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I'm so glad to find this forum, and am so very open to any thoughts/feedback/ideas about my kitty problem!
Here's the scoop: A little kitty about 3-4 months old showed up in my yard about 9 weeks ago. At first I thought he was feral, but then his behavior made me think he was maybe a scared stray (e.g., no problem approaching my partner and me for food, and liked to be near us from the beginning, although he didn't want to be touched).
We humanely trapped him and had him neutered & vaccinated 6 weeks ago today, and returned him to his life on our porch and in our yard. In the weeks since the surgery, I was able to work up to daily touching, and even daily petting, during his meal times and also sometimes when he was sleepy he would accept affection, including tilting his head back in bliss while I would pet his nose and forehead.
Now... this whole time he has been living on our porch, he has been contending with other neighborhood animals - un-neutered male cats as well as a few dogs that routinely get loose from their enclosed yard and have come onto the porch and startled our little guy. Up until a few days ago, his tactic was to run and hide from these animals, often spending his nights under some thick foliage at the edge of our yard, only returning to our porch after sunrise. Many mornings he would come back to the porch for breakfast acting a little nervous and looking over his shoulder, but would be able to shake it off pretty quickly and allow me to pet him as he ate.
Three nights ago, however, something different happened: My partner peeked out the window to check on our boy, and we were surprised to see him sleeping on his favorite raised perch on our porch as one of the neighborhood tomcats was also on the porch, drinking from his water dish. In the same breath, one of the dogs started running towards our yard, and as my partner was shooing these animals away, our boy jumped down and chased after the tomcat who is twice his size (!). Then he returned and slept all night on his perch, seemingly refusing to give up his favorite spot to hide in the bushes all night.
And here is where things get confusing: Even though he has slept for three nights now on the porch vs hiding in the bushes, which seems like some sort of progress, he has regressed in another way, to the point of now rejecting all touch from human hands. Whereas for at least 2 weeks before this I was able to pet him freely during meal times, he is now hissing at me pretty fiercely with even the slightest movement of my hands - which is something he hadn't done over the past 3-4 weeks. I don't know whether to think he is just feeling more defensive/protective of his food now b/c of his confrontation w/ the other animals on the porch, or if he has just entered a bratty "teenager" stage where he is asserting more independence, or something else entirely (?).
I don't want to give up on trying to socialize him, as my partner and I will be moving from our home in several months and are very concerned about leaving this little guy behind, as he has been dependent on us for food from such a young age and seems to have no hunting skills. We have been thinking of transitioning him inside when the weather turns cold in the Fall, so that he can then go with us when we move, but now I'm wondering if this is even a realistic thing to pursue, given his recent regression that shows no signs of budging. He still likes to engage with us for play (he has a favorite toy on a stick/string), and still seems to like being near us... but I am perplexed about what has him so scared all of a sudden about human hands, and what I can do about it to help him regain his previous progress with this.
All thoughts are welcome here. Thanks so much! [emoji]9829[/emoji]
Here's the scoop: A little kitty about 3-4 months old showed up in my yard about 9 weeks ago. At first I thought he was feral, but then his behavior made me think he was maybe a scared stray (e.g., no problem approaching my partner and me for food, and liked to be near us from the beginning, although he didn't want to be touched).
We humanely trapped him and had him neutered & vaccinated 6 weeks ago today, and returned him to his life on our porch and in our yard. In the weeks since the surgery, I was able to work up to daily touching, and even daily petting, during his meal times and also sometimes when he was sleepy he would accept affection, including tilting his head back in bliss while I would pet his nose and forehead.
Now... this whole time he has been living on our porch, he has been contending with other neighborhood animals - un-neutered male cats as well as a few dogs that routinely get loose from their enclosed yard and have come onto the porch and startled our little guy. Up until a few days ago, his tactic was to run and hide from these animals, often spending his nights under some thick foliage at the edge of our yard, only returning to our porch after sunrise. Many mornings he would come back to the porch for breakfast acting a little nervous and looking over his shoulder, but would be able to shake it off pretty quickly and allow me to pet him as he ate.
Three nights ago, however, something different happened: My partner peeked out the window to check on our boy, and we were surprised to see him sleeping on his favorite raised perch on our porch as one of the neighborhood tomcats was also on the porch, drinking from his water dish. In the same breath, one of the dogs started running towards our yard, and as my partner was shooing these animals away, our boy jumped down and chased after the tomcat who is twice his size (!). Then he returned and slept all night on his perch, seemingly refusing to give up his favorite spot to hide in the bushes all night.
And here is where things get confusing: Even though he has slept for three nights now on the porch vs hiding in the bushes, which seems like some sort of progress, he has regressed in another way, to the point of now rejecting all touch from human hands. Whereas for at least 2 weeks before this I was able to pet him freely during meal times, he is now hissing at me pretty fiercely with even the slightest movement of my hands - which is something he hadn't done over the past 3-4 weeks. I don't know whether to think he is just feeling more defensive/protective of his food now b/c of his confrontation w/ the other animals on the porch, or if he has just entered a bratty "teenager" stage where he is asserting more independence, or something else entirely (?).
I don't want to give up on trying to socialize him, as my partner and I will be moving from our home in several months and are very concerned about leaving this little guy behind, as he has been dependent on us for food from such a young age and seems to have no hunting skills. We have been thinking of transitioning him inside when the weather turns cold in the Fall, so that he can then go with us when we move, but now I'm wondering if this is even a realistic thing to pursue, given his recent regression that shows no signs of budging. He still likes to engage with us for play (he has a favorite toy on a stick/string), and still seems to like being near us... but I am perplexed about what has him so scared all of a sudden about human hands, and what I can do about it to help him regain his previous progress with this.
All thoughts are welcome here. Thanks so much! [emoji]9829[/emoji]