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I'm not even sure this is in the right place, so I apologize if I posted it in the wrong forum. However, I'm going through a hard time right now and just wondering if anyone else ever feels overwhelmed by their cats. My worry for them has really taken over my life. If you see my screen name (which can tell you a lot) or my posts, you'll see they are all in Cat Health and all expressing concern over my cats' health, mostly one cat in particular, although now I'm worried about my eldest too and have varying degrees of worry for all of them. By my posts, you'd think I'm a first time cat owner, although I've owned cats now for 19 years, ever since I was a little girl. My first cat passed at nearly 13 years old from CRF. It was very sudden that he took ill, was diagnosed, and I found him gone, next to his food dish where he'd just eaten. It's an image that stays with me and can reduce me to tears to this day and it's been 6 years since it happened. This past summer, I lost my 14 year old cat, who already had HCM, to probable lymphoma. Again, it was sudden. He began to vomit up everything he ate, wouldn't eat anything, and then I had to make the difficult choice, one I was once abjectly against but he was suffering greatly.

I guess a part of me feels like there was something I could have done to change the course of things. Could I have saved my cat with CRF somehow? My 14 year old cat had frequent hairballs and bouts of nausea. Was this the start of his disease? Now whenever one of my cat seems ill at all (upset tummy or something that might be minor) I panic. Even when they act better, I still live with this surge of anxiety flowing through me. It's hard to function at times. I have some cats with chronic issues (allergies and asthma). They have issues on and off but I always think they will die at any second. Now yesterday, my eldest cat acted nauseous and I'm just in a terrible state, trying to get through the day at work. It's sadly gotten to the point where I fret about my cats more than enjoy them and I don't want it to be this way. I know a part of this is relinquishing control but I just want them to be healthy. I've even discussed this with my PCP and she suggested some therapy which I've had in the past and would consider again. Anyone ever feel this way? Any advice or words of wisdom?
 

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Every time we love a kitty, we are guaranteeing that sometime in the not so distant future, we will have our heart broken. But every time they look at you with the slow "I love you" blink, or when they jump on your lap, or get in your way while you're cooking or cleaning...it's worth every single second of crying and worrying.
It's completely normal, especially after having sick kitties that you love so much pass away, to worry about every sneeze or cough. I have a 14 yr old with probable lymphoma. I can't tell you how many times I've wondered if I could've stopped this from happening to him. Looking back, I see all the signs. And he tried so hard to tell me. The truth is, no, I couldn't have stopped this. It was going to happen no matter what. I'm still not completely at peace with that, but I'm slowly coming to terms with it. I haven't had to make that awful decision yet with Krash, but I'm expecting to have to any day now. It's going to kill me inside when I do.
I know it's hard to do, but you have to let what happens happen. If I've learned anything from trying (& failing) to treat Krash's cancer, it's that Nature will do what she wants no matter what you do to stop her. Taking care of him has taken over my life and I know that's not right. He wouldn't want that. So I recently decided that I'm going to stop treatments that are just making him sicker than the disease does. He can't handle much more stress and neither can I. We're down to 2 doses of 1 medicine a day, I give him whatever he wants or needs, and things have improved drastically. I realized that the best thing we can do is love our kitties while we have them. They wouldn't want you to worry about them the way you do. When I have a problem trying to let go of paranoid worry, I just think like a cat- Go out and play or go for a walk. Sit in the sun.Take a bath or a nap. Get something to eat. Go love up on someone you love- be a cat. Sounds stupid maybe, but It helps. If you feel like talking to a counselor or someone like that would help, then yes, by all means go do that! That's why they're there.
People here are really helpful and understanding as well, But sometimes it's nice to have someone face to face.
 

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I am so sorry you're going through this, Worried. :(

You have to remember a couple things about cats. First of all, they're tiny. When something goes terribly wrong, it starts affecting everything else really fast. And second of all, they are experts at hiding their discomforts. It is common for diseases to be completely asymptomatic, as far as we can see, until they've already progressed quite a bit.

