Newbie seeking support....I need to talk to other fur-mamas!

I stumbled onto this site as I was surfin' the interwebz looking for something to calm me down......

I brought Graysea in this morning to have her spayed. She is 1 year and 4 months old, we have had her since she was 6 weeks. It broke my heart leaving her there this morning and I am worried sick. I work from home, so she is my constant companion; she sleeps on my head every night, we have out little games, we are very connected. I originally got her for my daughter, my husband teases me and says "I think we actually got her for you".

This is the first cat I have ever had, and I love her madly, she is truly my buddy. Even sitting here in my office without her I want to cry.

Here are my issues;

1) I felt horrible this morning when she was doing her cute little "food song and dance" because instead of food she got her carrier.

2) She has always loved car rides (as a lifetime dog owner I didn't know it was rare to have a cat that liked car rides until someone mentioned it). She was super quiet the whole ride, she didn't even ask to be let out of her carrier. Then when we got there she was trembling! I've never witnessed this in other trips to the vet. In fact I've never felt her tremble, even the trip to the vet after she ate a bunch of scotch tape.

3) I feel like she thinks I abandonded her.

4) I am scared to the very core of my being that something will go wrong.

5) I am afraid she will be mad at me

6) I'm afraid this will change her adorable purrfect personality.

I just need to talk to someone, I cant believe myself; a grown woman sitting here crying over a procedure that I know is best for her and that is done millions of times a year.

Please help me. Hug to you all.

Hello and welcome to The Cat Site. First, take yourself a deep breath. It is okay to be concerned about your cat. The probability is that she is going to be fine and this is truly the right thing for her. Why don't you post some pictures so we can see your fur baby.:nod:

And super-duper big hugs back at you!!! I so totally know how you feel. I have a feral cat that I trapped about 3 years ago when she was pregnant, and she had her 5 kittens in my spare room. We developed this incredible bond and I just can't imagine life without her now. When the time came for her to get spayed, I had to trick her into going in the carrier (she hates confined spaces, probably from being trapped). It took me an hour of loving on her and giving her treats and sweet-talking to her before she finally went in far enough that I could close the door on her butt. It felt like the biggest betrayal I could ever do to her. The look of bewilderment on her face made me burst into tears and I was a mess until she was back home the next day. But she forgave me! And now that she doesn't have raging hormones to deal with, she's even more playful and loving and hilarious than ever.

Your sweetie will forgive you too. Cats just know. They know when their people love them and are doing right by them, which you are. She was probably picking up on your stress around the situation but once she's back home and recovering from surgery, she'll be back to her lovin self.

Sugarcatmom said:

 
And super-duper big hugs back at you!!! I so totally know how you feel. I have a feral cat that I trapped about 3 years ago when she was pregnant, and she had her 5 kittens in my spare room. We developed this incredible bond and I just can't imagine life without her now. When the time came for her to get spayed, I had to trick her into going in the carrier (she hates confined spaces, probably from being trapped). It took me an hour of loving on her and giving her treats and sweet-talking to her before she finally went in far enough that I could close the door on her butt. It felt like the biggest betrayal I could ever do to her. The look of bewilderment on her face made me burst into tears and I was a mess until she was back home the next day. But she forgave me! And now that she doesn't have raging hormones to deal with, she's even more playful and loving and hilarious than ever.

Your sweetie will forgive you too. Cats just know. They know when their people love them and are doing right by them, which you are. She was probably picking up on your stress around the situation but once she's back home and recovering from surgery, she'll be back to her lovin self.

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Thank you so much, that is just the kind of thing I needed to hear. The only sound I hear out of my husband is his eyes rolling when he sees me acting like a wreck. Seriously, I thank you from the bottom of my heart, your email made me cry.....more of a happy cry this time though. Your awesome.

Where can I post pictures?

Sugarcatmom said:

 
And super-duper big hugs back at you!!! I so totally know how you feel. I have a feral cat that I trapped about 3 years ago when she was pregnant, and she had her 5 kittens in my spare room. We developed this incredible bond and I just can't imagine life without her now. When the time came for her to get spayed, I had to trick her into going in the carrier (she hates confined spaces, probably from being trapped). It took me an hour of loving on her and giving her treats and sweet-talking to her before she finally went in far enough that I could close the door on her butt. It felt like the biggest betrayal I could ever do to her. The look of bewilderment on her face made me burst into tears and I was a mess until she was back home the next day. But she forgave me! And now that she doesn't have raging hormones to deal with, she's even more playful and loving and hilarious than ever.

Your sweetie will forgive you too. Cats just know. They know when their people love them and are doing right by them, which you are. She was probably picking up on your stress around the situation but once she's back home and recovering from surgery, she'll be back to her lovin self.

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Welcome to TCS!    I agree w/ the above. Cat's are very intuitive to our emotions, especially if you are very close.  She will forgive you & all will be fine.

She knows her "Meowmy" loves her.     Don't know where you are, but it's around dinner time here on the east coast, so hopefully she is already back home w/ you now. 

Stopping by to thank you all for getting me through yesterday. I finally found a bit of solace here after a morning spent on Google and Yahoo-answers, that left me panic ridden. Not only was I worried about her health, I thought she was going to hate me, have a personality transplant and hide for days.

When I picked her up, the lady that handed me her crate said "watch out, she is very angry, hissing and growling, it is just the medication though". I had to laugh at that one, I'm pretty sure she just was put in a kennel, poked and prodded, had her lady bits removed in a room full of other cats and dogs and her family was gone. THATS why she is angry!

I prepared my room for her, put a soft blankie under a tall bench I have in there, and draped another lightweight one over it incase she felt like hiding. Took her box from downstairs, out it in my bathroom and got her fresh food and water. When she emerged from her crate she walked (I use that term lightly, she looked like a baby calf)...anyway she went right to her box, played in there for quite a while, looking for buried treasure or whatever she was doing in her drug induced state. When she was finally done, she came over to me and loved on me. It was clear she was not mad at all. Then she attempted to jump on "her" window cill. I didn't want her to hurt herself so I put her back in her crate for a little while.

Throughout the night she started sobering up quite a bit, so I allowed her a little more freedom. Last night it was hard to get her into my room, I had to use a bit of trickery. That was weird because she doesn't like to be left alone in the dark when we go to bed. Once she was in there, just like clockwork; she made me a nice batch of biscuits with her mad paw skills and proceeded to sleep on my head like usual.

Today she is bright eyed and bushy tailed, and she is almost 100% in our routine. With one exception of acting a little skittish this morning, like she thought maybe I was going to bring her back.

Right now she is in the office with me, and as usual she is sitting in my box of envelopes staring at the birds out the window. All is well.

Thank you again for your support. Hugs OOOOOO

Aww, that's great. It's good to read your update!  So happy everything is back to normal for you two!    Hugs back! "We Meowmys have to stick together!"   Glad you found this site!

glad it all worked out!!
 

I know it's not easy to leave your baby at the vet, even for a night! I had to leave mine for 4 days at a vet's boarding while I went through treatments. It was probably more miserable for me, than them!