Question - another daft one and thanks...

I am getting things and information very nicely together now and carol and I and christopher are hoping to be in Canada we have decided for early spring. Gives us time to put a little cash away etc which would help in transporting everything we have over. I would up and go tomorrow, then Carol makes me sit back and realise, its not that easy and we have a lot of things to sort out, inc all this pine furniture we love and have purchased over the years. My biggest concern is that I may have to go out first and leave her for a few weeks over here whilst I start a new job and get someplace to live. I cannot stand the idea of being on my own for a few weeks, months, let alone a few days. I am hoping and praying that will not happen although I am aware that it may. Carol knows I am devoted to her and will not mess around with anyone else, I am in love with both red heads in my familly (can you be in love with your son - is that allowed????). I know that if I was on my own abroad and waiting for her, I would get very low indeed.

Problem is, I am unsure how to tell her that when I go, I want us all to go. I started my life with her some years ago (nearly 10 in March) and when I arrive in Canada - then I want US to arrive as a familly to start a new life. Not me meeting them at the airport some time later. She has it in her head that I will more than likely have to go on my own for a while. I cant bear to be parted.

Is this daft or what?

Oh, and let me personally thank Adrienne and russian princess (think thats you) for all your help this last 7 days. Adrienne, you have been a star and I apologise for my daily list of emails to you. I hope that I can keep picking your brain as well as everyones in Toronto for the next few months until we land. then I owe you a HUGE drink!!! Cant thank you enough.

kev

Is she worried about you messing around or are you worried about you messing around? Not sure why that would be a concern since you both seem very much in love with each other. I think honestly that you should go together, you can always find a place on line or through suggestions of friends from here and move together. My sis n law and her hubby and son moved together, that way they could bounce off each other the emotions and the rollercoaster ride together. Just my weird opinion

Kev, I don't live in Toronto but I do live in Ontario (about 2 hours south of Toronto, in London)and would be glad to help you if there's anything you ever need. If you like, I can pick up some newspapers and tourist books and what not for you and send them over. Perhaps your son would like to look at some pictures or something? I dunno, I just know that when I was little I liked to have an idea of where we were going to, or maybe I'm just a little freak. Made it a little less scary for me.

I don't think that it's a bad idea at all, to want to have your family with you. It's a big move, and I know that if my family was to make such a move, I would want us all to be together. (I have to admit, I'm not entirely sure of what the word "daft" means...lol... Sorry. )

Originally posted by Jellybelly
Is she worried about you messing around or are you worried about you messing around? Not sure why that would be a concern since you both seem very much in love with each other.

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I am not concened in that aspect and neither is she I believe, she knows I have heaps of friends that are women, thats all they are as well is great friends. I think its all down to my absolute paranoia of being on my own that I cant stand.

Yours is not a wierd opinion at all - its in my eyes - a valued opinion.

Kev

okay I'm gushing over here! My sis n law moved to Ontario, but she isn't familiar that well with the area. I do hope you enjoy your move as a family and that all goes well. The number one thing is communication, right? That's what everyone says at least LOL!

Originally posted by sockiesmom
Kev, I don't live in Toronto but I do live in Ontario (about 2 hours south of Toronto, in London)and would be glad to help you if there's anything you ever need. If you like, I can pick up some newspapers and tourist books and what not for you and send them over. Perhaps your son would like to look at some pictures or something? I dunno, I just know that when I was little I liked to have an idea of where we were going to, or maybe I'm just a little freak. Made it a little less scary for me.

I don't think that it's a bad idea at all, to want to have your family with you. It's a big move, and I know that if my family was to make such a move, I would want us all to be together. (I have to admit, I'm not entirely sure of what the word "daft" means...lol... Sorry.

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I will pm you tomorrow if okay with you as I am exhausted tonight through working today and am in the office all day tomorrow catching up....

Carol and I were talking about calling into London on a proposed trip that we had thought about next year before this started. We were going to head up to see a flying mate in Michigan. Thats another day now!

Daft - means like me - bit thick - docile, loopy, wappy - call it what you will. I guess I will have to get you all talking Yorkshire sooner or later. That alreeet wi thee lass?

kev

Originally posted by kev
I will pm you tomorrow if okay with you as I am exhausted tonight through working today and am in the office all day tomorrow catching up....