I lost Pearl pretty suddenly as well. She was doing very well on treatment for a couple months, and then suddenly tumbled downhill. She  went from seeming perfectly fine, to suddenly being in liver failure and seizing, to me making the call to euthanize her, all within 24 hours. She had so many problems by that point that she probably wouldn't have made the week, and even if she had, she'd never get back an acceptable quality of life.

I asked myself for months if I could have done more. But she'd just been at the vet with a full blood work-up that looked fine just a couple months before. What was I supposed to do? Take her to the vet every 2 weeks? Even if I had, would that have helped anything? And what about her stress levels?

This guilt hung on for quite a while. When I first adopted Pia, she disappeared for a while, as cats in new environments tend to do. I knew, logically, that cats are great at hiding. All the windows were closed, the door was locked -- I knew she couldn't have gotten out. But when I couldn't find her anywhere, I panicked. I was convinced she got out, because I was a terrible cat guardian. I was a mess. Hours later, I found her, hiding behind my books in my night stand.

I knew she must have been in here somewhere. But that guilt for Pearl was still eating at me. Pia must have thought she'd been adopted by a crazy person!

Reality is that sometimes stuff just goes wrong. And with cats, the expert illness hiders that they are, sometimes it's very sudden.

It's hard to get over, perhaps because we're so totally responsible for them, and it makes us feel like it's our fault, as though they'd just live forever, or at least pass peacefully, if we'd been good enough. We dictate what every aspect of their life is going to be like... except one. No matter what we do, they are going to eventually pass away, and we aren't going to be able to control how or why they do so. Something will happen eventually, and much of the time, it's not related to anything we did or didn't do.

Please don't torture yourself over this. You obviously love your cats very much, and I am sure you did right by them.

I think the suggestion to talk to a therapist is a good one. You don't deserve to feel so bad for this, and it might help you to identify why it is that you feel so responsible for their deaths, and help you release some of that.
 
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 When I have a problem trying to let go of paranoid worry, I just think like a cat- Go out and play or go for a walk. Sit in the sun.Take a bath or a nap. Get something to eat. Go love up on someone you love- be a cat. Sounds stupid maybe, but It helps.
You know, I had the same thought in the last few months of Pearl's life. She was up and down and lot, and I tried to "channel my inner kitty." The truth is, cats don't worry about the future and they aren't as frightened by their own mortality as we are. If Pearl was ok that day, then I should be ok too. If Pearl is not ok, then I should be seeing what I can do to maximize her happiness right now -- just this very moment. Not worrying about tomorrow.
 

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When we have pets it is natural for us to worry about their health. Over the years I have had family pets and my own that have had many different issues, some that have come on suddenly, 2 of our family cats had different cancers, one pancreatic and the other lung. Their symptoms did not show until the disease was fairly advance. With our cat that had pancreatic cancer we found out with time to make the choice to let his passing be peaceful. With our cat that had lung cancer it was not diagnoised until it was far along. At that time my mom was responsible for making the decisions, he was dropped off at the vets before she had to go to work. By the time she got the message of his diagnoisis he had passed at the vet office. I know for her she had guilt that his last minutes where that of suffering and amongst people he did not know.
My first cat who is mine only and not a family pet was recently diagniosed with ckd a few months back. When I got the diagniosis I found that it is fairly advanced. I spent the first week constantly in tears and feeling guilty that I did not pick up on the signs earlier. I have spent a lot of time researching his disease and making decisions on what I can afford and what I want to place him through treatment wise. The decision that I made is that whatever I do will be made to keep him comfortable. As long as he is willing to keep going, and is able to enjoy the things that he enjoys doing I will help him. From Riley I am really learning how to enjoy each moment that I have with him. I don't know how much time we have it could be a day, or it could be months or years. I know a day will come that either I will have to make the decision to help him pass, or may find that the decision has been taken out of my hands, but until than I have been learning to not focus on that. I do find that it helps to have other people to talk to that are understanding of what you are going through and are feeling.
 

