How do I go on?

jessbrooke · Dec 12, 2013

I'm so sad my 8 month old kitten passed away two days ago. I feel like every day I cry and last night I couldn't even sleep very well because of the pain. I feel like everyone in my family is dealing with this and moving on like it was whatever, but this has effected me more than any loss I've had in my life. This wasn't easy for me and I feel like people are rushing me to move on and getting annoyed with me. I don't have the support of my family to cope like I'd like to. I know my baby is in a better place now, healthy and happy but it's hard when you don't know what he died from. I'm thankful for the time I spent with him because he was a special cat and he taught me the true meaning of what it is to love an animal.

jmljml19 · Dec 12, 2013

I'm extremely sorry for the loss of your furbaby. a lot of people just don't understand that they're a member of the family and it takes time to move on from such a tragedy. so go ahead and take your time mourning, there's no rush here. just keep in mind all the fun and happy memories you had with him and that'll help you overcome the sadness of his departure. again, very sorry for your loss

di and bob · Dec 13, 2013

I'm so glad you came to this site, we ALL know how painful it is to lose our furbabies and can offer what comfort we can. Please feel free to post your tribute to your kitten and keep us posted in how you are doing. Right now, all you can do is to try to occupy your mind with something else. I don't know how anyone can 'get over' a loved ones death in 2 days, try to stay away from people who can't support you. I'm so sorry you have to go through this loss, especially with your kitten being so young, it's tragic. It takes a long time to heal a broken heart, to get to that place where you can remember with smiles instead of tears. Keep him in your heart and remember he would NOT want you to be so sad. He'll wait for you at the Rainbow Bridge and you'll have a beautiful reunion. RIP little one!

jessbrooke · Dec 13, 2013

Di and Bob said:
I'm so glad you came to this site, we ALL know how painful it is to lose our furbabies and can offer what comfort we can. Please feel free to post your tribute to your kitten and keep us posted in how you are doing. Right now, all you can do is to try to occupy your mind with something else. I don't know how anyone can 'get over' a loved ones death in 2 days, try to stay away from people who can't support you. I'm so sorry you have to go through this loss, especially with your kitten being so young, it's tragic. It takes a long time to heal a broken heart, to get to that place where you can remember with smiles instead of tears. Keep him in your heart and remember he would NOT want you to be so sad. He'll wait for you at the Rainbow Bridge and you'll have a beautiful reunion. RIP little one!

jmljml19 said:
I'm extremely sorry for the loss of your furbaby. a lot of people just don't understand that they're a member of the family and it takes time to move on from such a tragedy. so go ahead and take your time mourning, there's no rush here. just keep in mind all the fun and happy memories you had with him and that'll help you overcome the sadness of his departure. again, very sorry for your loss

Thank you both

it is difficult and I feel alone through it so this site has really helped me feel a lot better. I know he does not want me to be sad, and one day we will meet again and I have to believe in that. He was gone too soon. I had a baby cat who was a couple days old die on me this year as well and when this happened, I didn't know how to handle it. But thank you for the support, it means so much.

jcat · Dec 13, 2013

Many people here have been through the loss of a beloved pet, and each has had to grieve at their own pace. It gets easier with time, but your family and friends have to give you some space and try to understand how much he meant to you. I'm very sorry for your loss. Nobody expects to lose such a young cat; you think you'll have years and years together and that makes it so much harder.

jessbrooke · Dec 13, 2013

jcat said:
Many people here have been through the loss of a beloved pet, and each has had to grieve at their own pace. It gets easier with time, but your family and friends have to give you some space and try to understand how much he meant to you. I'm very sorry for your loss. Nobody expects to lose such a young cat; you think you'll have years and years together and that makes it so much harder.

I know

I expected it coming though, I knew he wasn't going to live long and then I woke up one morning and found that he had passed and I tried to mentally prepare myself before hand, but it was still a shock and more sudden then I expected. It's always painful no matter what.

natalie_ca · Dec 13, 2013

I'm sorry for your loss

It's always hard to lose someone you love, regardless of whether it is a person or an animal. But it does get easier in time.

