Interesting- I have a job interview for a possible job tomorrow since I have not been happy working under my current boss so I asked one of my colleague/friends to write me a letter of recommendation last week. I thought she'd be perfect since she is a director and we work together A LOT so she kows my work ethnics and performance.
Initially, she said she'd be happy to then she asked me to wait while she checked with a friend who works in HR to make sure it's okay. Today we met and she told me that frankly she doesn't want me to leave our company since I am a very valuable asset (these are her words) and that it'd be a big loss if I leave so it's a big conflict of interest for her to write me a letter of recommendation. She did say that if I get a job offer and I decide to accept it, she'd be happy to be a "reference" but she can't be a reference before then since she will tell the people calling her that she doesn't want to lose me and that's a conflict. I told her actually that was a good reference! LOL.
Honestly- I understood where she was coming from and I respect it but at the same time, I was really hoping to get a letter of recommendation from her.
It's flattering that she really wants me to stay. She's encouraging me to talk to my CMO (Chief Marketing Officer) next week and tell him where I stand with this. I told her frankly (we've discussed this several times in the past already) that I don't see how the CMO can improve this because the big issue is my boss's personality. He is very controlling, takes credit for my work, talks down to me, doesn't respect me, doesn't let me do my job and plays huge favoritism with another member of our team. The CMO can't tell an employee to change his personality, period. I have tried to talk to my boss several times about several issues in the past and he has always managed to turn it back on me so I've given up really trying to communicate with him about how I feel. However, I did promise her that I WILL talk to the CMO about this next week.
Who knows, this might give him more incentives to transfer me to a different position under a different boss so I can stay with this company. I know that he's talking about reorganizing some positions due to some people leaving and I had already asked another boss about when the positions would be posted. That boss has approached me the other day and asked me if I'd be interested in a position and if so, he'd talk to the CMO and see. But again, it all rides on the CMO and the decision he will make. I'm trying to be realistic and not have high hopes for this.
I just needed to say this- it's hard for me to think about leaving this company. I moved across the country for this job almost 5 years ago. I LOVE this company, my job and the people I work with. It's my boss who I can't take working with any longer.
I am getting excited about a job interview tomorrow (this will be in a different field and would take me back to my "roots" since my job prior to the current job is a lot similiar to the job I'm applying for) and I am currently prepping for the interview so hopefully I'll do great. However, I do feel guilty about this because I have been told repeatedly by others in my company (not my boss) that I am a huge asset and they really value me. If I do leave, they WON'T be happy about it.
As of now, my boss has NO CLUE that I have been looking for another job or a different position under a different boss.
What do you think? Do you think it's the right thing for me to talk to my CMO about my boss and the fact that I have been looking for another job??
Initially, she said she'd be happy to then she asked me to wait while she checked with a friend who works in HR to make sure it's okay. Today we met and she told me that frankly she doesn't want me to leave our company since I am a very valuable asset (these are her words) and that it'd be a big loss if I leave so it's a big conflict of interest for her to write me a letter of recommendation. She did say that if I get a job offer and I decide to accept it, she'd be happy to be a "reference" but she can't be a reference before then since she will tell the people calling her that she doesn't want to lose me and that's a conflict. I told her actually that was a good reference! LOL.
Honestly- I understood where she was coming from and I respect it but at the same time, I was really hoping to get a letter of recommendation from her.
It's flattering that she really wants me to stay. She's encouraging me to talk to my CMO (Chief Marketing Officer) next week and tell him where I stand with this. I told her frankly (we've discussed this several times in the past already) that I don't see how the CMO can improve this because the big issue is my boss's personality. He is very controlling, takes credit for my work, talks down to me, doesn't respect me, doesn't let me do my job and plays huge favoritism with another member of our team. The CMO can't tell an employee to change his personality, period. I have tried to talk to my boss several times about several issues in the past and he has always managed to turn it back on me so I've given up really trying to communicate with him about how I feel. However, I did promise her that I WILL talk to the CMO about this next week.
Who knows, this might give him more incentives to transfer me to a different position under a different boss so I can stay with this company. I know that he's talking about reorganizing some positions due to some people leaving and I had already asked another boss about when the positions would be posted. That boss has approached me the other day and asked me if I'd be interested in a position and if so, he'd talk to the CMO and see. But again, it all rides on the CMO and the decision he will make. I'm trying to be realistic and not have high hopes for this.
I just needed to say this- it's hard for me to think about leaving this company. I moved across the country for this job almost 5 years ago. I LOVE this company, my job and the people I work with. It's my boss who I can't take working with any longer.
I am getting excited about a job interview tomorrow (this will be in a different field and would take me back to my "roots" since my job prior to the current job is a lot similiar to the job I'm applying for) and I am currently prepping for the interview so hopefully I'll do great. However, I do feel guilty about this because I have been told repeatedly by others in my company (not my boss) that I am a huge asset and they really value me. If I do leave, they WON'T be happy about it.
As of now, my boss has NO CLUE that I have been looking for another job or a different position under a different boss.
What do you think? Do you think it's the right thing for me to talk to my CMO about my boss and the fact that I have been looking for another job??
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