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I can relate to this. I was actually thinking about starting a thread about how to deal with the stress and anxiety of caring for a chronically ill cat, as it takes SO much out of you.

I am typically a cool, calm, collected person. Nothing works me up. I rarely get mad or upset. My emotions are pretty level all the time. I'm not excitable or dramatic. HOWEVER, when it comes to my furbabies, it's different. They are my kids (I'm not having human kids). I've had anxiety about my Sebastian since his medical issues started in July. I'm nervous about coming home from work every day, not knowing if he's sick again or vomiting. When I wake up in the morning, I wonder where he is and if he got sick overnight. I dread mealtimes not knowing if he's going to walk away from his food or throw it up. He's been doing well this week (knock on wood), but the worry is still there. Taking care of Sebastian has also taken over my life. Just yesterday I had to turn down a weekend getaway because there is no way I can leave him for multiple days right now. But guess what, I'm his mommy. It's my duty and right to take care of him. He needs me.

My other two cats also have issues that I will need to address, which adds to the stress. They are all seniors with senior problems.

I find it helps to talk about it. My boyfriend thought he was helping by changing the subject every time I would bring it up. That does NOT help. I'll talk to my parents. They are compassionate only because they are more concerned about me. My brother and sister don't understand. Because I'm more logical and analytical, I cope with data. I have a chart for Sebastian that I log all his daily meds, etc. I do a lot of research. I suppose it temporarily blocks the emotional lobe of my brain, allowing me to deal with it better. But when Sebastian is having a flare, nothing can block my worry. It is impossible to ignore. I could see how it is more difficult for a more emotional person to turn that off these feelings because they overpower everything else.

I have considered some type of energetic healing, like meditation. Sometimes I catch myself holding my breath. I close my eyes, take a few deep breaths and try to regain control. My parents are religious and spiritual and one thing they said has stuck with me..."be at peace" they said. Be at peace with what destiny lies ahead because sometimes there's nothing we can do to change it. I often repeat this to myself, and it seems to make it easier, knowing I'm giving Sebastian (and the others) everything I've got.  


Anyway, I'm rambling. @WorriedSoMuch, I understand how you feel.  
 

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For me, the worry arises because of a lack of control. Obviously I worry because I care, but it's the lack of control that really eats me up. I worry far more about the feral cats in the TNR colony, because I have absolutely no control over where they go, what they do, and for many of them, if they're sick or hurt unless I can see it and re-trap them, all I'm left with is feeling helpless. So I simply have to focus on what I CAN do, and constantly remind myself that no one could expect more than that. It lights up my day to see them eat the food, drink the water, or use a shelter we provide. And I try to focus on those happy moments. When I find myself consumed with worry, I breathe. I meditate. I clear my mind. ...and I reach out to people who understand. :heart2:

...as Krashballz said

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When I have a problem trying to let go of paranoid worry, I just think like a cat- Go out and play or go for a walk. Sit in the sun.Take a bath or a nap. Get something to eat. Go love up on someone you love- be a cat. Sounds stupid maybe, but It helps.
This is excellent advice!

I have 8 indoor-only cats. My youngest is 6 or 7, a feral rescued at "3 or 4." Four of the 8 will be 12 in the spring. We're dealing with a number of health problems, and one of my kitties is a cancer survivor, given 4 weeks to live in July 2011. How did I not fall apart during those months of sleeplessness, chemo, syringe-feeding, etc? Focusing on what I could do, and literally taking it one day at a time. Enjoying the moments of play that had been rare, taking delight in his grooming again; getting a kick out of it when he started bopping the other cats again, or "owning" "his" bag or box....

Like GoHolistic, I resort to research. I have an analytical mind, and when I'm physically providing all I can, learning, researching to make sure there's not more I can do, helps empower me. And for my cancer kitty, I found there was more I could do beyond instructions from the vets and oncologist. The same has been true for my asthmatic kitty with arthritis, and my FIV+ kitty. Is it going to help them live longer? I don't know. But I know it makes me feel better.

The bottom line?

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Reality is that sometimes stuff just goes wrong. And with cats, the expert illness hiders that they are, sometimes it's very sudden.

