Should I have kept their ashes??

I had my two cats euthanized yesterday.  I now wonder if I should of kept their ashes.  At the time my mom and I discussed it and I thought okay if they are gone , I need their memories not their ashes.  Now I wonder.

Im sorry for your loss

I've lost pets over the years and never saved their ashes. I did keep their collars or their favorite toys in memory of them.

I am so sorry about your cats.

Keeping cremains is a personal thing. Not everybody wants to keep the ashes. 

We do. After the cremation, we always go back and get the ashes and bring them home. We have the ashes from all of our pets.

We've often discussed what to do with them. When I die, I would like to be cremated. And I would like my ashes mixed in with some of our pets' ashes and simply sprinkled in the yard. This is my home and it was my pets' home and it's the only home they've ever known. Rick feels the same way.

But it's a deeply personal opinion and if you didn't want to keep their ashes, it's your choice.

It's a highly personal situation.  When my boy died Aug. 16th, 2012,  i kept his ashes, and when my other boy, Joey, died in Sept. 2012, i kept his ashes as well. It helps me stay connected.  Either way, its your decision. Don't regret. 

Maybe you should have we didn't keep our first two cats ashes and wish we had.  We do have our last two cats ashes and plan two have them scattered with ours when were no longer here. Its all personal choice.     Sorry for your loss.

I am so, so sorry. Losing 2 cats at once...I cannot imagine the pain you must be feeling.

As others have said, keeping the ashes/body is very personal. I don't think anyone can answer that for you, not even those closest to you.

I have each of my cats ashes in a photo urn. It is a small wooden rectangle box with a plastic sleeve to put a photo in. I put them all on my nightstand in my bedroom. It is a personal decision for everyone. If you are not sure hold on to them and decide later when the hurt is a little less. Sorry for your loss

Thank you everyone.  I called the vet and they had already sent them out for the group cremation.  I was sad, so sad.

I'm sorry for your loss.  They were beautiful cats.  

I'm so very sorry for your double loss, I can't even imagine....... It's natural to second guess ourselves while we are grieving, there are always a lot of what ifs and I should haves. I kick myself for not keeping some of my Chrissy's fur. Don't beat yourself up over it, you could even get some tiny 'cat boxes' to hold any hairs you find, or any mementos. I have a little glass cat figurine that opens up to hold things and it gives me comfort to know at least a tiny part of her is still with me, (hairs I found). A framed picture helps too, although I couldn't hardly look at it for a long time. My husband had one made with the 'Rainbow Bridge' poem in it, and now I treasure it. Once again, please accept my condolences and let us share your pain, bless you for caring so much.

Always remember, as long as you keep them alive with the memories their still with you 

 

When do you stop crying all of the sudden?

Eventually, they will stay with you always. I lost my cat Bob in November and sometimes I still hear his meow. Stay strong you've been through so much.

I am so very sorry for your loss, lots of hugs to you. They were beautiful kitties. It's hard enough losing one, but two, I can't imagine. You'll probably always have the tears, but hopefully, in time, the tears will be accompanied by a smile as you remember them. 

I am so sorry for your loss, I can't imagine losing two at the same time but they are together and that would give me some peace. My thoughts and prayers go out to you during this difficult time. Everyone is different but I still will break down and cry when I think of my fur babies that have passed.

I lost my heart kitty, Razzle, in 2012. I had him cremated and kept his ashes in a picture box and put love you, love you always on it. I don't know if this helped me or not.. At the time it seemed right. It just doesn't seen the same as having him with me. I look at the box, his ashes, his fur. I don't feel anything special for having done it. Like i'd be closer to him and be special.. It's just ashes and fur. It's not him alive. I'd rather have him here with me alive. Sometimes I feel if I hadn't done it I would feel guilty but having done it, it  just doesn't seen the same as when he was alive.

I guess it's the memories that are more important than the ashes. I think what happens to his ashes when I'm gone. I'd like his ashes to be with mine when the time comes, but then I think will my kids honor my whishes or just  throw them out like he didn't matter. He really only mattered to me not my kids. 

Kathy

My heart is breaking every moment I see their pictures.  I remember the kisses my boy Buddy would give me.   His beautiful big blue eyes looking at me so deeply.  He would butt heads with me all the time and I would say buddy give mommy a kiss and he would kiss me.  He loved me more than I could ever love him.  He would fight with my son to sit next to me.  He would lick my arms as long as I could stand it.  He would lay in my arms at night to sleep and stay there all night.  He was always there for me.  My girl Sheila was so sweet, always next to me, she would sit next to me as I sat at my computer, next to me as I watched TV, always waiting for me and go upstairs and downstairs always next to me.  She never left me.  She talked to me everyday.  She would even whisper meows to me if it was quiet time.  So so sweet, I loved her so.  They both meow to me hello, always meowing to me everyday.  Now the house is quiet... so silent.  I miss them so much. I have clips of their furs that I keep in my coat pocket to be close to my heart always.   I talk to them everyday that I am in the car driving to work in the morning and at night.  Hopefully they can hear me.  At least they are together and hopefully I will see them someday. 

I'm sorry for your loss. I lost my Daisy last year and not a day goes by that I don't tear up over her. I still think of her every day and I look at her pictures daily. I do think they can hear you. We still often say Daisys name and talk to her.Prayers for you and your babies...

In the emotion of the moment, having a beloved one put down, only once have I said no, I don't want the ashes. That was my Sunny girl, two years ago now, the last one I had to have euthanized.  Like you, Buddy5000, I felt terrible guilt and regret, but only for the first week or so, when the grief and self-flagellation is so intense. I've got ashes of others that went before her. My memories of those sweet kitties are no more important or vivid for having their ashes, than those memories I have of Sunny. For me, what's been more important than having ashes or a body to bury, are photos. It's usually a year or more before the pain of their loss has tempered enough to allow me to look at their photo without instant tears. My heart goes out to you.