I need help

I have to move to a different state this friday. I have to bring my cat, I can't leave her or give her to a shelter or someone else. she is 2 years old and never known anyone but me or had anyone take care of her but me. she is literally my baby. she's coming with me, but when i get there, she has to live outside. i know this is absolutely horrible and i literally can't stop crying but i have to move and i have to bring her with me! the year is big and fenced, and it has a clubhouse/playhouse thing in the back as well so she will have an indoor area to go in to sleep and eat and when it's raining or cold or something, and I will put her pillow and blankets and her little cat house thing in there and I will be out there playing with her at least 90% of the time. I feel absolutely horrible. She's going to think I don't love her or care about her anymore and that's not the case at all!! She's been inside her entire life and she's 2 years old. She always tries to get out but I've never let her out, I didn't expect this to happen or want this to happen. What am I supposed to do. I really really don't want to try and give her to someone else. I've been her mother for her entire life since she was only a couple of weeks old. 

Welcome to the site and yes, moving is very stressful for us and for our kitties. I asked your thread be moved to another forum - SOS as it seems that you need help in knowing you are doing the right thing for your kitty. :nod:

I think as long as the outdoor enclosure is completely safe and there is no way your cat can escape nor allow any outside animals in the enclosure/yard then your cat should be alright. I would spend many hours with her in the yard each day after you move. It might even be better to keep her in a bathroom for a few days after you move before letting her outside just so she can feel that this is her new home and territory.

Also, why can't she live indoors anymore after you move?

I will spend pretty much the entire time with her especially for the first 2 weeks or so, and even after that the only time I'll really be gone is when I'm working or sleeping. It won't be possible to have her indoors at all even for the first few days, if I could do that I'd feel a lot better about the whole thing. I just don't want her to think I don't care about her or love her anymore, and I'm hoping since she has a little house outside and the yard is fenced in and I'll be out there with her as much as possible she won't think that. She has to live outside when I move because my aunt and uncle(who I'll be living with) are extremely allergic to cats and she sheds a lot. I said I'd keep her in my room if I had to but they said that's not a good life for a cat(I know it's not but it's better than not having her at all) and that the a/c would still cause her fur to be pushed around the house and stuff. The only solution they could come up with is to have her outside in the back and try to train her on a leash so that she knows to stay in the backyard. She tries to get out of my house all the time but it's just that it'll be in a completely new place and she won't even be able to come inside the actual house if she's scared. I just feel absolutely horrible for this but I love her so much and I don't want to give her away or to a shelter because then she'd definitely think I just don't love her or want her anymore. 

It is plain to see how much you love this cat. :heart3: Also, very important, is she spayed??? I want to stress how important that it is she be completely and securely enclosed in that yard before you just let her out. Putting her on a leash and showing her the back yard most likely will not suffice. She may easily be able to get over or under the fence. She needs to be confined for a few weeks on the property in the backyard before you let her go. If not, I fear you are in for much more emotional pain as she will likely disappear and get lost trying to find her way back to her home territory. Is there anyway to get the help of your uncle/aunt in building a temporary enclosure around the little house in the back yard? There are large outdoor dog pens that you could also purchase. Not sure on the price but I have seen them at Home improvement stores. You could put the little house inside of this enclosure. It has a roof too so she cannot escape during her confinement. After a few weeks, then you could just leave the door open and everything the same inside of the enclosure for her to come back to and feel safe. You could even close her in there at night. They have tops you can get too that will help protect her from rain, etc. This is just an example of one you could build or piece together with sections. It may take some research and looking but I bet you could build one similar to keep her temporarily confined during this transition. Even so, there is always a risk letting a cat live outdoors and you need to be prepared for her to possibly disappear.

I hope that maybe your aunt/uncle will help you with your cat knowing how much you love her. :cross: