Pray for my Grandma.....

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Oh my...many prayers go out to her...hopefully she will find God this way. My grandmother passed away in June, and it is still very hard. I just hope that everything turns out ok with her. Have you asked her why she stopped going? Remind her everyday that God DOES love her!!
 
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Originally posted by lotsofkids
I am so sorry your grandmother is sick! One a semi-bright note they wouldn't be operating if they didn't think she's got a good chance.

I know first hand how hard it is to watch a loved one battling cancer. I'm worried about your grandmother, but I'm also worried about YOU. You need to take care of yourself too. Make sure to take time for yourself. You won't do anyone any good if you're burnt out. I know you said you don't want to talk about it here, but it's a good idea to have someone you can talk to, and I mean someone you'll be comfortable with, not someone you have to mince words with, or hold things back because you're embarassed. Speaking from experience if you try to hold it all in to present a strong front to everyone it's gonna explode out sometime, most likely at the WORST possible time.

I'm not being pessimistic here. Even if everything comes out wonderfully there are going to be alot of emotions running around! I'll be thinking of your Grandmother, you and your family!
I didnt think of it that way...I guess they wouldnt want to waste their time.

I do worry about me too(not as much as I should) because I've seen what losing his grandmother to lung cancer did to Lyle(Fiancee). He's still upset and it's been almost 3 years. I dont want to be affected that way...and I think my body knows that cause everytime I'm in his arms, I cant cry about this. It's weird...I've struggled with crying too much for years and now I cant cry when I need too. As for talking about it...it depresses me and makes me understand this is real. I just wanted you guys to pray cause there's only a few family members that are praying and I dont feel it will be enough. I guess I just want to feel less helpless and like God will fix everything like usual.

Thanks for the prayers and thoughts *hugs* Oh and sorry you had to go through this too....hope your doing OK
 

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Having difficulty crying doesn't make you wierd. I'm the same way. Crying makes me feel weak, then I feel worse about everything. It sounds like your fiancee is definitely there for you if you do decide you want to talk eventually.


To be perfectly frank I didn't get sad often. I got tee totally pissed. Got alot of relief out of going to a batting cage and pounding the *&%$ out of some softballs. When I couldn't get out there I'd take a hammer and annihilate random sticks of wood.(Outside, leaned up against my porch.) Let me vent and didn't hurt anyone.

Yup, I'm fine, thank you for asking.
 

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I am so sorry about your grandma having cancer - I too, will pray that she will make a full recovery.

((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))
 
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Originally posted by lotsofkids
Having difficulty crying doesn't make you wierd. I'm the same way. Crying makes me feel weak, then I feel worse about everything. It sounds like your fiancee is definitely there for you if you do decide you want to talk eventually.


To be perfectly frank I didn't get sad often. I got tee totally pissed. Got alot of relief out of going to a batting cage and pounding the *&%$ out of some softballs. When I couldn't get out there I'd take a hammer and annihilate random sticks of wood.(Outside, leaned up against my porch.) Let me vent and didn't hurt anyone.

Yup, I'm fine, thank you for asking.
I feel weird...well mainly stupid when I cry thats what was making it harder to stop. Now I have a reason to cry and can't...Lyle is there for me 100%, but with his wounds still open I feel so guilty talking to him about it.

I've been more pissed than sad too. I seem to deal better hitting things. I put 4 t-posts in the ground a couple of days ago and I kept hammering and hammering untill I couldnt anymore. It felt good to hit them, atleast until I hit my shin. I just want this all to go away. It's not fair...I know it's a different Cancer, but why did Lyle and I both have to have something like this happen to our Grandmothers?
 
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Her surgery is at 8AM my time. I dont know how long it will take them. As soon as I hear something I will let you all know. Thanks for your prayers...and I hope they help save her. I've not been able to sleep...it's 2:17 AM, but I have to try now for my cat's sake. I have alot of chores to take over and do now.
 

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"It's not fair...I know it's a different Cancer, but why did Lyle and I both have to have something like this happen to our Grandmothers?"


Again looking for that bright side, no matter how small. Sometimes stress can forge a bond between two people like nothing else can. Granted it can also drive you apart, but that doesn't sound like the case with you and Lyle. While my Mom was battling leukemia Jeff(dh) was my rock. He had seen his own mother fighting medical battles for years and really understood what I was going through. Through incredibly bad timing, he also had major family issues(that stuff is posted in IMO under Neglect or not) going on at the same time. On top of that I was either extremely pregnant(I'm gonna have to post a pic sometime lol) or dealing with new twins at the same time all that stuff was going on. We had the year from hell, and we're still here. We're closer than we've ever been, and I feel a bond with him that I can't imagine with any other man.

