I got a new kitten on Friday night (Sunday morning now). He (Jasper) is about 10 - 12 weeks old. I got him at a local vet. Jasper and his brother and sister were found in someone's backyard and cared for in a foster home. He had been up for adoption at the vets for about 2 weeks. He is a very shy kitty and I'm curious about the best way to help him settle in and learn to trust me. I think the foster carer and vet nurses handled him as much as possible but mostly by holding him in a blanket so he can hide. He was even hiding under a blanket at the vets!! Poor things were kept in a display window which I think would have been quite stressful. I have held him twice since getting him home, also in a blanket. He purrs (anxious?) and lets me pat him while being held, but he gets away at the first opportunity. Mostly he spends his time hiding which is understandable. He comes out to eat, use litter, and will play with me but he is very wary and darts back into hiding if I make a sudden move. He changed hiding places last night to under the coffee table next to me so I think that's a good sign. At night he comes out more to play, but he also cries and tries to work out an escape route. What I'm really wondering is whether I should be trying to pick him up and hold him at this stage? Or should I wait for him to gain confidence around me first? I'm thinking its the latter. My idea is to sit near him when he eats, play with him as much as possible, talk to him etc. I will gradually get him used to being patted and then move on to holding him. Does that sound ok? I'm just worried that he is used to being held by carers and if I give him a break, he will not like it ever! I don't really mind if he is never a cuddly cat, if that's his personality. I just want him to trust me, and hopefully like my company. When I got him home, I made the mistake of putting him in the living room/kitchen which is where I spend most of the time. I've even been sleeping in the living room! I realise now I probably should have given him somewhere smaller and quieter. It's just me living on my own though so I hope I haven't stressed him too much.