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post #1 of 27
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Guys...this stress is just about killing me. I honestly don't know if I can take much more of it. It seems like everyday something else happens. Why can't things just be normal for once?

I'm terribly stressed about moving & the whole nine yards. Now, I just was told that they bumped back the day I start my new job to November 3rd instead of October 20th. That would be fine....but I'm moving to the new town on October 11. Starting that day, I'll be on vacation until the 18...but what am I supposed to do until the 3rd? Well, I did ask what the hell I'm supposed to do for a job during that time. They're response was "Well, we could start you as an hourly (cashier or stocker) until you start on the 3rd". That's just peachy...just freaking peachy. How am I supposed to have any respect from people working there when I'm a cashier for a week & then Management the next? Somethings wrong with this picture! I need to sit down, calm down first & figure out if I can afford not to work during that time. I do NOT want to be a cashier during that time or a stocker either.

Damn...why does this kind of crap happen to me?!
Sorry for the rant. I just needed to get this crap off my chest...I'm on the verge of crying at this point.

Thanks for listening to me go off on this. Maybe I should just be happy I've got a job & quit b******.
post #2 of 27
I'm sorry, Shell.
post #3 of 27
That's awful, Shell.

I agree it would probably not be the best thing to work as a cashier in the place you are going to manage...

Maybe you could find some work through a temp agency for those couple of weeks? I used to do that in college, and they often have very short-term assignments, sometimes even just a day or two. It would at least be something...
post #4 of 27
Suzy's right...try a temp agency...if not, sit back and try to enjoy an extra two weeks off

i'm going through a tough time right now too, but i can tell you that you really need to try to keep a positive outlook or else it's going to really weigh you down. in the last 4 weeks, NOTHING has gone right for me. so i sympathize completely.....

just take a few deep breaths and know that everything will be fine!
post #5 of 27
((((((((((((( Shell ))))))))))))) everything will work out !!
post #6 of 27
Ahhh, cheer up Shell.....everything will work out just fine! I agree with Suzy and Raggiemom what a better place then a temp agency to keep you going for a few days. THINK POSSITIVE!
post #7 of 27
Thread Starter 
Thanks Guys! I need to just relax & I'm sure things will calm down. I really could use the extra days off, but it will hurt the wallet a bit. Maybe I should borrow more money from the bank...

I think things will get better once I'm moved & settled into my new apartment. Plus it might give me & Ric some time alone to enjoy each other a bit more. With all of this crap happening, we haven't had much time for each other. Poor guy is out of a job & is frantically looking for one. Like I said, I should be greatful for having a job...especially seeing how stressed his about that.

Well, thanks Guys! Thanks for cheering me up!
post #8 of 27
Hey, Shell, that's a bummer. But, you know, it sounds like, if you can at all afford to take the extra time, it may turn out to be a blessing in disguise. If you can treat it as pure down time, it may be restorative in ways you never imagined, especially if it gives you some much needed time to be with your partner. And if a day or two from a temp agency comes along -- bonus!!
post #9 of 27
Shell that is a complete bummer Is there anyway you can just relax and decorate you new place those 2 weeks? I know that with money short and all it will be extra hard that's for sure. I don't blame you for not doing the cashier/bagger thing. That would not look good at all for the other employees.

{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}
post #10 of 27
I ditto what everyone here has said. Its good to take some time off, even though the wallet is tight. It was out of your hands. take some picnics (ok, it might be too cold) or go sightseeing through your new area. I dont know. something thats relaxing and wont stress the pocketbook as much.
post #11 of 27
Well, I have always been told I walk to the beat of a different
drummer(lol).

Before I started my Management position with a large newspaper, I offered to work in some of the other Dept's. I had already received my training and had a week, without work.
I worked in some of the lowest paid Dept's, and if anything it made me appreciate my upcoming position even more. I learned a lot, met some interesting people, and made a few friends.

If this is not a option for you, then I say if you can, relax and enjoy the two weeks off.

Good luck.
post #12 of 27
Awwwwww! Hey Shell, you are obviously going through some REALLY BIG (but positive) changes this year. All of that change could stress anyone out! All of this during the holidays, too! `grin` Heck, girl! Sounds like you could definitely use the 2 weeks to settle in (like you said) , kick back, plan, etc...

OK! Hold your arms open coz' I'm sending you a really BIG HUG!!

post #13 of 27
That sucks Shell. I think they should compensate you for moving the date ahead. It's not fair to give you a job that will not establish you as a boss. Can you talk them into some better options?
post #14 of 27
Shell do you have more vacation time you can use? It might really be a blessing in disguise. Just think, you'll have time to really settle in to your apartment and arrange and rearrange everything! It sounds funny but it always takes forever for me to find that exact spot I want everything!
post #15 of 27
hey there shell, i am so sorry you are going through this crap, but i know the feeling, seems like crap finds me also, try and cheer up, the extra stress isnt good for ya, i hope this all works out for ya and your in your new job soon, just hang in there girl
post #16 of 27
Thread Starter 
Awww..thanks Guys! Thanks Kim for the big ol Hug! I really needed that!

I just did some figuring & found that the only way I can afford to take the 2 weeks off is to borrow more money. I get paid the 9th & 23rd of this month, but it's one week off. So in November I won't get a paycheck until the 20th...and I can't afford it. I could borrow 3000 & make it, but it's going to be awfully tight.

