My beloved Taz has sadly passed away....

I am not sure what to write, I just need to tell someone, my beloved Bengal cross, Taz, sadly passed away on Wednesday afternoon. I found her in the back garden....She was only 16 months old, so very beautiful. She was a rescue cat who I got following the passing of Coco after a three week fight for her life...she was terrible when we got her home, hissing and growling at everyone, it took many months, but, she became my very best friend, so loving, my heart is so broken....

I am struggling to comprehend what has happened, in the space of two years, we have lost four beautiful cats, Tigger, Crumble, Coco and now Taz. The pain is unbearable, the house is so empty without them, I have found myself frantically searching the internet for another kitten and feel so awful that I want another kitty so soon...

I suffer with clinical depression and, Taz gave me a reason to get up in the mornings, has anyone been in the same situatioin? Any advice would be gratefully received, can't stop crying.....

Cheryl

I'm very sorry for your loss. It must be extremely tough to lose four cats in such a short period of time, and Taz was so young.

coco2012 said:

I am not sure what to write, I just need to tell someone, my beloved Bengal cross, Taz, sadly passed away on Wednesday afternoon. I found her in the back garden....She was only 16 months old, so very beautiful. She was a rescue cat who I got following the passing of Coco after a three week fight for her life...she was terrible when we got her home, hissing and growling at everyone, it took many months, but, she became my very best friend, so loving, my heart is so broken....

I am struggling to comprehend what has happened, in the space of two years, we have lost four beautiful cats, Tigger, Crumble, Coco and now Taz. The pain is unbearable, the house is so empty without them, I have found myself frantically searching the internet for another kitten and feel so awful that I want another kitty so soon...

I suffer with clinical depression and, Taz gave me a reason to get up in the mornings, has anyone been in the same situatioin? Any advice would be gratefully received, can't stop crying.....

Cheryl

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I am sorry for your losses.  There is nothing wrong with wanting another kitty right away.  I think adopting another kitty is a great way to honor your pals by giving another baby a chance at having a loving home.  Everyone grieves in there own way and perhaps adopting another baby so soon will help you move forward with your life.  It seems like a loss always takes a little bit of us with it.  There is nothing wrong with wanting to fill the empty space in your home or heart.  I too have suffered losses and have always honored my babies who have passed by adopting another baby in their honor.  I wish I could reach through my screen and give you a hug.

coco2012 said:

I am struggling to comprehend what has happened, in the space of two years, we have lost four beautiful cats, Tigger, Crumble, Coco and now Taz. The pain is unbearable, the house is so empty without them, I have found myself frantically searching the internet for another kitten and feel so awful that I want another kitty so soon...

I suffer with clinical depression and, Taz gave me a reason to get up in the mornings, has anyone been in the same situatioin? Any advice would be gratefully received, can't stop crying.....

Cheryl

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Cheryl I am so very sorry.  Now I'm crying, I wish I could give you a hug.  The initial pain can seem unbearble and suffocating.  I've been through it a few times myself, but never the loss that you have had in such a short time.  You are stronger than you think!  Try to focus on the good home you gave Taz and how much he was loved. 

I just lost my Toby last May, right before his thirteenth birthday.  I cried every day for  months. Some days that was all I did.  I miss him and still cry sometimes, just not as often.  I would feel my tears well up at inapproprate times,  like in line at the grocery store. I just couldn't hold the grief in. Tears have a way of cleansing so don't hold back.   I wonder if I will ever be able to completely let go, I know it didn't take this long for me to let go of the others.  But time does ease the pain as you already know.

IMO, there is nothing wrong with getting a new pet right away.  Some people like to wait, others don't.  I agree it's a great way to honor the pet you are greiving and it gives you something to get up for and get some love in return. And two cats are double the fun and love!  I suggest not getting a cat who looks too much like Taz, so there are no comparisons,  just my own opinion.  

It's so important that you take care of yourself during this time.  Even a short walk or having a friend over to watch movies will help.   

One quote I came across in the depth of my mourning was by Henry Scott Holland:  "Death is nothing at all...nothing is past, nothing is lost/One brief moment and all will be as it was before.  How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting when we meet again."  Thinking about this quote helped ease my pain a bit.

Sending a big hug your way   Please feel free to PM if you want to talk.

Cheryl, I am very, very sorry for you loss of Taz. You have had your share of losses this past year. My heart goes out to you.

