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Ok so what is wrong is my mama cat Tabby is jealouse of her baby Buddy when it comes to attention. Do you think its from her being in heat or from her being the only cat for 3 months. She was agressive towards one of the cats out back that snuck in one day. Could that have been from being pregnant or just her not wanting other cats around we are keeping her baby that's why I need to know cause I also need to know how to keep her from getting jealouse of her baby when it comes to us giving him attention but other than that she is a very good mother.

Sorry if I am not understanding this properly, but is she now in heat after birthing her kitten? That would be why she is acting aggressive towards her kitten. When we went to visit my new kitten at about 8 weeks her mother was in heat and was sort of irritated with the babies because she was in some discomfort from being in heat (kind of like cat PMS). I would ask the vet when you can get her spayed because that should make her calmer and less aggressive towards other cats. I sometimes wish I could get spayed so I could be calmer during that special time of the month haha

Lol I already asked cat welfare cause right now we are tight on cash and her kitten was unexpected. They said wait till her kitten is weaned to spay her and wait till he is 2lbs or 3 months to nueter him

I agree I wish that I could get spayed also but someone told me that you can't get yourself fixed till you are a sertin age or have at least 2 kids I think it is.

I would for sure call your vet to see what age she/he recommends doing it.

They often gets to 2 lbs earlier than at 3 months, so usually they can be spayed earlier.  So it is prob correct they told you, 2 lbs or 3 months, whichever comes first.

If your vet is oldfashioned and wants them to be 6 - may be OK, esp for late bloomers, but consider using a vet who does it earlier. At least for the spaying itself. 

I'm using cat welfare cause they are doing hers for 65 (with deworming and vacination) and his for 75 (with deworming and vacination). After we get the part that would make them a big bill out of the way(again tight on money) we are going to get a normal vet. We love our cats and don't want anymore plus we are just getting back on our feet after a very low money spell(now going to be up to low money or at least alil better than low money. They are going to have their rabies and everything done when they go in for their spay/ nueter. I just needed advice for when she starts getting jelouse till after she stops being in heat

Oh I got them confused just looked at my last post its his for 65 hers for 75.

Jealously is just something that happens in multi-cat homes, especially when you have a Queen who only had one baby. One kitten is not enough to keep her attention and keep her mind solely in the maternal role so, in some ways, she may see him as a threat. It's entirely possible that she has gone back into heat and that's causing her aggression, or she saw the other cat and was feeling maternally possessive. Really, there is just no way to know. 

What you can do is make sure you are giving her ample attention. If I remember the baby is around 3 weeks or so. While handling him is good your main focus should still be on her. As he grows and matures you can start to divide up your time more. I have one feline who is more prone to jealously so I always give him a little play session and individualized attention before I spend time with the other. If he acts aggressively about it though then he gets a time out- I have no patience for that here. At this point you can't really separate them and just need to make due, but as he gets older then you can. Also, be sure you are giving her playtime and try to distract her with a game or a treat if another cat comes near the house. 

It's great that you plan on getting them both dewormed, vaccinated, and altered just remember it's going to take more than one trip. Kitten FVRCP vaccines are given in a series of three usually starting around 7-8 weeks. Dewormers are oftentimes done twice. If possible you should refrain from giving any shots (especially rabies) when they have their surgeries as their bodies are under enough stress. Hopefully the place you are going through charges the one rate to cover the multiple visits. If not, you will need to prioritize and budget accordingly. Getting them both altered should be at the top of the list, especially if you are keeping the kitten. Once he reaches sexual maturity he WILL mate with his mother. Cats don't recognize familial bonds the way humans do, and inbreeding can cause all sorts of deformities and other health problems. 

I also saw in another thread that you wanted to foster which I think is great. The easiest way to start fostering is to start as a volunteer with the shelter you want to work with. That way you can get to know the staff and they can get to know you over an extended period of time. Before you start with any shelter be sure to do your research as some cover more for fosters than others do. My shelter pays for vet care but everything else is out of pocket. Meaning, I am responsible for food, litter, bedding, litterboxes, EVERYTHING. And, it adds up quick! Other shelters will cover these costs through donations but it means you are always having to switch food and litter brands and have to go down there to pick it up. While fostering is an amazing experience that I wish everyone would have it's not something you want to dive right into, which is why I recommend volunteering first. It allows you to take your time and find the right fit. If you do volunteer make sure you change your clothes before coming home (mainly your shoes). You don't want to bring anything into the house that can infect such a young kitten! Ideally, you want to wait until after both are fully vaccinated. 

I told the people at cat welfare (where I'm going to get him and her done at) that he is this age (I can't remember how old he was at time I called them) they just told me to wait till he is weaned and then call them back.