Amanda, I thought you had already broke up with your boyfriend some time ago... it sounds from your post that you don't even like him a lot which is natural if you feel exploited. I think at the very least you need to take a long break from each other. Just wondering, where does one meet men in Dubai?
By the way, I think that women can take advantage of the male way of looking at women. That's how I got hitched up. I took one year at the age of 24 for a total make over - I lost 40 pounds, my eyeglasses, dyed my hair blonde and changed my wardrobe (you know, all those skimpy short skirts and tight tops). It was incredible! Guys didn't notice me too much before, but after - I could hardly walk the street. I'm 6' tall and it was hard not to notice me... I got tons of male attention and got my way practically anywhere. I must say it didn't make me respect men more... I became cynical about relationships and sort of figured out men were superficial and nothing more than casual fun.
Then I met the
man. I was lucky to have a best friend who saw him for the diamond that he was and pretty much convinced me this man was meant for more than a casual fling. Sure, at the beginning, he wouldn't do much more than staring at me (no... not my eyes). But I decided to give a chance and found out that he was this sensitive intelligent man that I actually enjoyed spending time with as a friend! He confessed his eternal love 4 days after we started going out, but I was just enjoying him as a wonderful friend (well, friend with benefits
). It took me several months but then it happened, I fell in love like I never had before and it lasted until this day. We still are best friends and I think that's what makes our relationship so stable.
By the way, in the following 5 years, I've gained around 60 pounds
, went back to wearing glasses and naturally, the mini skirts do not fit any longer.... I don't get cat calls anymore (other than from my own cats
). But I have a wonderful man who loves me the way I am and for who I am.
I really want to lose weight, but now I'm motivated by health reasons and I don't think I'll ever go back to the old style. But I do not regret that time. It has done its trick so to speak and was worth it. There was a lot of competition at that time, as hubby is very good looking and what you'd call classic "marriage material". There were lots of other girls after him and if I hadn't looked the way I had, I guess I wouldn't have won the grand prize
.I hope this doesn't sound too manipulative, because it wasn't pre planned... Just the way things worked out for me.