Hi guys, I am a full time college student who is living in a single bedroom apartment now. I just moved in this past summer.
So my friend has a cat but she is travelling during the summer. She asked me to take care of her cat during summer. I had to stay in town the whole summer because of my job so I accepted the cat. I had absolutely no idea of how to take care of a cat but the cat is amazingly friendly. Quite frankly she made my summer so memorable. When school started my friend returned to the city and brought the cat back with her. I felt like there was a hole in my heart
I got most of my cat knowledge from a good friend of mine who works at the university library. She is a cat-lover. She works with a local rescue group. About one month ago they rescued a group of stray cats from the animal control. Knowing that I miss having a cat around, she asked me if I would like to adopt one of the cat or not. I was very glad to say yes. The rescue group literally rescued them from the animal control the day they were supposed to be put down.
I got this one-year old tabby. She was so skinny when I first met her, but she was very friendly to me. This is the picture of her when I first saw her. My girlfriend named her "Princess" because she wanted me to treat her like one.
I felt we started off pretty good. Princess was sneezing a lot and she had ear mites. However, she would follow me around and even jump onto the counter of the bathroom when I was brushing my teeth. Maybe she was just hungry and was begging me for food. After having Princess with me for like five days, my librarian friend set up an appointment with a vet to treat Princess. I tried to put her into the carrier but she was terrified and ran around the apartment. I managed to get her into the carrier eventually, but I think I scared her pretty badly.
She received ear mite treatment and a shot for her sneeze. When I brought her back she seemed less active than before. A week later, me and my girlfriend gave her a bath and groomed her. It went better than I thought but she wouldn't let me trim her front claws. Since then, we have been living in peace. She doesn't approach me at all, maybe let me pet her every once in a while. I spend little time with her because I have one of the worst schedule imaginable. I spend like 12 hours at college three days a week and I work on other days.
Since last week, all she does is hiding under my bed and she would never leave there unless when I feed her. She would run away whenever I approach and she don't even try to eat treats from my hands. I can't pick her up or pet her and she doesn't come to me at all. She doesn't hiss or growl at me, just tries to stay away from me as much as possible. I think she is in depression!
Here are my questions
1. Is is possible for me to bond with the cat again? Did I do something wrong that made her so scared of me?
2. Should I stop making her going under the bed? I know i shouldn't pressure her, but I think she would have a habbit of hiding under there then there will be no chance for me to ever bond with her again.
3. Princess does not play with ANYTHING AT ALL. Even laser pointer. She doesn't seem to like catnip either. It's like there is literally nothing interests her in this world. Is this normal? What should I do to make her play with toys again?
4. I know stray cats take time to settle in and trust people, some probably will never trust people but I really feel like I'm not doing enough. What should I do to make her more friendly?
5. She uses litter box exceptionally well, does that mean she used to be an indoor cat?
6. What is my next step in terms of taking care of her? Should I set up an appointment with a vet about getting vaccinations and spay her and all that? Would that make her even more scared of me?
7. Would Feliway solve my problem? Even a single bit?
My girlfriend feels dishearted because she really loves Princess. I am not quite ready to give up yet. Sorry for so many questions. I am a newbie at cats so I would appreciate any help from all of you kind people!
So my friend has a cat but she is travelling during the summer. She asked me to take care of her cat during summer. I had to stay in town the whole summer because of my job so I accepted the cat. I had absolutely no idea of how to take care of a cat but the cat is amazingly friendly. Quite frankly she made my summer so memorable. When school started my friend returned to the city and brought the cat back with her. I felt like there was a hole in my heart
I got most of my cat knowledge from a good friend of mine who works at the university library. She is a cat-lover. She works with a local rescue group. About one month ago they rescued a group of stray cats from the animal control. Knowing that I miss having a cat around, she asked me if I would like to adopt one of the cat or not. I was very glad to say yes. The rescue group literally rescued them from the animal control the day they were supposed to be put down.
I got this one-year old tabby. She was so skinny when I first met her, but she was very friendly to me. This is the picture of her when I first saw her. My girlfriend named her "Princess" because she wanted me to treat her like one.
I felt we started off pretty good. Princess was sneezing a lot and she had ear mites. However, she would follow me around and even jump onto the counter of the bathroom when I was brushing my teeth. Maybe she was just hungry and was begging me for food. After having Princess with me for like five days, my librarian friend set up an appointment with a vet to treat Princess. I tried to put her into the carrier but she was terrified and ran around the apartment. I managed to get her into the carrier eventually, but I think I scared her pretty badly.
She received ear mite treatment and a shot for her sneeze. When I brought her back she seemed less active than before. A week later, me and my girlfriend gave her a bath and groomed her. It went better than I thought but she wouldn't let me trim her front claws. Since then, we have been living in peace. She doesn't approach me at all, maybe let me pet her every once in a while. I spend little time with her because I have one of the worst schedule imaginable. I spend like 12 hours at college three days a week and I work on other days.
Since last week, all she does is hiding under my bed and she would never leave there unless when I feed her. She would run away whenever I approach and she don't even try to eat treats from my hands. I can't pick her up or pet her and she doesn't come to me at all. She doesn't hiss or growl at me, just tries to stay away from me as much as possible. I think she is in depression!
Here are my questions
1. Is is possible for me to bond with the cat again? Did I do something wrong that made her so scared of me?
2. Should I stop making her going under the bed? I know i shouldn't pressure her, but I think she would have a habbit of hiding under there then there will be no chance for me to ever bond with her again.
3. Princess does not play with ANYTHING AT ALL. Even laser pointer. She doesn't seem to like catnip either. It's like there is literally nothing interests her in this world. Is this normal? What should I do to make her play with toys again?
4. I know stray cats take time to settle in and trust people, some probably will never trust people but I really feel like I'm not doing enough. What should I do to make her more friendly?
5. She uses litter box exceptionally well, does that mean she used to be an indoor cat?
6. What is my next step in terms of taking care of her? Should I set up an appointment with a vet about getting vaccinations and spay her and all that? Would that make her even more scared of me?
7. Would Feliway solve my problem? Even a single bit?
My girlfriend feels dishearted because she really loves Princess. I am not quite ready to give up yet. Sorry for so many questions. I am a newbie at cats so I would appreciate any help from all of you kind people!