Carol and I were talking about calling into London on a proposed trip that we had thought about next year before this started. We were going to head up to see a flying mate in Michigan. Thats another day now!

Daft - means like me - bit thick - docile, loopy, wappy - call it what you will. I guess I will have to get you all talking Yorkshire sooner or later. That alreeet wi thee lass?

kev

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Of course it's okay to PM me tomorrow. Let me know if there's anything you'd like me to send over and I'll do my best to find it.

Originally posted by Jellybelly
okay I'm gushing over here! My sis n law moved to Ontario, but she isn't familiar that well with the area. I do hope you enjoy your move as a family and that all goes well. The number one thing is communication, right? That's what everyone says at least

LOL!

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Whats gushing??????????

Now look who is confused!!!!!

Kev
Agree with you re communication, now if I knew what you meant by gushing ( as in oil well???), then I would be able to communicate better with you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

well in my head 'gushing' means overwhelmed with the compliment so I'm kinda stuttering on saying thanks, wow, gee, aww shucks part. Did I hit it right with the rest of ya? I reckon I need to look it up in the dictionary. In our family, we have our own definition of words that sooner or later will be updated in the Webster! LOL!

Originally posted by Jellybelly
well in my head 'gushing' means overwhelmed with the compliment so I'm kinda stuttering on saying thanks, wow, gee, aww shucks part. Did I hit it right with the rest of ya? I reckon I need to look it up in the dictionary. In our family, we have our own definition of words that sooner or later will be updated in the Webster!

LOL!

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I use "gushing" in that context, too.

I am off to bed now - now I understand gushing, what the heck is webster - this is getting embarrasing for me - I assume its like the Oxford English dictionary?

TTFN

kev zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Kev - you know I am happy to help. Hopefully you can get alot of the stuff done before you leave so that you can arrive together. I'll do what I can to help. If you have to come 1st to make thigs easier on your family, then I know you will put their needs 1st - don't worry - you won't be lonely, John and I will keep you company. I just sent an e-amil to you about you question you e-mailed me.

The last time my husband and I relocated, I moved ahead to start my job and he stayed behind to sell the house. It took us 9 months to get back together. The company did pay for airline tickets every other week so we saw each other exactly 2 days every 14. We were only about 800 miles apart, so travel wasn't that difficult.

Why do I tell you this? If we had to do it all over again, we still would have separated for a short period of time, but we would have gotten things together before I moved. We didn't start preparing the house for the sale until the weekend before I moved, then did a surface cleaning. The real estate agent made a lot of suggestions about what we should do to sell the house (which we started after I moved), then the ultimate buyer demanded another 30 days worth of work.

So.....part of your move prep needs to include getting everything in order way in advance. If you have a home to sell, get real estate agents out now, and get their advice on what you have to do to sell quick. Take care of all financial matters (bank accounts, loans, etc), set up all logistics for moving. Think thru everything you have to do to relocate and set it up now. It will save you a lot of time at the point of moving and if you are separated for a period of time, it will decrease that amount of time.

I hope you can both move at the same time!

Originally posted by kev
Oh, and let me personally thank Adrienne and russian princess (think thats you) for all your help this last 7 days.
kev

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That's hilarious! Now I know I'm a princess...but Rob doesn't believe me!!! Now I can say someone else does too!

(even though I'm not Russian, but who cares about the details......)

And here I was thinking you were at least a queen!

The Webster is like Oxford, but I reckon it's for laymens like myself teee heee LOL!

Well Canadian Queen will do right

Kev, you'll have to excuse me as I've been absent for a while. As I understand it you and your family are moving to Ontario, Canada from the UK. My question is what part of Ontario are you moving to?

From what I gather it's in the London area at least that's what I've read. I also live in Ontario but further north if there is anything that I can do to help please let me know.

April

April - He will be moving to the greater Toronto area but has people he will visit in London. Hope that helps.

That helps a lot, Adymarie. I came from there originally so I do know Toronto. I still have some connections there that could be of some help to Kev and his family.

Kev can still PM me if he wishes.

April