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I'm having some trouble with my cat Bella, she seems to be very anti-social. A little background here.
My wife and I have had Bella for about 3 years, she was adopted from a shelter. She was very young when we got her she had trouble with dried cat food etc. She started out being pretty loving, would lay on our laps, pur etc. My wife was home with her for a few weeks as she had the summer off. As far as her sleeping arrangements from day one Bella has gone to bed at night in 'her room' the laundy room where the litter boxes are etc and we would shut the door. We usually give her a treat or will pick her up and take her downstairs(lets my wife, doesn't like me picking her up) for the night, then I let her out in the morning when I get up.
Sometime later and I can't pinpoint a time in particular she became less affectionate towards us, perhaps when my wife was teaching and was nolonger home all day but I'm not sure. Eventually we had her declawed because she was tearing up the house and all of our other efforst had failed, I don't believe her behavior changed from that.
Right now Bella will not sit on either of our laps. She will nuggle only with my wife and only when she is ready in bed or napping then she will crawl under the blanket. I've tried this myself and no luck. This is basically the only time we have heard her pur in 3 years.
She doens't totaly ignore me, she will rub on me a bit when i get home from work and let me pet her. She really enjoys playing with me, more so then my wife. She will 'stalk' me and give my ankle nip which I usually will respond with a loud "No!" then go about what I was doing, she doesn't do this to often and I just consider it a sign she wants to play so I'm not too angry with her.
In the evenings she will sit in a nearby chair while we are on the couch, she likes to be near us if we are in the office etc, just not too near.
As my wife and I are expecting our first child we want to work on our relationship with Bella, do you all have any suggestions? I've thought about ignoring her but right now I usually let her initiate the contact already. This is such a stark constrast to the cat I grew up with Smokey its amazing and I'm just not sure what to do to bring her out of her shell.
Thank you.
My wife and I have had Bella for about 3 years, she was adopted from a shelter. She was very young when we got her she had trouble with dried cat food etc. She started out being pretty loving, would lay on our laps, pur etc. My wife was home with her for a few weeks as she had the summer off. As far as her sleeping arrangements from day one Bella has gone to bed at night in 'her room' the laundy room where the litter boxes are etc and we would shut the door. We usually give her a treat or will pick her up and take her downstairs(lets my wife, doesn't like me picking her up) for the night, then I let her out in the morning when I get up.
Sometime later and I can't pinpoint a time in particular she became less affectionate towards us, perhaps when my wife was teaching and was nolonger home all day but I'm not sure. Eventually we had her declawed because she was tearing up the house and all of our other efforst had failed, I don't believe her behavior changed from that.
Right now Bella will not sit on either of our laps. She will nuggle only with my wife and only when she is ready in bed or napping then she will crawl under the blanket. I've tried this myself and no luck. This is basically the only time we have heard her pur in 3 years.
She doens't totaly ignore me, she will rub on me a bit when i get home from work and let me pet her. She really enjoys playing with me, more so then my wife. She will 'stalk' me and give my ankle nip which I usually will respond with a loud "No!" then go about what I was doing, she doesn't do this to often and I just consider it a sign she wants to play so I'm not too angry with her.
In the evenings she will sit in a nearby chair while we are on the couch, she likes to be near us if we are in the office etc, just not too near.
As my wife and I are expecting our first child we want to work on our relationship with Bella, do you all have any suggestions? I've thought about ignoring her but right now I usually let her initiate the contact already. This is such a stark constrast to the cat I grew up with Smokey its amazing and I'm just not sure what to do to bring her out of her shell.
Thank you.