A Man's View of Relationships

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First I'd like to say that I'm really glad you're away from that guy Cass! What a horrible thing to have to go through and it's so sad too, but what a great outcome! I'm really happy for you that you've found such a great guy! Thank God!!!


I can't think of anyone that I'd crawl back to that's for sure, although, I can't say that there weren't a couple that I wish I would've handled myself differently in the relationship. I was young and thought everything should go my way!
Ms. Snot for sure.
I think about my past behaviour and want to crawl up in a hole and hide!!


Nowadays, since I've met Philip, I can see that I've changed for the better (Thank God). We're definitely in love,
but we'll see how things go when we get to spend more time with each other. We're always laughing but then again, we've never seen each other other than visits! He lives in Arizona while I reside in Fla.


It was really bad before I met him. I just sat at home after the gym and work. I did get asked out, but I never accepted.
I rarely trusted men only because I felt like some kind of piece of meat. No one really seemed to like me for me. :confused3::indiffere: I guess it's because I train hard, my body is in good condition and I modeled for years. I had always ran into problems. Some of them perhaps in my own mind...the pressure to look good and then having to deal with the ramifications of it. I know it sounds conceited, trust me, I am far from it. I loathe that!


Honestly, I have found in my job is where I get the most respect - being a finish carpenter. I also do personal training on the side. So...I do find that guys look at me in a different light when I'm at my carpentry job. Only now and then do I get "gee, you look so great in that tool belt....:homer: Doh!!! :laughing:

However, due to the heat in Fla and being a bodybuilder, my wardrobe is skimpy at the gym and that's where I'm at after 4:00 pm... oh well, one day things will change I hope and I do pray that Philip's :angel2: the guy, he's a bodybuilder too. He won the USA in 95 so he understands how it is with all the things that we go through and how we look at ourselves, it's not like what most people think, but then again, there are those few that give the sport a bad name. He's sooooooo nice and not only that...what a fox!!! :laughing:

Here's a small pic...it's not the best, but I have others that are kind big and would take up too much space on the thread


Thanks for listening :angel2:

Love &,
 
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Catarina...a finish carpenter?? I'm jealous!!! That takes real talent and skill. I dabble in painting and drawing and am considered pretty good at it,but as a carpenter I make a good truck driver.
I equate a finish carpenter or cabinet-maker with any artizan you can think of..both take an artist's skill to do well. Be very proud of yourself.

Don't think that I was putting down either you or Phil..I was just zinging the ladies over their WOO-WOO response to his pics.
I do understand the effort and persistance that you both needed to reach and maintain the level you compete at. It is unfortunate that some have resorted to the steroid route to get that image. I did attempt to body build when I was younger but was fortunate enough to have a coach that told me with my build I would have to spend a hellish amount of gym time or go with steroids. End of that story.

I really hope you and Phil have the happiest of lives together. Sounds like true love to me. I just pity the doc in the delivery of your first-born. When he slaps it's bottom,the kid will probly be strong enough to body-slam him in retaliation.
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Now one more time...where's all those controversy seekers??
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post something controversial & we'll come crawling out of the woodwork!!!


No more commen sense stuff.....
 
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RATS...now I gotta think of something new,thought this would work..
:laughing2 Any suggestions????


Oh,wait!!!! I know...
!!! Now off to start a new thread,but keep this one going...
 

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Aha! Kittyfoot, are those the whites of your eyes I see in here?
 
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Deb...not a bit of it...that's just the sawdust igniting when I think.


Try the new thread if you like...I'll be watchin here too. Lord,do I have guts or what??
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Not white flags, the whites of your eyes!

Big difference, militarily speaking.
 

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Glad to see some debating going on. I love arguments, but only on an intellectual level. Petty stuff about who squeezed the toothpaste from the middle drives me nuts.

The whole looks thing is hard to understand sometimes, although I have to admit that I was initially attracted to my fiance because he's a good-looking guy.
I soon learned that smart, funny, and caring were part of the package, so I did pick a good one:tounge2:

I've had personal experience with the looks thing, not because I'm a beauty queen, but because I lost weight. I lost about 20-25 pounds a few years ago and have kept most of it off:flash:


I did it to be healthier, but I noticed that Dan's friends all started to flirt with me and make comments to him about how he needs to pay lots of attention to me now, so someone else doesn't steal me.
It was flattering, but frustrating because I am the same person I was 20 pounds ago.