You'll never forget, but in time you will remember most of the time, without all of the pain associated with the loss, perhaps not always, but most of the time.

My RB kitty Chynna went to the rainbow bridge in July 2010. I miss her so much still. But most of the time I smile when I think about her. Sometimes I cry too. And that is ok.

Also, please do not be afraid to bring another kitty into your home. You are not replacing your baby, just filling up another spot in your heart and giving much needed love and a happy loving home to another baby in need.

I've since adopted 2 other kitties, and I still love my RB girl as much as I ever have, and I love my 2 new babies a great deal too.

jessbrooke · Dec 13, 2013

Natalie_ca said:
I'm sorry for your loss

It's always hard to lose someone you love, regardless of whether it is a person or an animal. But it does get easier in time.

You'll never forget, but in time you will remember most of the time, without all of the pain associated with the loss, perhaps not always, but most of the time.

My RB kitty Chynna went to the rainbow bridge in July 2010. I miss her so much still. But most of the time I smile when I think about her. Sometimes I cry too. And that is ok.

Also, please do not be afraid to bring another kitty into your home. You are not replacing your baby, just filling up another spot in your heart and giving much needed love and a happy loving home to another baby in need.

I've since adopted 2 other kitties, and I still love my RB girl as much as I ever have, and I love my 2 new babies a great deal too.

Thank you. I actually have 9 others, and since his passing, I want to be more aware when things go on with them.

I am sorry for your loss as well.

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awaiting abyss · Dec 16, 2013

I'm sorry for your loss. Take your time getting over it. Everyone grieves in different ways.
I find it easier to cope if I focus on my other animals.

twinkle80 · Dec 16, 2013

So sorry for your loss and can relate to how u feel. I lost my kitten around the same age nearly three weeks ago and nothing could have prepared me for the gut renching grief that hit me. Sounds weird but even losing my father didn't hit me so hard. An I felt guilty about that but in a way when a person close to you passes there is so much to think about but when u lose a precious pet there is nothing but grief and an empty space . The only comfort is knowing they will never hurt again. I also take comfort in the fact that I adored him as he did me an although our time together was short, it was so lovely for both of us and we were lucky to have that. Heaven needs kittens too I guess. Hope u find some comfort in the fact that people do get how you feel. It's beyond words I know. Hugs

nurseangel · Dec 16, 2013

I'm very sorry.

sillywabbit · Dec 16, 2013

I understand, losing a pet is like losing a family member, it is part if the deal we make when they adopt us. Take your time, everyone must grieve in their own way. How wonderful you could feel that love , even for a short time.

tammat · Dec 18, 2013

Oh jessbrooke I'm so sorry for your loss. When our Ruben passed I felt like I had been hit by a bus. I was devastated. Time has eased the pain for me and I hope it does for you too. We all need to grieve in our own way. Take your time. We are here for you.

Winchester · Dec 18, 2013

It's so hard to lose a pet. My heart goes out to you at this time. Take your time and grieve how you need to grieve. It's OK.

jessbrooke · Dec 19, 2013

Thank you all for the sweet words, a couple days have passed and I am feeling better. He's in kitty heaven with all the other cats

plus I buried him and I like to visit him and just talk (May sound strange to others, lol) but I just miss him so much!

laralove · Dec 19, 2013

That doesn't sound strange at all. I had a chinchilla pass a few years ago. I took his death very hard. I cried for a few days and felt very guilty. Like I did something wrong or should have done something more. In time I realized there was nothing I could have done, but it took a while. Anyway, we buried him in the backyard and I would go out and talk to him. If that's strange, we'll be strange together.

I'm glad you're feeling better, though. It will continue to get easier with time.

mikeu · Dec 19, 2013

I know Exactly how you feel, everyone just moves on, leaving you alone to cope with his death, though yes he may have crossed the rainbow bridge, but waiting for him is every other Cat and kitten, and remember, he will be watching over you all the time.

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