RIP Taz

Words cannot express the sorry that I'm sure all of us feel for your loss. To echo everyone else, remember the amazing love and home you gave to Taz, which no one else could have given her. And of course, if giving a home to one of the thousands of homeless kitties out there helps you heal, then it is definitely the right decision.

With clinical depression, don't be afraid to seek help. It sounds like you've had several heartbreaking losses that no one should have to endure, and I know these losses hit especially hard to those suffering from depression. It is ok to ask for help, I know many (myself included) who have found solace from therapy and/or medication. If your loss is downplayed by anyone, friend or doctor, I would say to disregard their advice.

Many hugs your way, and take care!

This little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine! This little light of mine I'm gonna let it shine, let it shine let it shine let it shine! R.I.P BEUTIFUL!

I'm so sorry. Taz was still a baby,  the poor thing  

Personally, if l was in your situation l would get another cat, because l know it would heal by broken heart

Thank you to everyone who has taken the time and trouble to send such wonderful messages of support, it is a week ago today that Taz left for the Rainbow Bridge, the pain is unbearable, I know that I am not alone and that there are thousands of people all over the world suffering the pain of losing a pet. I just want to say to each and every one of you, God Bless and may the Angels help you to heal. This morning, I found a pure white feather....and, a robin came into the garden and sat where Taz is sleeping...I know that there is a reason for everything but, I do think that, God only gives us what HE knows we can deal with. Even in his darkest hour, Jesus begged his Father to take away the dreadful ordeal that he knew he was facing, then, he realised that, it had to be. That is my comfort now, I have been blessed with the love and affection of many cats, each with their own little ways, I would not change that, I know that they are all safe now, running free, no more pain, it is us who are left behind who have to cope with the loss of a dear friend, but, with Gods help, we can do it.

"My heart has joined the thousands, my friend stopped running today...."

God be with you all

Cheryl xx

coco2012 said:

 This morning, I found a pure white feather....

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I've experienced the feathers many times, and l truly believe it is their calling cards, be it human or animal 

He was much too young - life is just not fair. But there is nothing wrong with getting another kitty to create another special place in your heart. We can never replace the one that we lost, but we can give another kitty a chance for a wonderful life of live. When my BJ died at the age of 13 we found a stray who we let into the house. She immediately jumped on the chair where BJ spent the last months of his life, curled up, sniffed it thoroughly and went to sleep. That did it for me -- I knew it was BJ's special gift to us of our little "Angel" (that's her name). While she never replaced BJ (we can never replace a loved kitty), she is a special little girl and has brought us great joy. We still call her "BJ's Angel". I know you will find your special little angel.

When cats die suddenly so young, many times it is heredity..I lost my Beeshee Marie in January at less than 2 years old from a bad heart. Four months later, Buddy died of the same thing.  He was 12.

Taz was a lucky kitty to have had you.  But for you, his life might have been very hard.  You gave him love.  He needed nothing other than that.

God bless and heal your heart with memories of your little Taz.  You will meet again.

Taz

Thank you all for your kind messages, such lovely messages full of love and support, I don't have the words right now to express how I feel, just so heartbroken.....God Bless all of you who have sadly lost a beloved pet, you will know the pain and sorrow only too well, much love to all of you, Cheryl ( Tazs broken hearted mum...) xx

Cheryl,

I now believe that these 'signs' like white feathers and robins are truly communications that those who have left us are alright and took the time to let us know.  We buried both my cats with a quarter to call home if they could.  I also told them to find Grandma Carrie and everything will be perfect for them.  We do what we need to do and believe what we need to believe to help us get to the next day at times like this.  I am at the same place you are in grief today.  Keep us informed of how you are doing. 

Oh, I'm very sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you and Taz...

jlc20m

I am so sorry for your loss.  I too lost my girl, Baby, suddenly at 10 years old suddenly.  And unfortunately one of my other 10 year olds has been battling kidney failure since last Christmas, so I know I have some more heartbreak on the way.  My thoughts are with you - I know how painful it is . . .

I lost my precious Cinders today at 14 yrs. She got sick suddenly and I was told she had a tumor in her tummy. I had several days to say goodbye to my best friend and I am grateful for that but nothing seems to comfort me at least not right now. I can't believe she won't be next to me or her little head won't pop up on the side of the bed and no more leg rubs with her looking up at me adoringly. She means more to me then words can express so I know exactly how you feel. I too have found myself thinking about getting another black kitty mainly because it will remined me of Cinders although she is irreplaceable. Some people need another pet to help them through this horrible time if not just to love. Your precious cats know how much you love them.