Would you allow your teenager to...

...have a sleepover with a same-sex kid who is openly bisexual? We're talking 13-14 years old, have been friends for a year, sleepovers are very common with them and their friends... If no, what do you tell your child is the reason why not? If yes, are there boundaries or conditions? Or just say okay and pray?

Yeah..... Why not? By being a bi-sexual, doesn't mean they will do anything :dk:
I mean..... I takes two to do something..... and being a bi-sexual doesn't mean you have second intentions :dk:

Assuming this is your daughter, then for something to happen, the other girl would need first to be interested on your daughter.... If you fear that is the case, maybe you just want to have a conversation with her about it? Ask if there is something there? Ask if the friend has ever made a pass on her? Then you will be able to make a more informed decision....
Frankly I would have a much bigger fear of having a boy/girl sleep over where the risk of an unwanted pregnancy is a very real threat.... That's one that would worry me and call for a conversation for sure..... and boundaries.

Carolina said:

Yeah..... Why not? By being a bi-sexual, doesn't mean they will do anything

I mean..... I takes two to do something..... and being a bi-sexual doesn't mean you have second intentions

 

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Agree. I don't see a reason to not allow the sleepover. 

Carolina said:

 Ask if the friend has ever made a pass on her?  

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I don't see why not, but l'd ask the question Carolina put, after all she's old enough to understand

Agree with Carolina.

One of my best GFs is gay. She's a peach and we've been through a lot together. I love her dearly.

Sure, why not?

There is such a stigma against those who are attracted to the same sex. Many people automatically think that if they are friends with someone who is attracted to their sex, that they will automatically make a pass at them, or try something "funny".  That is so not the case.  Just because you are attracted to your own sex, doesn't mean you are attracted to everyone of that sex. Just like a man and woman may meet up and date, and not have any chemistry, so it is with gay and lesbian people.

In my 20's one of my best friends from back then was a lesbian.  We had movie nights and stayed up late at night laughing and gossiping, and even sleeping in the same bed.  It was just to girls who were friends, hanging out and sleeping.  She never tried anything "funny" with me.  And I've also had male good friends who I've shared sleeping space with.  I'm terribly afraid of thunder storms. Not as much now as I was in my teens and 20's, but I had a male friend who would drive over across town to "baby sit" me during a thunder storm.  We would lay in bed and he would cuddle me. I would sleep because he made me feel safe.

I would really love for the day to arrive where such questions didn't need to be asked, or even though about.