A Plea for Kindness

I came to this site because I thought it would be seen by a lot more people......I would like to ask as many people as possible to please spend a few minutes in the Crossing the Bridge section. Even if you just post "I'm sorry" it means the world for the poor people who are looking for comfort. I've noticed lately that some threads only have one or two replies, and it makes me very sad. I know you actually know some of the people on there, and there are lots of replies and comfort given to them, but you don't have to know the person to imagine what they are going through. I know it's uncomfortable, but PLEASE give these poor lost souls some comfort. Some people lose their babies to accidents and I hate to say it but these are the ones you reply to the least. They are suffering just as much, if not more. It's the Christmas season, lets show some compassion now and all year long. Thank you all, and have a safe and happy Christmas!

That's an excellent point.

I don't go looking for threads in a specific area, I just see at the bottom of the pages the most recent activity is all.

I will surely make it a point to check there. Thanks!!

I know it's hard for some people to visit the Crossing the Bridge forum, and sometimes even the Cat Health forum, because of all the sadness and heartache. But I know if it were me, and I needed support, I would hope that people would respond.

Thanks for taking the time to remind us to "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you." 

I know how it feels to not get a response to a thread about an animal passing. I didn't get any on another forum about my Triona mouse.

I will certainly stop by that section.

You are right.  I stay away from the Bridge because of the sadness it causes me.  But what about the people who are grieving over their pets?  From now on, I will check the Bridge section.  Thank you for compassionate post; it has opened my eyes. 

Thanks, Di. I'm guilty, too.

I generally do read the posts there. Right now, I have steered clear as we lost our 14 year old cat on the 15th of November. It is all still too fresh for me to read much there.
But I have been a member here through the loss of two other old cats of 12 years and 14 years. I do know how much it has helped me over the years to have the concern and support. I will try to do better posting there when I get emotionally so I can. Right now, I am just trying to do what I can to enjoy the holiday and do whatever it takes to make sure I do.

I know I don't post there as much as I should and I know when the time comes it would bother me if there are only one or two posts.  I try to go there once or twice a week.  If I notice one is well down on the list with 2 or 3 posts I will read it and post.  I know I should do better.

There has been a few that I answered, because they touched my heart but I am not good about replying either as I've never lost a pet to illness and, well, am not sure what to say a lot of time.  But, I know I am capable of offering support.  Will try to remember to have a look more than I have been.

Thanks to all of you! Just knowing my thread received this much attention has warmed my heart! I know it may bring up a lot of sadness to visit the site, but think of how YOU felt when you lost your baby, and how much that site surrounded you with understanding and comfort. I lost my Chrissy right before Christmas and so I know how it can affect the Holiday season, not just then but those that follow too. I still don't know how I kept my sanity. (some may say I didn't!)  These poor people are supposed to be celebrating a happy time of the year, and instead are suffering terribly, any comfort we can give them will be appreciated twofold. Once again, thanks to all of you!

This is an excellent reminder that some day all of us will be in the same position as those now posting in Crossing the Bridge. When that time comes, we'll surely appreciate some acknowledgment of the love and pain we'll try to express. Nobody likes to be reminded of mortality, and it's very hard to find the right words to console bereaved pet parents, but it really is the thought that counts. Speaking from my experience after losing Jamie, every little bit of emotional support helps.

Thank you for bringing up this topic. I admit sometimes it's hard for me to visit that forum partly because one of my babies passed away in September but I will make an effort to be more mindful