Awkward Situation

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I went out tonight with a friend from nursing school for dinner and a movie.  Typically we go right from my work and then head for an early movie. But tonight she had something going on with her son so we didn't get to the restaurant until nearly 7:30 pm.

We were sitting at a table in the far back of the restaurant and I was facing into the restaurant with a good view of pretty much every table and the entrance.

About 15 minutes after we were sitting, a couple was shown to a table, one away from where we were.  Imagine my surprise to see it was 2 co-workers; a doctor and a nurse.  He is married, she isn't.  And it wasn't some "thank you for all of your hard work" or "business dinner" on a Friday night at 8:00 pm.  They were sitting intimately  next to each other at a square table, and they were sharing plates of food, and even feeding each other the occasional bite from their own plates.

She tends to dress rather nice for work (nice business office attire), but today she looked exceptionally dressed up and her hair was done differently than it usually is when she is at work. So now I know why! :)

I'm not sure if they saw me, but my friend is pretty sure that he did because she was facing a mirror and saw him casually turn his head as if he were trying to see behind him (he was sitting with his back to us).

My friend was livid when I told her that he has been married to his current wife for about 2 years or so, and that he had just come back from an East Coast vacation with his family.

I told her that I didn't think I was supposed to see what I saw, and that I'm just going to keep my mouth shut about it because it's none of my business, and it would make for a very awkward working environment.  So I'm just going to pretend like I didn't see them.

My friend on the other hand was livid.  Her husband cheated on her (they are now divorced), and she told me that we should have taken a video and posted it all over the internet!!! And that I should approach them at work about it.

I told her that I'm going to stay out of it.
 
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Some things aren't as they seem. There could be a million innocent explanations why they were having dinner together (openly and in public). I guess it's human assume the worst in every scenario, but it's not fair to make assumptions about others, and even worse to act on them. Good for you for staying out of it.
 
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Nothing good will come of you saying anything. People always shoot the messenger in these situations. So I think you're right to stay out of it.
 
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Some things aren't as they seem. There could be a million innocent explanations why they were having dinner together (openly and in public). I guess it's human assume the worst in every scenario, but it's not fair to make assumptions about others, and even worse to act on them. Good for you for staying out of it.
It wasn't innocent. It's Friday evening 8:00 pm.  He's married with kids.  They were sitting very close next to each other, and leaning in towards each other when talking. And they would occasionally feed one another with food from their plate.

I've been in enough relationships to know intimacy when I see it.

But like I said. I work with these people, and I don't plan on saying anything about it. In fact I am going to pretend that I didn't see them at all. 
 
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It wasn't innocent. It's Friday evening 8:00 pm.  He's married with kids.  They were sitting very close next to each other, and leaning in towards each other when talking. And they would occasionally feed one another with food from their plate.

I've been in enough relationships to know intimacy when I see it.

But like I said. I work with these people, and I don't plan on saying anything about it. In fact I am going to pretend that I didn't see them at all. 
Psychologists call that "courtship feeding", and it often happens on first dates, when a couple starts to bond. I think they were up to no good!
 

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I agree - keep out of it. Situations like that tend to backfire and you'll be the one it backfires on if you say anything.
 

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I hope they didn't see you....you mentioned him turning his head and the mirror. If they did......if (or when) word gets out (and it always does in situations like these), they'll no doubt blame you for the gossip, even though you're saying nothing.
 
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I hope they didn't see you....you mentioned him turning his head and the mirror. If they did......if (or when) word gets out (and it always does in situations like these), they'll no doubt blame you for the gossip, even though you're saying nothing.
I can't say for 100% that they didn't see me. My friend was facing the mirror and saw him turning his head subtly as if trying to look behind him.  We were sitting near an exit ramp, so when we left we left that way and didn't pass by them.
 
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Well, it seems I'm not the only one feeling awkward.

I came to work today and have been feeling very awkward and hoping to not run into either of them.  There is one girl that I'm good friends with and we often confide in one another knowing that what we say to each other won't go any further than the 2 of us.

The girl I saw on Friday used to work in another area in the building. A few months ago she was very suddenly removed from that area and put into an area that she had absolutely no experience in whatsoever. It seems that the entire department she used to work in knew about the affair because they both worked together in that department, and it was making everyone uncomfortable, so it isn't easy to move a doctor out and get a replacement, but it is easy to move a nurse out and replace her.

Plus my friend told me that when she was orientating her to the new position, she would frequently see dozens of emails from the doctor in this girl's email, plus she got a lot of personal calls from within the building.

So I'm not the first to know, but I'm glad that I'm not the only one feeling awkward about their behaviour.
 
 
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I ran into the girl in the hallway a bit ago.  She said that she saw me leaving the restaurant, and asked where I had been sitting. When I told her we were a table apart, she said that I should have stopped by to say "Hi".  I told her that I didn't want to disturb them.  Apparently she isn't shy about her affair, because she told me that I should have come by to say hello to them.
 

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I ran into the girl in the hallway a bit ago.  She said that she saw me leaving the restaurant, and asked where I had been sitting. When I told her we were a table apart, she said that I should have stopped by to say "Hi".  I told her that I didn't want to disturb them.  Apparently she isn't shy about her affair, because she told me that I should have come by to say hello to them.
Hmmmmmm, I think that's called "covering her 'hindquarters!'" :p
 

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I would pretend it never happened. People do what they do and then they have to reap the benefits of their actions. They will.
 
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