big enough to love another kitty........eventually. Peace be with you and your kitty.
I'm so sorry. My prayers will be with you and your girl.
I'm so sorry you're going through this heartbreaking experience. It's one of the most difficult things you'll ever have to do, but it's done out of love, to give her the most peaceful passing you possibly can, feeling embraced by the love you have for her. That emotion doesn't perish with her. She'll no longer be physically present, but she'll always be a part of your life. The pain lessens in time, to be replaced by acceptance and gratitude for the time you did get to share your life with her.
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I,m so very sorry you have to go through this, we know the agony and the heartache you are going through. It helps to talk with people who understand what you are going through, it never takes away but it helps to lighten the burden. The only thing you can cling to is that she is loved enough by you to not have to unduly suffer. You shared her love for 10 wonderful years and the memories you have made will never be lost from your heart. There is truly nothing that can be said to ease your heartache, just know that you are in our thoughts and prayers, please give her a kiss from me and tell her how much you love her.
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