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post #31 of 41
If you look all the way to the left of the messages you will see that under everyones name (that chooses to have it there) the town and country they are from. I am from a small town between Baton Rouge and New Orleans, Louisiana. 2000+ mile away from Kittyfoot. Sigh
post #32 of 41
It sure is,but don't trip or you'll be out of town by the time you hit dirt.:tounge2: Actually it's a nice little place with a huge hothouse where I delivered peat moss from NB. Look just NE of Baltimore on a map,follow rt 140 to Taneytown then drop down to rt 77.
Right there with Keymar. Truckers go everywhere.
post #33 of 41
I saw it, but I couldn't understand what NB & CA meant. in the USA it's city, then state, so using that logic I couldn't figure out why there were 2 abbreviations for states.
post #34 of 41
you come down to baltimore?
post #35 of 41
My husband and I dated for 3 months, were engaged for 3 months and then got married. That was almost 10 years ago now. However, we did know each other as friends for about a year before we started dating, but we didn't know each other well. The reason we rushed this was because he was going into the army, and we wanted to get married before he was shipped off.

We have a very strong marriage, but I also think this is by the grace of God, not due to the way we went about it. If my daughter tries to do this, I'll freak! I didn't know Doug all that well when we got married, so I was in for quite a surprise. Thankfully, we've weathered the storms and have come out well so far. We didn't have children until our 5th year together, so that also helped.

I think a more lengthy dating/engagement period would have been better, but I would never have lived with him before we got married. I just don't believe in it. (I'm Southern Baptist, that says it all! )

Anyway, just my 2 cents...
post #36 of 41
I met my husband in a bar when I was 20. I knew him exactly 7 months and we decided to move in together. My father said "No daughter of mine is going to live in sin." So we got married. 6 months later my father moved in with his girlfriend (later my stepmonster). My marriage lasted 4 years and produced a daughter, Amy Elizabeth, who is now 25 and my joyest treasure of that whole fiasco.

Talk about the saying "Don't do as I do, do as I say".

What can I say?? I was young and stupid.
post #37 of 41
This subject I know about from personal experience. I met my 2nd husband and was married 2 1/2 months later, no living together beforehand. We had 22 years together before he died of cancer.
My first marriage, we dated and the usual teenage stuff, got married and had 3 kids, in the meantime he was doing anything in any skirt.
Knowing for long time, living together, not living together, I don't think any of it makes alot of difference as to whether your marriage works or not. You have to love each other, LIKE each other and both of you work on the marriage and give at least 100% all of the time.
I'll take a breather now.

post #38 of 41

It really does come down to 2 people who are willing to do the work that it takes to make the thing work.
post #39 of 41
I've never been married so I can't really judge on marriage but I do agree that a good relationship does not take only love - it takes a lot of work on both sides and a lot of understanding. If you never move a finger and try to understand the person in front of you then it will never work out.
I've had enough bad relationships and the one I'm now makes me happy because it is fulfilling although not as exciting as many of the previous. We've been together for three years and now I can hardly imagine what would life be if I had to start again without him. Still, from time to time I do envy my friends who do not have serious relationships. This seems to take some of the excitement out of life but in return it does bring new things into it, which are no less interesting.
post #40 of 41
Donna - My daughter's name is Amy Elizabeth too! It's such a beautiful name. I haven't come across any others expect your daughter that has it. Pretty neat.
post #41 of 41
MeowMan- I can tell you from experience that being married a month after meeting is NOT a good idea. There is no such thing as love at first sight. Or first impression for that matter. i serously think it would be better if two people got to know each other. One thing, though, I can't live with my boyfriend. It is not morally correct in my church. I am not saying that two people have to get married before getting to know each other. It is okay for me for a couple to live together and get to know each other before signing papers and having children. But in my society, I personally have to be married before sharing my bed. Even if I am an adult, my family and friends, would put me under pressure to marry.
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