Quit my job

I have now handed in my notice at work. It's a bit of a sticky situation really as I'm not actually going into another job so this may sound kind of stupid but there is a lot of reasons why I had to leave, the main being treated unequally within my company compared to the others in the office. A colleague called me an idiot, simply for not securing something beforehand but I knew (As I had tried before) if I had continued on whilst searching for a job I would have become stuck in my job again. I started looking last year for work and my manager, who knows most managers who work in offices (My town is small) was, behind my back, telling them not to take me on. I realised I couldn't then leave as I'd have no money at all and rewind to now, I am still stuck..

Well, actually not now as I leave on the 2nd of May. This may sound a stupid decision but I just can't stay in my job any longer. I know you're lucky if you have a job today and I am thankful to my company for ever giving me a job but it's time to spread my wings and fly. That, and I'm young (Not even twenty) and I need to start realising what I want to do with my life whilst I am young and try new things and do some exploring. You only live once. I just don't want to be stuck in a crap job ten years down the line and know I can't do anything else as the time is too late. A lot of colleagues in work even said they're trapped and know they can't do anything else with the work experience they have but can't leave as the money is too good. 

I just want that job satisfaction really and to say to myself in the future 'I've worked hard for my job and have achieved something with my life'

Is this selfish when so many people out there are desperately trying to get into employment? I'm just so miserable in work and its affecting my person life too. OH has taken too much abuse from me when I get home from work because I'm still in work mode and he just happens to be standing there.

I even tried to speak with my manager on how I felt and it was spat back in my face. I think I realised then on what sort of company I work; One who doesn't care about how their staff feel, only the money they make and the targets being smashed.

I'm thinking of going back to college in September and studying Physcology but it seems everytime I become interested in something someone puts me down by saying it would be too hard for me, you'll get no good career in that field, etc...

Anyway, a new start. I'll only know down the line if I've made a stupid decision. For now though, I feel positive and as if a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulder.

Sorry, long ramble.

Do what you have to do and follow your heart. You're still young enough to explore many different opportunities.

kookycats said:

Do what you have to do and follow your heart. You're still young enough to explore many different opportunities.

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Thank you. It's just finding what I actually want to do. They say each individual has a talent. I have yet to discover mine. I'm good at creative writing, though I suppose that is more a hobby than talent. Hmmm...

Ahh, I'm growing impatient. Lol.

That is a tough spot to be in, but I am glad you decided to act to make a change towards achieving something better for yourself. I understand how it feels, it is hard to be happy at a job that is not what you want to do with your life. Even the best job where you have great benefits, great pay and a good culture can make you unhappy if it's not something that interests you. A lot of people know exactly what they want early on, and I envy those people..Unfortunately most of us have to make mistakes, and find out the hard way what we want out of life. But, don't worry, as long as you have the drive,  you will be successful..Good luck in your new job search.

I had to leave a job before because I just couldn't take it anymore.  I had an hour commute and I'd cry most of the way home every day.  Sometimes it IS the right thing to do.  It's just a little scary in the moment.

I went through the crying bit, too, when I worked in the paper plant. I had been there for 18 years and I would get into the shower to get ready for work and I'd stand there and cry....it was so depressing to walk into that plant day after day.

Good luck with your job search!

I've been there too. :nod: I remember crying on my way to work every day.

Hope you find a great job soon!

ut0pia said:

That is a tough spot to be in, but I am glad you decided to act to make a change towards achieving something better for yourself. I understand how it feels, it is hard to be happy at a job that is not what you want to do with your life. Even the best job where you have great benefits, great pay and a good culture can make you unhappy if it's not something that interests you. A lot of people know exactly what they want early on, and I envy those people..Unfortunately most of us have to make mistakes, and find out the hard way what we want out of life. But, don't worry, as long as you have the drive,  you will be successful..Good luck in your new job search.

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Thank you for your kind words.

It's not really the job itself but it won't really take me anywhere, that and the people I work with are douches and treat me like ****.

I'm just worried I'll not achieve anything in my life. Though, I suppose its good to worry as it shows you have ambition.

Winchester said:

I went through the crying bit, too, when I worked in the paper plant. I had been there for 18 years and I would get into the shower to get ready for work and I'd stand there and cry....it was so depressing to walk into that plant day after day.

