Let the Discussion Begin

Deb and 3LK.....your stories were so funny! I needed a good laugh after work!! :laughing:
Deb....if the guy who made all those comments to you in the checkout lane, had said them to me....If he was young, and goodlooking...I would have been flattered....but suspecting he was on drugs..and if he was not at all handsome, I would have been irritated. Just my take.

Women complain about a guy who has no social graces and is a bit "wierd". They always fall for the guy who is smooth and confident. How do you think he got that way? As soon as you turn your back he's giving the same smooth rap to another girl. You should be flattered. It probably took alot of guts for this guy to tell you that. Yes, guys even like "average" women. Sounds like a case of "I wouldn't be with the type of guy who finds me attractive" syndrome.

A guys point of view.

nc

NiteC......oooooooo are you gonna get it for that one!!!!! KIDDING

Seriously tho...women are confusing creatures to us poor guys. Sometimes it's like we're gonna be wrong no matter what,so we just avoid all the work and sit there expecting to get hollered at.

Maybe this guy had just had some good news just before you came along and was just feeling that the world was a great place. A few weeks back I saw a young trucker who was miles from home. He called for news of his expecting wife and was told that he was a new dad. This guy was literally hugging everyone he was so damn happy and relieved. Of course one old sourpuss had to make a fuss but the waitress put her in her place smartly.

So in the case in question..or similar ones a simple smile and "thanks" would have been appropriate. Then leave. Not everyone in the world is a freak. Most are just average people. Touchy-feely is of course another matter.

Hey KF and NiteC, thanks for the male viewpoint. I think one of the problems is that we humans, or at least we women, don't know how to take a compliment. We get so used to criticism that we feel awkward when we do hear how great we are, even from friends.

I think women tend to give less direct compliments, especially in convenience stores. If we say anything extreme, it's usually to our friends, although possibly loud enough for the man to hear. :tounge2:

Believe me,I appreciate how wary women have to be these days. It's a damn shame. But we can all get overcautious at times too. The first time I ran to NYC I was nervous as all get out. Surprise,I met some real nice people there. I met some very dangerous ones too but I seem to get along with them pretty well. Only had one serious armed confrontation with an attempted mugger...he lost.

I have seen many bad places and many good ones and met people in both kinds that I consider friends.

But I tend to consider people as friendly until they prove otherwise. I guess that's a Canadian trait. Everywhere we go we're the Nice,Polite folks.

I invite you folks to view my little attempt at poetry in the Paws and Reflect forum titled a Trucker's Lament for a little glimpse of ol KF's mind.

Ooooooo, nc, Kittyfoot is soooo right!

I'm glad to hear the male point of view. But I still think it's a little bold for an opening remark. Smooth doesn't impress me. Sincerity does. Even first a "Hi. How are you doing?" and maybe dropping a pretty comment at the end (You have nice hair, or You are very pretty) would have set me less on edge about the incident. But the way it went down, I immediately smiled and said "Thank you." Then he went on and on. That was what really got me.

A case of "wouldn't go for someone who thinks I'm attractive"? How thin is the air out there in Colorado? What woman does not want to feel attractive, especially to somebody she is potentially interested in?

Maybe those of us who aren't putting in 2 hours a day on hair, make-up, and outfit simply don't usually attract that type of compliment. It caught me off-guard, that's all.

I have now been sufficiently put in my place. Thanks guys. I'll shut up now.

Gee Deb...you have such pretty hair!!!!!!!

(This is no longer "cringe" guy. This is now "I said I was shutting up" guy).



--->(whispering) For the record, the hair in the recently retired avatar was "done" as I was in a wedding that day.

Funny, when I read your post Deb, my first thought was a 2 parter
1. Deb is a very naturally attractive woman, why not tell her?
and
2. maybe the guy was just in a good mood and wanted to spread it around?

I wouldve been a bit uncomfortable too, but it seems harmless enough, so just say "thanks", toss your windblown hair back, and strut outta there grinning! (oh, and theres a small smudge on your Ray-Bans!)

(joke, it was a joke!)

Cleo

No offense taken. BTW, they're Oakleys. Maybe that was what he was most attracted to because his actual words were "Your Oakleys are beautiful".

I was not rude to the guy. I did feel on the spot, though.

Only one way to find out: back to the quickie mart!

:laughing2: :laughing2: I almost said Oakleys, but was afraid you'd make some crack about a teachers salary! :laughing2: :laughing2:

Next time I'll go with my first instinct!

I lose sunglasses so fast, I just buy 'em in bulk at the Dollar store!

Cleo

Hi Deb!
i think i woyld feek aflattered but in the same time embarrassed. Next time you two meet try to make loght of it like saying something like "Who Me'

Cleo:

They are my one and only pair. They have been sent back to Oakley so many times to be repaired that I have lost count. I originally invested because as a contact lens wearer, my eye doctor always cautioned me to wear good sunglasses, as my eyes are sensitive to light. It became even more important after I had Lasik last year. Now I can't even venture outside without them.