I had a chance to watch a single male in action last night, when I went with some friends to a local nightclub to hear Jeffrey Gaines, who is sure to become a major force in the music industry. A friend of ours is single, in his 30's, and last night he was very intoxicated. So he was talking to all the "hot" women.

I have never seen him talk to anyone he did not consider good-looking, but he never has much luck in the long-term.
So maybe it's time for the men out there to be a little more open to less than "perfect" women, unless you're looking for some serious high maintenance.
 

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you must have gone to the show that WLAN put on. I know they were bringing Jeffrey Gaines to town.

I'm good friend with Holly Love who does mornings there, and I also know Toby Knapp. Vince D'bella who used to work there is also a friend of mine. He now does nights in Wilmington, Delaware.

you aren't that far from where I live, probably an hour and a half.
 

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I'm always good for taking a left turn,

but Deb25, you know you aren't innocent at that either!


now go make some coffee for us!
 

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Now this is why I'm not meeting anybody. I'm always in the kitchen making the @%$# coffee!
 
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C'mon now...no buddy,buddy stuff here...this is fer fightin words..


Coffe clatches in the hallway!!!!!:tounge2: :tounge2:
 

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okay, okay,

can anyone else make the coffee?




I would but I have to run out & get more nads. we're all out.
 

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AP, That's the show I saw. I went a little after the start, and my big disappointment was that he only played for an hour or so. Went to a friend's house after, just me and the guys. It's always educational to hang with guys in groups. Ever notice how most guys won't be the only male in a group of women? Why is that?
 

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Kittyfoot


Thanks, I'm lookin at this computer and think that anyone that can fix 'em ....well, that's a great big art too...this one's a piece of work
I love to paint and draw, but my skills aren't near as sharp as yours I'm sure.

Oh and I wasn't thinking you had mentioned something bad about Phil's pics...not at all! If ya did I didn't see it. Bodybuilding's an art! I'm glad you understand..it's very difficult to get a lot of muslce and make it look aesthitic to boot. I guess it's good genetics more than anything though. Philip is a genetic freak!
:laughing2: He's so humble though, he wouldn't admit it :angel2:

Wow, never thought about having a kid....after that wake up call......don't think I'll be having any any time soon!!!!
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Pssssssssst.......Chuck, this one's for you

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You know reading these posts are amazing. I am in the process of a break up with my boyfriend....who do not get me wrong is a lovely man - but his ideals are all wrong.......he thinks that love and companionship can last all the time - in most instances I am sure that they can......but we have been together for over 1 year and he is living with me and he has nto worked in that whole time - he keeps making promises to get a job - while I am working my t*ts off to support him. Well the weekend I decided enough was enough and I have had my fill of him so I asked him to move out - I told him that at 27 years old (that is how old I am) that I should not be having money worries and that he should be looking after if not me then atleast himself as he is a 28 year old health male.

You know what though - after all I have done for him - you know what he said to me - well if I am moving into my sisters house things will have to change - I will have to get a job because anyone else will not be happy me living off them for nothing - I was like "HOLD UP THERE BUDDY" I was so totally and utterly taken aback by that comment that I though why bother speaking to him so I went to my parents house and had a few glasses (and a bottle of Wine) and had a bit of a bitch and moan.......

Right so I get home.......and guess what.....I am made to feel as if I am doing something wrong as if I am not trying to help him......I was like Errrrrmmmm HELLO!!!!!!!!

Well in conculsion after I am made to feel guilty.....he asked to borrow my car to take his stuff to his sisters house and i told him at lunchtime I have some meetings to go to so please make sure you are back by 1pm.....well needless to say I had to take taxis to my meetings and when he finally did pick up his cell phone I was the one who was shouted at - what is all that about.

i have tried to help him and I feel I do not deserve this treatment.....sheesh I have had it with men!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh by the way sorry about my ranting and raving
it is all of my chest now.....but am I in the wrong here????
 

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Amanda, I hate to say it, but it sounds like you were/are being used and he is trying to point the finger so that he doesn't look like such an ass. Any problems in a relationship is always a 2-way street, but based on your post, the fault does seem to be a lot in his court.

You need a man whose going to respect you and communicate honestly and if he can't, your with the wrong person.

It really frustrates me to see so many women be with men that treat them as they do and I have the hardest damn time in the world finding someone I can click with.
 

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Meowman.....you are such a sweetheart....thanks


How come no Meowoman????? you are really such a darling...you seem to me to be the extreamly caring kind of man who is sensitive and all the things that most men would hate to be either told or admit..... oh and I get all these assumptions from your posts....you have a lovely way with words
 
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