It's hard to get over, perhaps because we're so totally responsible for them, and it makes us feel like it's our fault, as though they'd just live forever, or at least pass peacefully, if we'd been good enough. We dictate what every aspect of their life is going to be like... except one. No matter what we do, they are going to eventually pass away, and we aren't going to be able to control how or why they do so. Something will happen eventually, and much of the time, it's not related to anything we did or didn't do.

Please don't torture yourself over this. You obviously love your cats very much, and I am sure you did right by them.

I think the suggestion to talk to a therapist is a good one. You don't deserve to feel so bad for this, and it might help you to identify why it is that you feel so responsible for their deaths, and help you release some of that.
If you find yourself in a position of not being able to stop the guilt and stress, if the worry is consuming, then therapy is an excellent idea. If I weren't able to find my way "back to center," I would pursue it. :heart2:

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Thank-you to all of you for taking the time to open your hearts and respond. It's so nice to see people who've been there and know how stressful and overwhelming the responsibility we feel for these animals is at times. I admire all of you so much because you put so much into the love and care for your cats. I feel inferior to most of you because I feel like I could do more and maybe I'm just not doing it.

@Krashballz I pray the best for you and your kitty. I know just how you feel when you see them suffering so much and how you are suffering so much as well. I know with my Tito, I just felt like my heart would explode. I knew it was time for him, and then I felt this unbelievable guilt because a part of me knew it would be a relief as every morning I woke up in the grips of fear, looking for him since he had started to hide since he didn't want to be pestered to eat anymore. I was so terrified to find him gone though, even though sometimes I prayed to God to take him peacefully in the night so he wouldn't hurt anymore. It was such a mixture of emotions that I'm not even sure I could describe it properly. I think your advice is excellent "think like a cat." You are right. Cats don't sit there and dwell on mortality. They know how to relax and enjoy the time they have. I do try to get out when I can if it's getting to be too much. Then there is that inevitable guilt that I am leaving them.

@Lilin Your Pearl sounds like my cats that passed away, all so suddenly, really. Also, I totally get where you are coming from with the taking them to the vet every 2 weeks and the stress levels on you and your cats. I tell myself that with mine, that I am taking them to the vet to be checked but how much is too much? I don't want to take them for every little thing and put them through so much stress. You are right too that they are so good at hiding things that we never can tell if they are as healthy as we think they are.

@BarbH I hope Riley is well. I had to learn to do the same with my Tito when he was diagnosed with HCM. At first I just cried and cried and thought he would die at any moment. Then I had to do what I could for him which was get his heart stable. Then he did get stable and he was so good for nearly 6 years. It's just so hard how he had to develop cancer too. I think my mind wanted to think since he already had a "terminal" illness that he was now protected from any other disease but he wasn't so here I am fearful again for my other cats.

@GoHolistic Your post really spoke to me because those are all my fears! I constantly worry if I will walk in and find vomit or someone will not want to eat. I understand it's even more difficult for you with Sebastian's illness. I really hope he is doing better. I also know what you mean about them being your babies. I am just in my 20's but I don't believe I will have children either so my cats are my children, as much as that gets me odd looks from people who don't get it. My mom is like your parents in a way. She cares but it's out of concern for me. I do believe she likes the cats a lot, just not in the way I do. Meditation is a good idea. I try to pray or take deep breaths too when it becomes too much and just tell myself "it will be okay."

@LDG Yup that's me. I can't control things and that's what my biggest issue is. I tell myself every day that I can watch and be vigilant, rush them to the vet, but ultimately something can happen. I think you are a saint with the way you nursed your kitty back to health. It's amazing! I try to think of your cat when I get scared and tell myself I would try to do the same if I got a bad diagnosis, although outcomes aren't always the same. God bless your little survivor! I also have a former feral cat, almost 10 years old and I worry a lot about her too. She lives inside but getting her to a vet is a nightmare so she doesn't go as much as I'd like her to. I don't want to sedate her so it's hard.

