I'm fed up with my cat?

meowitsathena said:

The thing is, I don't want to have to go after her and buy 300 $ worth of products just because she's got an issue, isn't there a way to just get her not to crap on my bathroom carpet, it really wasn't lovely stepping in it

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I am sure that wasn't pleasant!

Is the carpet a small rug that can be washed or is the bathroom wall to wall? Any way to keep door closed and keep her out of that room?

Strange as it sounds , your kitty might just understand that the bathroom is where you know , poop happens. As odd as it sounds, she may be trying to bond with you by pooping closer to where you poop. Now, that may not sound like much comfort, but if so, she is wanting to please.

She may be also picking up on your frustration and may not have a clue she's annoying you. She may be frowning not at you , but at your frown. Cats read faces just like people do.

If this was my cat I would shiw lots of love around the litter box , showering affection when she's in it. Lots of. "Good girl!" and treats.

Then I would scrub the toilet down like crazy, not just the carpet. I mean clean the outside too.

Everybody says keep litter box away from food and bed but when I got my cat I kept it all in the same room, and my cat was fine with it. More than fine.

Lastly, you deserve some sleep too! I love the idea if using a laundry basket for mama n babies. Or a big box or something.
That's so sweet you took her in. But you need to set healthy boundaries too. I think if you can get some sleep, things will make more sense. She's not giving you the evel eye; she's a new mama is all...and trying to figure things out, too. She sounds like a darn smart cat!!

Also worth noting that while we consider urine to be dirty—and a human who went around the house peeing everywhere could legitimately be called dirty—when a cat, especially a stray cat who isn't spayed or neutered, pees/sprays all over a house, that's not them being unclean. That's them doing their primordial marking of territory. 

Di and Bob said:

Is it a rug that you can throw in the washer? That would clean it better then spot cleaning. If it's wall to wall, at least it won't be too expensive to replace, you could buy a remnant. Walmart or any big store has enzyme cleaners for 5.00 - 10.00 a bottle, sometimes 3.99! I would bet she is going there because she smells urine there, which you are going to have no matter how careful you (mostly men) are if you have carpet in your bathroom. We have remodeled many houses that reeked of urine in front of the toilet. First of all I would DEFINITELY change the litter and the box you have it in, maybe try even sand, there MUST be something she doesn't like about the litter or the box.She may calm down after a little time passes, I've had cats do that when they are upset with something and she may be just stressed out after having the kittens. If at all possible put her in a room by herself (and of course her kittens) and a litterbox to see if she'll start using it. There IS a reason, cats are not spiteful and do not do things like this on purpose. Bless you for trying, good luck!

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Yes I can wash it, but the point is for her not to pee on it. I don't want to have to wash it daily because she thinks its a bathroom for her. I tolerate that she pees in the bath because I cannot stop that. I've tried almost everything, her litter is always clean, I'm pretty sure shes fine as she walks around the house rubbing against our legs and sleeping with us. As she's not as social as my other cat (who I have had since she was a little baby) she ignores us a lot. I've taken her in because its almost winter and she would have probably died of starvation, leading to her kittens dying aswell. I love this cat but I'm not prepared to spend hundreds of dollars on the cat you know?

For those wondering, these are her kittens

Perhaps keep the rug put away until the issue is resolved? I think the suggestions above are really great, to give her and her kittens some space to feel is their own, so she's not so worried as a new mother.

I'm sorry if I sound harsh. My intention is to help you, help your momma cat, so both of ya'll can be happy.

Her litter may be always clean but how many boxes do you have? I'm not sure if you have answered it already. Some households can do just one box for how many cats they have but from my own personal experience - it's usually a lot more stinkier.

Enzyme cleaning products do not cost 300 dollars, luckily. My friends have had good results with Anti-Icky Poo. Fizzion is my cleaner of choice. And really, having an Enzyme cleaner is almost a necessity if you have cats, none of it will actually go to waste.

I am very glad you have saved this cat. Don't get me wrong, I really am glad. However, I have to point out that 1) You can not force her to become friendly immediately just because you saved her. She was a stray, she may have had human contact but you really do not know what her background was. Having a rescue cat means you're going to deal with a mysterious background - which can go either way. I know Lox was not the most friendly cat but after a year she has opened up tremendously. It was definitely frustrating for me, since I was a dog person back then. Being a two year old rescue cat, I needed to work with Lox on her own terms. 2) Cats are an investment. Especially pregnant/nursing mothers. There is no way around that. When you take in a cat, whether it be a kitten, a stray, or a feral you decide to keep, there is a level of commitment that needs to be understood. When you took her in, I'm sure you had good intentions, bu did you consider that there may have been a chance having to spend a lot of money even if she didn't have urination problems? What if she needed a C-Section? Of course, she didn't need one - my point is that when taking a cat in, it is a huge commitment. Commitment is also not just about money, but also being patient and putting the time.

Have you seen Jackson Galaxy's My Cat From Hell? It's a show where an animal behaviorist goes to peoples' households that have "hellish" cat(s). Usually it's not really the cats that are hellish but the owners that misunderstand their cats. Usually for the most part - the owners of these so-called hellish cats were just not educated enough. Now, the reason I bring this up is because from what I have read, it seems that you have an expectation that momma cat will just "stop" her urination behavior. I hate to say, that's not going to happen. I'm glad you took her to the vet - at least it seems it's not anything medical related. A lot of the responses you got are very on-point, and very do-able in my opinion as long as you put the effort. I'm sorry if I may be misunderstood. 

Now, breathe. Relax. I have high hopes that if you do take the advice that is given and keep us updated, and keep asking questions if things don't go as planned it will still end up being okay. We are here to help you.

With her kittens at that age, she may be in heat again and is trying to attract males. Be sure to keep her inside until she's spayed or you'll be doing this all over again! You can't really know if this is part of her personality until after she's spayed, because hormones make cats do really weird things.

The usual litterbox advice is more litterboxes, more scooping, try different litters.

I gave up on bathroom rugs years ago :lol3: I don't know if it's the rubber backing or what, but cats sure seem to like them :/.

It's not "a slap in the face" to you or anyone else. Cats do cat things and this doesn't always go with what humans like. It's annoying, yes, but it's definitely not a personal insult.