If I would have known about them changing the date, I could have worked my vacation differently. I have 40 hours to take & I'm taking them the 11-17. I've already taken the rest of the hours (25 of them) already because I was told I needed to use them by the 20th. So...I've been totally screwed over & I'm not liking it at all.

I told my Store Manager about it & she came unglued. She said that she'll be talking to Larry (my District Manager...the one who has screwed this all up!) tomorrow & is letting him have it! Maybe he'll feel sorry for me & give me some money for all of this. I could surely use it now!

Thanks again everyone! I really appreciate it!
post #17 of 27
Yeah, keep on it Shell. As I always say, "The squeaky wheel gets the bird!"
post #18 of 27
Thread Starter 
Thanks Ryan! I can honestly say I've never heard that motto before! It definitely made me smile...which has been hard to do today!

Thanks for crackin' me up tonight!
post #19 of 27
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Originally posted by Shell
Thanks Ryan! I can honestly say I've never heard that motto before! It definitely made me smile...which has been hard to do today!

Thanks for crackin' me up tonight!
You're welcome Shell. Try to remember that saying when you're somewhere quiet, with a lot of people around, and you shouldn't be laughing out loud. Then try other mixes like, "the oily bird squeaks the wheel"... or "the squeaky bird oils the worm"... or no wait, how about "the boily worm wheaks the squeel"... or something like that.
post #20 of 27
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Originally posted by SkyKitty
Ahhh, cheer up Shell.....everything will work out just fine! I agree with Suzy and Raggiemom what a better place then a temp agency to keep you going for a few days. THINK POSSITIVE!
Shell I've been thinking about your situation and I have to take back what I said about agreeing with Suzy and Raggiemom. I don't know the full story as to how you got this job but I don't think that will matter with what I have to say now.

I think that the people that are working at the store right now probably don't even like you as you got the Manager position and not one of them did. I think that it would be a great opportunity for you to be a CASHIER for a little while. Get to know the staff and see what's going on. Become a friend first...learn about the job that they are doing and how hard it is. Let them see you as "ONE" of them, I think after that they will like you a whole lot better!

As someone once said, "Let me know after you've walked a mile in my shoes."

Knowing me I probably misquoted!
post #21 of 27
Thread Starter 
April, thanks for your opinion. It's a weird situation all the way around. Here's a little about it. I've been working in my store for 10 years. I started out as a cashier, then moved to the Clothing part, then a Customer Service Manager (I was there for almost 4 years). I then wanted & needed a change so I started working as a Pharmacy Technician in the Pharmacy. I was there for almost 5 years. I just recently changed my position & am a Support Manager for the entire store. So, I've done just about everything & still do everything from cashiering to bring in carts to selling guns. I applied to go into the Management Training Program (which is a hard thing to get into) & that's why I'll be moving to another town. I will be there for 5 months during my training & after that I'll be sent to yet another store where I'll be their Assistant Manager. It's not that I don't want to cashier, but it's all about respecting Management. At my store now, I don't get the respect that the Asst. Manager or the Store Manager gets because everyone knows me as "the girl who worked herself up from the bottom, but yet is too new into Management to know anything". Once I go into another store, they would only know me as Management...nothing else. It's hard to explain, but it's really important to have your associates respect the Management. If they see me as a Cashier first, they don't have to respect me then. It will just be weird to be their Management after that. Hope that makes sense...it really is hard to describe what I mean.

I did talk to my Store Manager who talked to the District Manager this morning. He said that he would try to work with me & have me fill in where I would be needed once I get up there on the 20th. So hopefully I won't have to be too much in the publics eye for those 2 weeks. I really don't know until I talk to him personally on Monday. I'm sure it will all turn out ok in the end, it's just an extra burden with I didn't need at the moment.
post #22 of 27
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Originally posted by Hydroaxe
You're welcome Shell. Try to remember that saying when you're somewhere quiet, with a lot of people around, and you shouldn't be laughing out loud. Then try other mixes like, "the oily bird squeaks the wheel"... or "the squeaky bird oils the worm"... or no wait, how about "the boily worm wheaks the squeel"... or something like that.
OMG Ryan! You crack me up so much! I'm definitely going to remember "the boily worm wheaks the squeel"! LOL! Thanks so much for cheering me up when I really needed it!
post #23 of 27
Shell in that case I know that in your heart you will find the right answer. Hey, if your Store Manager can talk to the District Manager and get you some work in the meantime that sounds pretty good!

I wish you nothing but the best, Shell!
post #24 of 27
Thread Starter 
Thanks April!
post #25 of 27
Shell, does Lincoln have more than one store? If so, maybe you can fill in, at a different store. Hope that everything works out for you.
post #26 of 27
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Originally posted by Shell
OMG Ryan! You crack me up so much! I'm definitely going to remember "the boily worm wheaks the squeel"! LOL! Thanks so much for cheering me up when I really needed it!
-glad you could have a laugh Shell. Hopefully your store manager and district manager can be talked into giving you a better alternative than giving your co-workers the wrong impression. Otherwise, I think your way with people will pull you through. You're very outgoing.
post #27 of 27
Shell- That's a bummer hope everything gets sussed out.

Hugs ((()))
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