. . . and it's my fault, *sighs*
We took Misty into our home about a month ago. We had to trap her and get her to the vets. They checked her over. She was fine, about 2 to 3 months old, no fleas. They fleaed her anyway and sent us back home with worming granules which she took fine in her food. Anyway we put her in a small safe room and here's the first mistake. We left the sofa in there not thinking she could possibly get ubnder it, well guess what, she did. She came out for food while i sat in the room and ate her food. I even managed to get to the point of playing with her, then suddenly she just stopped playing for two days. She still came out for her food while i was in the room but would crawl under the sofa straight after she'sd eaten. This is when i made the next mistake. I was worried that the sofa was a barrier in trying to socialise her so We moved the sofa out while she was still in her safe room. I'd had a go at blocking the sofa off but it hadn't worked, then to make matters worse, later in the evening, i tried to pet her, hoping she would suddenly know that strokes were good and brought comfort. She lashed out, bit and scratched me and jumped up on the window sill. I didn't go after her. I just stayed on the floor turned my back on her for a few minutes, then crawled out of the room.
Thanks to my stupidity things didn't go well from there on. She seemed so unhappy, isolated up there, so i thought, 'Okay, I'll purchase a dog crate and bring her down to the dining room,' and of course, to do that i went and grabbed her and put her in the carrier. There goes the force handling again. She's now been in the crate for three days and she hates me. God, i'm such an idiot, i did this all wrong. I've forced contact when it was the kitten that should have initiated it. I just feel so bad. I don't think she will ever trust me again. I think i've blown it and i have terrible thoughts that i'm going to have to hand her over to a feral rescue centre because i failed. Can this still work? The poor little mite needs to go to the vet on thursday to get spayed, vaccinated. The reason i bought her downstairs on saturday was so she could get use to being in a crate so that when she got back from the vets she wouldn't have to cope with new surroundings on top of everything else. She's eating and using her littertray at night and has ate once in the morning yesterday and once in the afternoon the day before. I'm just so worried about her and so angry with myself Guess i need some advice.
We took Misty into our home about a month ago. We had to trap her and get her to the vets. They checked her over. She was fine, about 2 to 3 months old, no fleas. They fleaed her anyway and sent us back home with worming granules which she took fine in her food. Anyway we put her in a small safe room and here's the first mistake. We left the sofa in there not thinking she could possibly get ubnder it, well guess what, she did. She came out for food while i sat in the room and ate her food. I even managed to get to the point of playing with her, then suddenly she just stopped playing for two days. She still came out for her food while i was in the room but would crawl under the sofa straight after she'sd eaten. This is when i made the next mistake. I was worried that the sofa was a barrier in trying to socialise her so We moved the sofa out while she was still in her safe room. I'd had a go at blocking the sofa off but it hadn't worked, then to make matters worse, later in the evening, i tried to pet her, hoping she would suddenly know that strokes were good and brought comfort. She lashed out, bit and scratched me and jumped up on the window sill. I didn't go after her. I just stayed on the floor turned my back on her for a few minutes, then crawled out of the room.
Thanks to my stupidity things didn't go well from there on. She seemed so unhappy, isolated up there, so i thought, 'Okay, I'll purchase a dog crate and bring her down to the dining room,' and of course, to do that i went and grabbed her and put her in the carrier. There goes the force handling again. She's now been in the crate for three days and she hates me. God, i'm such an idiot, i did this all wrong. I've forced contact when it was the kitten that should have initiated it. I just feel so bad. I don't think she will ever trust me again. I think i've blown it and i have terrible thoughts that i'm going to have to hand her over to a feral rescue centre because i failed. Can this still work? The poor little mite needs to go to the vet on thursday to get spayed, vaccinated. The reason i bought her downstairs on saturday was so she could get use to being in a crate so that when she got back from the vets she wouldn't have to cope with new surroundings on top of everything else. She's eating and using her littertray at night and has ate once in the morning yesterday and once in the afternoon the day before. I'm just so worried about her and so angry with myself Guess i need some advice.