July 4 is coming -- my least favorite day.

July 4 will be 7 years since my BJ went to Rainbow Bridge. I don't know if it's normal to still mourn on that day, but I'll never forget that July 4 when we had to rush him to the emergency vet and make that heartbreaking decision to say goodbye.

Of course it's normal. He was one of your babies, you will always miss him.   I am torn when it comes to the 4th. I love beautiful fireworks,

but there's a stadium just a few doors down from me that always sets some off on or before the 4th, & it scares Angel to death!

He's not even afraid when it thunders, but those big loud bangs send him behind the couch, or under the bed.

I'll be making sure I put some Rescue Remedy on a couple of treats for him ahead of time this year!

 It is very normal to still grieve when you think of it being the anniversary of the death of someone you love .   and when that anniversary is on a holiday,   I think that might make it stand out more.    Since you loved BJ so much , it is natural you would still feel sadness on that day.   and you should just let yourself feel it.  

 But hopefully by now,  usually the rest of the time,  you are able to mostly remember the happy times.   

Re the fireworks,  there are a lot in my neighborhood.  but my crazy cats apparently think it's fun.  they sit in the window! 

 It gets better, but the sadness never really goes away. I always think of the Queen B on August 10, too. And on her birthday, September 20. I miss her so much.

Your other furkids help you. And I know how much you love them, too.

You are as normal as the rest of us.  My beloved Misty went to the Bridge on Nov. 22, 2008 and five years later I still think of her often.  I pray for her soul every night and her picture is on my wall.  No....we never forget them and will mourn them for the rest of our lives. 
 

Thanks everyone- I know it's normal for us cat and animal lovers, but there are some people out there who would think it's crazy. They don't know the love that they're missing.

Yes, Tony, Angel and Tippytoes bring us such great joy. And I feel a special bond with Tony when we remember BJ. Tony worshipped the ground that BJ walked on and BJ adored Tony. When we first brought Tony home I thought there would be jealousy, but after a day or so when BJ had a chance to figure out what Tony was, he totally became Tony's mother. He groomed him, played with him - and when Tony would hear BJ walking by and heard the little bell on his collar he would race to be with him.

Thanks again - I know all of you understand how I feel, since BJ was my special little guy.

I completely understand. I remember dates (good and bad) like the back of my hand. It makes holidays even harder when we go through a loss that day. and a few BJ

*hugs*

On July 3rd it will be 3 years since I made the decision to let my baby Chynna go. It was so hard to do, and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her.  I still miss her so much.

I'm glad you have other furbabies to help ease the pain.  My Cole passed four years ago and I have a picture of him up on my wall right next to my Mom's picture (she passed in 2008).  Two of the souls I miss quite often and it helps to have their pictures there.  I once read the pain a person feels upon a persons or cat's passing is the cost of loving them so deeply and completely.  It seemed to be the truth to me when I read it and I would still agree with it.  Without great and deep love the pain would not linger with us until we too move on.    Just remember it doesn't matter what others think, and try to be extra kind to yourself when this day rolls around each year. 

Feralvr said:

I completely understand. I remember dates (good and bad) like the back of my hand. It makes holidays even harder when we go through a loss that day.

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There isn't a day that goes by that I still don't think about the furkids I've lost & loved - especially my Maverick. And when Jan. 4th comes around, I know exactly what decision I had to make on that horrible day over 3 years ago. I also remember the date Nov. 6th, when I lost Cassidy suddenly - not to mention all those other times I lost one of my furbabies. The pain lessens in time, but the sadness never goes away.

What you're feeling is purrfectly normal.