Without going into a super long story, our nephew Scott and his wife Patti are in the middle of a nasty divorce. I think Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes got divorced quicker than these two. Custody battle over the children - Leila is 9 and Julian is 7. Patti has some serious alcohol and drug problems and a temper that is frightening. Scott had his issues in the past but I think he has overcome them. We had kind of been on the outs with him for a while (again- a long story) but he called us and asked us to have breakfast with him last week. He felt bad about a lot of things that he had done and filled us in on a lot of the issues. They went to court Thursday and no decision reached.
Patti's dad was here for the hearing. He and Patti came over the house for lunch last week and she got us so mad we were ready to throw her out. She looked at Paul and told him that the only reason Scott contacted us was because he thought we were on a witness list for her - and her next words were "Scott couldn't care if you live or die". Her dad (actually he's not her biological father but raised her - he's divorced from Patti's mom and has a wonderful wife we all love) -- was so upset and apologized to Paul for Patti's behavior.
It's such a messy situation and would take forever to explain (sometimes I don't even understand it). I feel that Scott should get primary custody of the children and even her dad's wife agrees. Patti is just not stable enough and has demonstrated it. She burned Scott's clothing, trashed the house they lived it, threatened suicide, the police had to knock down the front door, she took an overdose -- and needs some serious therapy.
Anyway, just wanted to fill all you guys in. Will let you know what is happening.
Oh the sad thing is the children. We really want what is best for them and they're the ones who are suffering.
Patti's dad was here for the hearing. He and Patti came over the house for lunch last week and she got us so mad we were ready to throw her out. She looked at Paul and told him that the only reason Scott contacted us was because he thought we were on a witness list for her - and her next words were "Scott couldn't care if you live or die". Her dad (actually he's not her biological father but raised her - he's divorced from Patti's mom and has a wonderful wife we all love) -- was so upset and apologized to Paul for Patti's behavior.
It's such a messy situation and would take forever to explain (sometimes I don't even understand it). I feel that Scott should get primary custody of the children and even her dad's wife agrees. Patti is just not stable enough and has demonstrated it. She burned Scott's clothing, trashed the house they lived it, threatened suicide, the police had to knock down the front door, she took an overdose -- and needs some serious therapy.
Anyway, just wanted to fill all you guys in. Will let you know what is happening.
Oh the sad thing is the children. We really want what is best for them and they're the ones who are suffering.
My brother went through an extremely nasty divorce around 15 years ago. It was dueling restraining orders, physical violence from his ex, etc. He did get custody of the kids. Eventually she straightened out and it became joint custody, but those poor kids still carry around some pretty big emotional scars.