This weekend I tried to take everyone's advice and just enjoy my cats. They were having a good weekend too. I bought them the Cat's Meow toy and it was so sweet seeing all 5 of them playing and having fun. Then unfortunately, dear Grace has me worried again. Around 6 PM, she went to the water bowl and took a LONG drink. I thought, well wow that was a big drink for her. However, hadn't seen her drink like that a lot so I tried not to worry. However, then I caught her drinking again at 10 PM and then again at 5 this morning, so what do I do? I panic! I also noticed her bowel movement was so small, like just a few pebbles. She typically goes once a day but it's usually on the larger side. So again, I have to call the vet. She was just there 5 days ago and given a clean bill of health so subjecting her to another visit so soon seems cruel. I really hope I am panicking for nothing.
 

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We used to run to the vet for every little change. And inevitably, kitty would want to eat as soon as we came home, or wouldn't sneeze again, or wouldn't throw up again.....

We learned that if kitty isn't hiding, and everything else is mostly normal, we give it a few days. I let them skip a meal or two now without freaking out, I let them drink "excess water," I let them throw up... and if they're not hiding, still grooming, playing, etc. as normal, we don't run to the vet. If one or more things is "off," we give it a day.... maybe two, and then we go. This method has saved all of us a lot of stress and money. :lol3:
 
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This is what I am trying to do with Grace, but I'm on litterbox watch and I'm not sure she's gone #2 in 48 hours. I'm at work now and won't be home until later. I have my mom looking out for her at the moment but it could be a vet visit might be coming soon
 

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I totally am feeling overwhelmed by my cats.  I have taken in a(nother) stray recently and had his neuter surgery, vaccinations, etc.  Adding him makes five cats total in my small home and it feels like a lot to me.  I am constantly caring for them, cleaning, feeding, vetting. It's too much.  I really don't want FIVE cats.  I moved in my home with two cats I had adopted in 2003 and over the years have taken in three strays that have shown up.  I am trying to find a home for the latest, but worry to tears that he won't be cared for properly.  I have a problem letting go.  I did "adopt" out a litter and dad cat that showed up a few years ago and not extremely happy about their situation.  It's not horrible, but it's not the way I would've wanted their lives to be.  I even feel guilty for taking them in and finding a home for them.  Anyway, I am overwhelmed, anxious and irritable a lot!  If any more cats show up I will have to run them off.  I said that before this one came along....   it's hard... it's expensive... and I am pretty sure I've contracted ringworm, too.  Great!  Hats off to all of you that care for many cats!  I love animals and want to help, but this feels like too much sometimes.
 

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Hi MegM. Welcome to TCS! 


I'm sorry you're feeling so overwhelmed with your many kitties, but I'm glad you've found this site. Hopefully you'll be able to find a good home for your most recent addition, and maybe you'll find some comfort in the support from those of us here at TCS. 
 

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I'm not sure if this is what you mean, but I am afraid to put my cat down because I think I might be doing it because I'm overwhelmed.  I'm trying to run a business in my house, which has been hell this month, having major problems with an employee who may be stealing from me, and have general anxiety problems as it is. 

But, the #1 thing stressing me out is that I keep putting my cat first - gotta syringe feed, more?, was that too much?, a little later, again? This pill, that pill, that liquid medicine.

My house should be on Hoarders.  I have at least 10 different types of canned food, most of them with multiple cans, 5 bags of dry food, yogurt, broth, tuna, baby food, and on and on - just all over the place.  Syringes here and there. 

I was at a gathering last night and some of my friends are like Give it up - she's 18, she's had a long enough life.............But, I don't want my stress to be the reason to put her down. 

(And, then this morning she pops into my bed and sleeps on my arm like she used to - first time in weeks - how can I possibly put her down when she's acting like herself?!?)
 