Good luck with your job search!

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Is it nasty to say I am sort of glad? Not glad you went through hell (Tears your life apart) but that one can sympathise and understand.

My dad is quite peeved with me as 9/10 of the kids in the area we live in don't want to do anything with their lives, only to cause trouble, and he's sort of been exceptionally proud of me for being one of the kids who has a drive and has got into a job. Now I'm leaving, well, he's not happy and it's making me feel really guilty.

I'm glad you got out of your job. Are you in one now that you enjoy?

AbbysMom said:

I've been there too.

I remember crying on my way to work every day.

Hope you find a great job soon!

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Thank you.

MoochNNoodles said:

I had to leave a job before because I just couldn't take it anymore.  I had an hour commute and I'd cry most of the way home every day.  Sometimes it IS the right thing to do.  It's just a little scary in the moment.

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It is. I'm almost peeing my pants, lol.

It's just deciding now what I actually want to do. I haven't got a clue. Arghhhhh,

Are you in the States? l'm not sure about your programs down there, but here, "kids" between 18 and 24 who are unemployed have the choice of all kinds of programs, training, apprenticeships, etc. Maybe you would qualify for those. l'm sure your local job centre will have all kinds of resources open to you since you're young.

And congratulations for recognizing and removing yourself from the negative situation. Don't feel guilty - you've just altered your path. Follow your own lead, formulate a plan, and launch yourself toward the future you want for yourself.

I quit a job that I hated when I was 56 and went back to school.  It was just a 9 month tech school but I was working just a month after finishing.  I am now working at home and can set my own hours and can continue the way I am as long as I keep my numbers up.  I kept going to that job until I reached a breaking point and left in the middle of a shift.  A pay check and benefits are important but they are not worth ruining physical and mental health over.

I absolutely hated my job ... I used to cry before going in and tell my BF I couldn't do it anymore. I took the job in December because I needed money, and it was somewhat in my degree field (transportation/logistics). I moved up to FT a month ago hoping it would get better (and a $1/hr raise came with it), and within 2 weeks I regretted not just leaving instead - it got worse, with no end in sight to actually do what the position was. Applied to another job last week, was hired this week, and I start on Monday. I only gave my employer a week's notice - for my sanity I could NOT stand being in the job for two more weeks. I would dread going in every morning, I would get in a bad mood just driving there. I am so happy to be moving on. You are young and have time to explore the opportunities that are out there for you . It is never fun being miserable at work. It is a tough economy and hard to get a job, but sometimes it is so bad you just need to take that leap. There will be SOMETHING out there!

Yelloweyedcat said:

Is it nasty to say I am sort of glad? Not glad you went through hell (Tears your life apart) but that one can sympathise and understand.

My dad is quite peeved with me as 9/10 of the kids in the area we live in don't want to do anything with their lives, only to cause trouble, and he's sort of been exceptionally proud of me for being one of the kids who has a drive and has got into a job. Now I'm leaving, well, he's not happy and it's making me feel really guilty.

I'm glad you got out of your job. Are you in one now that you enjoy?

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Me? Yes! I went to college, got my degree and I work in the Planning field. It has its good and bad, every job does. But would I trade this job to go back into the paper mill? Not on your life!

When you stand in the shower and cry because you don't want to go to work, it's time for a change. I hated that job with a passion.

Do you know that, after I got out of there, I had nightmares about that mill? Nightmares! I dreamed that it was all a big mistake, that I never got my degree, that I'm not really working at my job. People from the mill come into my office and tell me that I have to go back to my old job. And I'd always awaken in a sweat. The mill isn't even there anymore; it was torn down several years ago for a WalMart Superstore....there's justice in that somehow. But until that place was torn down, I would have the same dream, that I had to go back into the paper mill. It was terrible.

You know how much you hated your job when you have nightmares about it.

Find another job. Go back to school; don't let anybody tell you how difficult something is, find out for yourself. Do NOT let this go. You quit your job and you need to do something. I don't know how old you are, but you need to do something. I was 40 when I went back to school, so you can imagine all the stuff that people told me. I went anyway. 

I wish you luck in your new life, whatever you do.