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Hi! This seems like a great forum! This could be long, but I'll try to be as brief as possible. I am a foster home for cats (I take care of cats caught by local organization that works with trapping/spaying/rehabilitating feral and abandoned cats and house them until they can find proper homes). Usually I take in cats that are already domesticated, but am currently fostering two cats - one domesticated (Maja) and one feral (Mandu). I live in a rather small country and it has been hard to get information that's a little more specific than the general, generic information about ferals that can be found online. I don't have a specific problem, but I feel like I have FINALLY found a place to air my thoughts, and it would be great if any of you had some tips/ideas about how to proceed.
The feral cat has been in our home in two different periods - first he was with us for about two months, and then he was moved to a different place over christmas since I had to be out of the country. Now he has come back to our apartment and has been here for about two weeks. During the first period with us he basically hid the entire time - he would come out briefly during the evenings, and eventually started coming out in the mornings to eat after I fed them and while we were having breakfast. I can add that his "lair" is the living room (we have a fairly small apartment) so whenever we're home we're usually in the room he's in (although he was shy, he never seemed panicky or super scared). I have heard he was much the same way in his temporary home over christmas.
During his first period with us, just catching a glimpse of Mandu coming out of his hiding spot in the cat tree seemed like a breakthrough. However, since his time away things have changed. Now he spends a lot, if not the majority, of his time hanging out on the living room floor or in one of the armchairs in the living room while we sit on the sofa or lay on the carpet in front of our feet. If he is in his little lair he usually has his head poking out so that he can watch what's going on. He will sometimes come up and sniff our feet or hands when he thinks we're not looking, and has even started following me around (warily, and from a distance) in the morning while I prepare their food.
This of course feels great, and it almost seems like he's happy to be back here! He is a curious cat, and seems to be learning how to trust us. However, I'm not really sure how to proceed.
I am playing with him whenever I can get him to, but he's a pretty lazy cat and prefers to lie on his back and swat a little or sit on a chair and do everything in his power to reach a toy while moving as little as possible. Maybe this is because he is a little overweight (he was when he came to us), but I'm also pretty sure he just didn't really know how to play. Maja had to "teach" him how to play-chase her, and he approaches new toys by yawning widely, looking at them from the corner of his eye, and then plopping down on top of them (you would think he was just tired, but he does this literally every time there is a new toy - after he's been laying on it for a while he will sniff and poke it). It is hard to get him to come closer since he doesn't move around much while he's playing.
How do I move towards petting? I am trying to place my hands (flat, fingers curled) near Mandu so that he can come up and sniff them if he wants. Occasionally, while he's relaxing somewhere in an open space, we have extended our hands to him and he'll take a few whiffs. I have also stroked him with a feather tipped rod (his favorite toy), and he'll just lie there with his eyes closed and seems to enjoy it until there's a noise or something and he's on his guard again (he won't run away though). If he has never been inside and experienced petting as something positive, will he ever come up and rub up against us, or come closer and somehow indicate that "its time"? Although he is sometimes curious, he also often seems disinterested - and why should he really be interested if close contact with humans is not something he knows? I have to say, although it's wonderful to read accounts of ferals becoming pets on here, and ferals rubbing up against their owners and becoming little love bugs, it's a little intimidating, and makes me wonder if maybe I'm not doing enough or progressing too slowly.
Also, I am a little concerned over the feeding aspect (the whole establishing positive associations with food thing). I feed them in the mornings, but I am a student and study full time, so I don't have time to sit with him while he is eating for example. Secondly, although I try to bribe him sometimes with treats, the other cat, Maja, will do ANYTHING to snap up a morsel of food. This makes it hard to just put out treats and patiently wait for him to come to me - Maja will zoom by and steal the treats first (even from right in front of his nose!). She'll even pretend to be asleep and then dart up as soon as I look away for a second. If I lock her out of the room she will scratch at the door and meow, which seems to distress Mandu. How important is feeding/bribing with treats at this stage?
Sorry if this is a long and rambling post - it just feels great to be able to vent a little to people that have similar experiences and know what it's like
The feral cat has been in our home in two different periods - first he was with us for about two months, and then he was moved to a different place over christmas since I had to be out of the country. Now he has come back to our apartment and has been here for about two weeks. During the first period with us he basically hid the entire time - he would come out briefly during the evenings, and eventually started coming out in the mornings to eat after I fed them and while we were having breakfast. I can add that his "lair" is the living room (we have a fairly small apartment) so whenever we're home we're usually in the room he's in (although he was shy, he never seemed panicky or super scared). I have heard he was much the same way in his temporary home over christmas.
During his first period with us, just catching a glimpse of Mandu coming out of his hiding spot in the cat tree seemed like a breakthrough. However, since his time away things have changed. Now he spends a lot, if not the majority, of his time hanging out on the living room floor or in one of the armchairs in the living room while we sit on the sofa or lay on the carpet in front of our feet. If he is in his little lair he usually has his head poking out so that he can watch what's going on. He will sometimes come up and sniff our feet or hands when he thinks we're not looking, and has even started following me around (warily, and from a distance) in the morning while I prepare their food.
This of course feels great, and it almost seems like he's happy to be back here! He is a curious cat, and seems to be learning how to trust us. However, I'm not really sure how to proceed.
I am playing with him whenever I can get him to, but he's a pretty lazy cat and prefers to lie on his back and swat a little or sit on a chair and do everything in his power to reach a toy while moving as little as possible. Maybe this is because he is a little overweight (he was when he came to us), but I'm also pretty sure he just didn't really know how to play. Maja had to "teach" him how to play-chase her, and he approaches new toys by yawning widely, looking at them from the corner of his eye, and then plopping down on top of them (you would think he was just tired, but he does this literally every time there is a new toy - after he's been laying on it for a while he will sniff and poke it). It is hard to get him to come closer since he doesn't move around much while he's playing.
How do I move towards petting? I am trying to place my hands (flat, fingers curled) near Mandu so that he can come up and sniff them if he wants. Occasionally, while he's relaxing somewhere in an open space, we have extended our hands to him and he'll take a few whiffs. I have also stroked him with a feather tipped rod (his favorite toy), and he'll just lie there with his eyes closed and seems to enjoy it until there's a noise or something and he's on his guard again (he won't run away though). If he has never been inside and experienced petting as something positive, will he ever come up and rub up against us, or come closer and somehow indicate that "its time"? Although he is sometimes curious, he also often seems disinterested - and why should he really be interested if close contact with humans is not something he knows? I have to say, although it's wonderful to read accounts of ferals becoming pets on here, and ferals rubbing up against their owners and becoming little love bugs, it's a little intimidating, and makes me wonder if maybe I'm not doing enough or progressing too slowly.
Also, I am a little concerned over the feeding aspect (the whole establishing positive associations with food thing). I feed them in the mornings, but I am a student and study full time, so I don't have time to sit with him while he is eating for example. Secondly, although I try to bribe him sometimes with treats, the other cat, Maja, will do ANYTHING to snap up a morsel of food. This makes it hard to just put out treats and patiently wait for him to come to me - Maja will zoom by and steal the treats first (even from right in front of his nose!). She'll even pretend to be asleep and then dart up as soon as I look away for a second. If I lock her out of the room she will scratch at the door and meow, which seems to distress Mandu. How important is feeding/bribing with treats at this stage?
Sorry if this is a long and rambling post - it just feels great to be able to vent a little to people that have similar experiences and know what it's like