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I can totally relate to the being overwhelmed - I had 2 cats with ckd both passed away in the last twelve months aged 18. I adored them both - I had no children and they were my babies. Now my memories are of lots of tins of cat food trying to encourage them to eat, pills, vet visits, rushing home to check they were OK, sleeping seated upright at night for 3 months cradling my furbaby as that was the only way she was comfortable. I dealt with the ckd between them for 5 years. Although it was only the last 2 that were really bad. Now it has been 6 months since my last cat died and I want to adopt another cat but I'm TERRIFIED. I'm enjoying the freedom of not rushing home to check all is OK, of not constantly feeding and constantly cleaning the litter box (ckd cats pee A LOT) . Logically I know a new relatively young cat (i'm considering a 2 year old rescue cat) shouldn't have many problems and be fairly independent but I'm having anxiety attacks just thinking about it. I don't mean to hijack this thread but has anyone else felt like this about a new cat?
 

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I can totally relate to the being overwhelmed - I had 2 cats with ckd both passed away in the last twelve months aged 18. I adored them both - I had no children and they were my babies. Now my memories are of lots of tins of cat food trying to encourage them to eat, pills, vet visits, rushing home to check they were OK, sleeping seated upright at night for 3 months cradling my furbaby as that was the only way she was comfortable. I dealt with the ckd between them for 5 years. Although it was only the last 2 that were really bad. Now it has been 6 months since my last cat died and I want to adopt another cat but I'm TERRIFIED. I'm enjoying the freedom of not rushing home to check all is OK, of not constantly feeding and constantly cleaning the litter box (ckd cats pee A LOT) . Logically I know a new relatively young cat (i'm considering a 2 year old rescue cat) shouldn't have many problems and be fairly independent but I'm having anxiety attacks just thinking about it. I don't mean to hijack this thread but has anyone else felt like this about a new cat?
Haha - I like your screen name!..................What you describe is exactly how it's been for me...............I think you're logical thinking is the right one.  Especially if you get a 2 year old.  I think you would know their health issues then..............I do plan on taking some time off, but probably within 6 months after Phoebe goes, I'll adopt two more kittens.  Phoebe and her "sister" were so much fun when the two were kittens that I've got to do that again.  They did have a few health issues the first year, but then they gave me at least a dozen straight years of absolutely no issues at all. 

But, I do understand your apprehension. 
 
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I'm feeling very overwhelmed today.

All three of my cats have an issue right now, and I'm trying to hold it together. Sebastian has pancreatitis/IBD. He's doing well at the moment, but it takes a lot of my time to manage. There's something up with Boo. He has a whole list of odd symptoms and the vet and I haven't figured it out yet. Caesar hasn't felt well the last several days, and projectile vomited his breakfast this morning. He's known to have days like this, but I get concerned when it lasts longer than a day or two. When I was cleaning up the vomit, I felt my hands shaking. 
 

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That's not surprising. It's difficult enough when one is ill, but three? :vibes::vibes::vibes: that 2014 brings them all better health.
 

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I know exactly how you feel. I have 7 cats, having acquired the newest one 8 months ago as an orphaned 10 day old kitten. Within the last two months 4 of the older ones started passing around some sort of illness where they wouldn't eat for several days. As soon as one would get better another would get sick. All that time my oldest, 13.5 years, has had chronic diarrhea and has lost half her body weight within the last year. So I've been back and forth to the vet with her. Monday they did some blood work to see if it's her pancreas. If that comes back negative the vet says it may lymphoma. I've never lost one of my personal cats before and she's had me worried sick. My second oldest, 11 years, had a hard time getting over the mystery illness and was the only one to get a fever so he had to go to the vet and was put on antibiotics for 2 weeks. Luckily everyone is feels better except the oldest. I'm still horribly worried about her and about getting the baby neutered, as I've spent over $500 at the vet in the last 2 months. Owning cats is like having kids with a shorter life span. You just want them to be happy and healthy and some of it is out of your control.
 

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It's hard to know when.  In retrospect you always second guess yourself - "I waited too long" or "It was too soon".  Breathe, and go with your instinct.  You will know when it is right for your kitty. I hope that things calm down for you stress-wise.  Sounds like we all have general anxiety issues!  Good to know I'm not alone!
 
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