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I still find that I am in shock that I have to write this. On 11/8 my husband and I had to put to sleep our beautiful 2 year old cat, Darcy. Darcy was acting completely like herself up until Wednesday. That morning she seemed lethargic and wouldn't eat her breakfast which is unusual for her and I noticed throw up on the floor and as she was the only one of our three cats acting strangely I assumed it was her. I immediately called the vet and took her in. They discovered that she had lost three pounds but being that she was so fluffy and still had a strong appetite we didn't notice (which makes me feel awful). The vet said they'd run some bloodwork and get back to us. When I brought her home she ate as she normally would but was still lethargic. When we woke on Thursday Darcy wouldn't eat and spent most of the morning in my lap or in a hunched position on the floor. When the vet called with the blood results they said that her liver values were too high and they said we needed to get an ultrasound and some fluids for her right away. We took her in and waited to hear what the ultrasound would show. The vet informed us that they found a mass on her pancreas that was blocking her gall bladder which was leaking poisons into her. They said that they were 80-90 percent sure it was cancer but they would need to do exploratory surgery to confirm and if it was cancer they would most likely put her to sleep during surgery. If it wasn't cancer then she may have three months but she would have been in pain. We made the gut-wrenching decision to put my baby girl to sleep and end her pain.
Now I am left with many feelings, shock, grief, anger, and guilt. We never expected this to happen to a cat so young and we just weren't prepared. I feel guilty all the time wondering if I made the right decision. What if it wasn't cancer and she could have made it? To make it worse I keep picturing my moments with her before the vet came in to put her to sleep. She didn't seem sick, she seemed so alert and I keep replaying the look she gave me before it happened and she looked so confused. It just breaks my heart. And now that we're home I keep imagining that she's still here, that I'm hearing the little bell on her collar, that any minute she's going to come in the room and snuggle me. Even though I have two other cats I just feel so lonely. Darcy was my best buddy and we spent all our time together, she would follow me everywhere. I find myself crying over everything, looking at where she used to eat, missing her sleeping by my side every night, the way she'd flex on either side of my neck like she was hugging me. I found one of her furs on my clothes and I lost it. It feels like my pain and my guilt will never go away. Another part of me feels the need to adopt another cat but then I'll feel like I'm betraying Darcy and trying to replace her when I know that's impossible. I'm sorry for the long post but I'm just feeling so lost right now.
Now I am left with many feelings, shock, grief, anger, and guilt. We never expected this to happen to a cat so young and we just weren't prepared. I feel guilty all the time wondering if I made the right decision. What if it wasn't cancer and she could have made it? To make it worse I keep picturing my moments with her before the vet came in to put her to sleep. She didn't seem sick, she seemed so alert and I keep replaying the look she gave me before it happened and she looked so confused. It just breaks my heart. And now that we're home I keep imagining that she's still here, that I'm hearing the little bell on her collar, that any minute she's going to come in the room and snuggle me. Even though I have two other cats I just feel so lonely. Darcy was my best buddy and we spent all our time together, she would follow me everywhere. I find myself crying over everything, looking at where she used to eat, missing her sleeping by my side every night, the way she'd flex on either side of my neck like she was hugging me. I found one of her furs on my clothes and I lost it. It feels like my pain and my guilt will never go away. Another part of me feels the need to adopt another cat but then I'll feel like I'm betraying Darcy and trying to replace her when I know that's impossible. I'm sorry for the long post but I'm just feeling so lost right now.