I work with a girl who is 22 or 23 years old. She is a single mother of a 7 year old. She has been under the weather with a respiratory issue for several weeks, and has been more ill than well for the past several months with one thing or another.
Her work assignment is very busy and she is very stressed, not only with work, but also her life in general. It isn't easy being a single parent. Her family is not very supportive of her and don't help her out. Her ex gives her grief over visitation of their daughter.
Yesterday she was about 20 minutes late getting into work. Turns out that there was an issue with her daughter having soiled her pants on the way out the door. She was curt with her daughter, and usually helps her take her coat off at daycare and kisses her bye, but yesterday she dropped her off and ran out the door without having done either, because she was going to be late for a meeting at work. Apparently her daughter was crying.
She felt soooo badly. She was talking to me about it in the afternoon and she was crying because she felt so badly about how she had taken her stress out on her daughter and left her at the daycare with her coat on and crying.
Today I got to work early and ordered her some flowers... anonymously. I had them put on the card "I love you Mommy! Abby"
She has no clue who sent them. She called her boy friend who told her that it wasn't him. So now she is completely clueless as to who sent them.
I acted unknowing and curious about her flowers and asked who sent them and "awwwed" at the card. I'm pretty good at keeping secrets.
So should I tell her it was me, or just let her stew and wonder?
Her work assignment is very busy and she is very stressed, not only with work, but also her life in general. It isn't easy being a single parent. Her family is not very supportive of her and don't help her out. Her ex gives her grief over visitation of their daughter.
Yesterday she was about 20 minutes late getting into work. Turns out that there was an issue with her daughter having soiled her pants on the way out the door. She was curt with her daughter, and usually helps her take her coat off at daycare and kisses her bye, but yesterday she dropped her off and ran out the door without having done either, because she was going to be late for a meeting at work. Apparently her daughter was crying.
She felt soooo badly. She was talking to me about it in the afternoon and she was crying because she felt so badly about how she had taken her stress out on her daughter and left her at the daycare with her coat on and crying.
Today I got to work early and ordered her some flowers... anonymously. I had them put on the card "I love you Mommy! Abby"
She has no clue who sent them. She called her boy friend who told her that it wasn't him. So now she is completely clueless as to who sent them.
I acted unknowing and curious about her flowers and asked who sent them and "awwwed" at the card. I'm pretty good at keeping secrets.
So should I tell her it was me, or just let her stew and wonder?