Hi all! This is kind of a long one, so bear with me.
Last January, my boyfriend and I started to notice a little black cat hanging around. We live on a duplex cul-de-sac with little car ports and he was often on the porch of one of the unrented duplex's or in our carport. I'm an avid cat lover so I started to feed him and did a little research. His ear has been tipped so I'm assuming he's been part of a TNR program, but the thing is, I'm just not convinced he's feral. He won't let us touch him and if we move too quickly he definitely bolts, but when we feed him he rubs against the wall, meows, and doesn't mind if our hand is within 2-3 inches in front of his face. He also makes VERY bold eye contact, which I've read isn't typical of a feral cat. Also, if we're 'late' feeding him he jumps up on a chair in front of the window and will chirp and sniff our more curious cat. They've also rubbed their faces against each other through the screen (which I've since discouraged since I don't know about his health...) We built him an insulated shelter with an outdoor heating pad for the winter, and I would be happy to keep our relationship as is (we already own 2 cats and 2 dogs) but I'm starting to worry because we will be moving to another state in May of 2014. I just can't imagine leaving him without knowing he's ok. Because he's so timid, I think trapping him and taking him to a shelter would probably end in him being put down because he's so shy and the trapping/shelter atmosphere would probably be traumatic and wouldn't make him any friendlier. I also am reluctant to bring him into our home because we will be leaving the state for three weeks in December and we take all of our pets with us so I would need to find him a reliable house sitter to keep up a solid routine so we wouldn't go backwards in terms of socialization.
I'm also wondering: how does the vet handle a checkup if the kitty is scared to the point of being dangerous? And if the vet tells you the cat has fleas (which I'm assuming they will) how on earth are you supposed to apply flea meds to such a shy cat????
So, basically I'm stumped. Ideally, I'd like to bring him into our family, but I just don't know how to approach this, especially because I worry that moving him cross country in 7-8 months would be traumatic. Any advice would be excellent. We've been at kind of a stand still for 8 months now. I've also just read so many things about feral cats being a lost cause in terms of indoor socialization that it makes me nervous to proceed, even though I think he might not be technically feral.
Sorry for the crummy quality pic, it's through the screen!
Last January, my boyfriend and I started to notice a little black cat hanging around. We live on a duplex cul-de-sac with little car ports and he was often on the porch of one of the unrented duplex's or in our carport. I'm an avid cat lover so I started to feed him and did a little research. His ear has been tipped so I'm assuming he's been part of a TNR program, but the thing is, I'm just not convinced he's feral. He won't let us touch him and if we move too quickly he definitely bolts, but when we feed him he rubs against the wall, meows, and doesn't mind if our hand is within 2-3 inches in front of his face. He also makes VERY bold eye contact, which I've read isn't typical of a feral cat. Also, if we're 'late' feeding him he jumps up on a chair in front of the window and will chirp and sniff our more curious cat. They've also rubbed their faces against each other through the screen (which I've since discouraged since I don't know about his health...) We built him an insulated shelter with an outdoor heating pad for the winter, and I would be happy to keep our relationship as is (we already own 2 cats and 2 dogs) but I'm starting to worry because we will be moving to another state in May of 2014. I just can't imagine leaving him without knowing he's ok. Because he's so timid, I think trapping him and taking him to a shelter would probably end in him being put down because he's so shy and the trapping/shelter atmosphere would probably be traumatic and wouldn't make him any friendlier. I also am reluctant to bring him into our home because we will be leaving the state for three weeks in December and we take all of our pets with us so I would need to find him a reliable house sitter to keep up a solid routine so we wouldn't go backwards in terms of socialization.
I'm also wondering: how does the vet handle a checkup if the kitty is scared to the point of being dangerous? And if the vet tells you the cat has fleas (which I'm assuming they will) how on earth are you supposed to apply flea meds to such a shy cat????
So, basically I'm stumped. Ideally, I'd like to bring him into our family, but I just don't know how to approach this, especially because I worry that moving him cross country in 7-8 months would be traumatic. Any advice would be excellent. We've been at kind of a stand still for 8 months now. I've also just read so many things about feral cats being a lost cause in terms of indoor socialization that it makes me nervous to proceed, even though I think he might not be technically feral.
Sorry for the crummy quality pic, it's through the screen!