My kitty Pearl passed away about 2 months ago. She had numerous health problems by that time, and she was euthanized at home with me.
I thought the worst of my grief was over, but I had a terrible dream last night.
I had a dream that, in her final months as she began to slide into serious illness, I had been convinced to put her up for adoption and send her away.
A couple months later, I found out she was still up for adoption. I went to visit her.
For some reason, she was being kept in a filthy basement full of cockroaches. It was dark, and she was all alone down there. She'd been put in some kind of "reject" pile and cornered off. She had sores all over her body and missing patches of fur. She was so depressed and lonely and sick. The dream was so vivid I actually recall the feeling of her damaged skin under my fingers.
I took her back home, and that's when I woke up.
This is not something I could ever imagine myself doing, obviously. I don't know where this dream came from, or where this guilt is coming from.
My only idea is that it's related to my last apartment.
My last apartment was a duplex that wasn't in the best neighborhood. I had been charmed by the beautiful turn-of-the-century building, without looking at the shape it was in or the location. It was a silly mistake.
It turned out my downstairs neighbor was a hoarder, and I wound up with her cockroach infestation migrating into my apartment. It was impossible to get rid of because there were so many cracks in the infrastructure of the building, and they would just hide and then come back again. It was also complicated to treat because I had Pearl there, and I didn't want them spraying in places she would go. I actually had the kitchen totally sectioned off for a while to keep her out, but I worried anyway.
I did move somewhere much better about 6 months before she died.
Pearl had been sick since before we moved there. I know, at least intellectually, that this didn't cause her illnesses.
But this is the first time I have lost an animal of my own. Some childish part of me believes that if I had done a good enough job, she just wouldn't have gotten sick at all, and she'd still be here.
I didn't know I was still harboring that kind of guilt, but that dream has put me in an awful mood.
I thought the worst of my grief was over, but I had a terrible dream last night.
I had a dream that, in her final months as she began to slide into serious illness, I had been convinced to put her up for adoption and send her away.
A couple months later, I found out she was still up for adoption. I went to visit her.
For some reason, she was being kept in a filthy basement full of cockroaches. It was dark, and she was all alone down there. She'd been put in some kind of "reject" pile and cornered off. She had sores all over her body and missing patches of fur. She was so depressed and lonely and sick. The dream was so vivid I actually recall the feeling of her damaged skin under my fingers.
I took her back home, and that's when I woke up.
This is not something I could ever imagine myself doing, obviously. I don't know where this dream came from, or where this guilt is coming from.
My only idea is that it's related to my last apartment.
My last apartment was a duplex that wasn't in the best neighborhood. I had been charmed by the beautiful turn-of-the-century building, without looking at the shape it was in or the location. It was a silly mistake.
It turned out my downstairs neighbor was a hoarder, and I wound up with her cockroach infestation migrating into my apartment. It was impossible to get rid of because there were so many cracks in the infrastructure of the building, and they would just hide and then come back again. It was also complicated to treat because I had Pearl there, and I didn't want them spraying in places she would go. I actually had the kitchen totally sectioned off for a while to keep her out, but I worried anyway.
I did move somewhere much better about 6 months before she died.
Pearl had been sick since before we moved there. I know, at least intellectually, that this didn't cause her illnesses.
But this is the first time I have lost an animal of my own. Some childish part of me believes that if I had done a good enough job, she just wouldn't have gotten sick at all, and she'd still be here.
I didn't know I was still harboring that kind of guilt, but that dream has put me in an awful mood.
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