Geez I can ramble, anyway, the point I was trying to get to was that if you and Lyle can make it through a period when your grandmother is sick, and he's still recovering then you can most likely make it through most things.
 

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I will keep your grandma in my prayers today. The surgery should last about 2 hours. My mom was diagnosed with uterine cancer in March and she is doing fine now. I hope that she breezes thru the surgery.
 
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Well the surgery is over. I'd have let you know what happened sooner, but I had alot of chores to do. My aunt couldnt give me many details over the phone, but she said that the surgery went well and was faster and easier than the doctors expected it to be. They think they got it all, but are going to do some tests on her again to make sure. Nancy(aunt) said she wont call unless something happens, so I wont know any more details until either tonight or tommorow morning depending on when Nancy comes home(either tonight or tommorow).
Looks like the prayers worked(for now- I dont want to be TOO hopefull)Thanks for your prayers!!! I'm still in shock a bit because I wasnt expecting her to make it with her age...I'm happy though and cant wait to let her know she was prayed for. She always says prayer doesnt do anything...HA!! This might prove it to her
 
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Originally posted by kidsncats
"It's not fair...I know it's a different Cancer, but why did Lyle and I both have to have something like this happen to our Grandmothers?"

Again looking for that bright side, no matter how small. Sometimes stress can forge a bond between two people like nothing else can. We had the year from hell, and we're still here. We're closer than we've ever been, and I feel a bond with him that I can't imagine with any other man.
That's what I've been hoping. I just hate that this happened at all. This has been hard enough for him without having to comfort me too. I dont like feeling guilty about talking to him and bringing back memories. Last night he said that he doesnt care and that he wants to help me. He said it's not my fault it happens and that he understands I need him. I guess he'd feel worse not helping me and seeing me sad, then to be reminded of her 'cause according to him he thinks of her almost daily anyway.
 
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Originally posted by adymarie
I will keep your grandma in my prayers today. The surgery should last about 2 hours. My mom was diagnosed with uterine cancer in March and she is doing fine now. I hope that she breezes thru the surgery.
Thanks for the prayers. How long did it take your mom to recover?? Grandma said before she left she wanted to be home in a week, but I dont see how they'll allow that after that big of a surgery.
 

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Mom was home in about 1 week - but they sent her home too early due to SARS at the hospital. They were tossing patients out before they were ready. Due to her size (she is a size 24-26) it was more difficult for her to recover. She ended up getting a nasty infection in her incision as a result of the fat. She had home care daily for 8 weeks to keep the incision clean. Other then the infection, she was pretty much back to normal within 3-4 weeks.

I will still keep your grandma in my prayers as I know how tough it is for someone after surgery. My mom is now cancer free and I am sure your grandma is too!
 
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I figured that all of you that have been praying would like to see what she looks like. This photo is from 2000. She hates getting photos taken and these were a christmas present at a studio for my aunt and uncle. I'm with her in this one. I look like crap lol. This is when I still lived with my parents and had to dress the way mother made me. I had NO sense of personal style.
 
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Originally posted by adymarie
Mom was home in about 1 week - but they sent her home too early due to SARS at the hospital. They were tossing patients out before they were ready. Due to her size (she is a size 24-26) it was more difficult for her to recover. She ended up getting a nasty infection in her incision as a result of the fat. She had home care daily for 8 weeks to keep the incision clean. Other then the infection, she was pretty much back to normal within 3-4 weeks.

I will still keep your grandma in my prayers as I know how tough it is for someone after surgery. My mom is now cancer free and I am sure your grandma is too!
I'm glad your mom is ok now. Sorry you all had to go through this too. Grandma is overweight too...hope she doesnt get and infection. She's so stubborn and set in her ways that I wouldnt be suprised if she did. She plans to leave there and be back home working in a week!! I hope she is cancer free too.
 

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That is a lovely pic! She doesn't look too overweight in the pic, so she should be fine. I will continue my prayers to be sure!
 

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I'm so glad to hear she came through sugergy OK and that they think they got it all!
 
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Originally posted by adymarie
That is a lovely pic! She doesn't look too overweight in the pic, so she should be fine. I will continue my prayers to be sure!
She'd die for sure if she knew I posted that photo!!
She weighs alot more now...she eats nothing but bacon tommatoe sandwhiches and uses tooooooo much manaise and butter on stuff. She never will listen to me that she should eat healthier. That's one thing that always worried me...she doesnt try to take care of herself.
 
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