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post #31 of 102
I am so proud of you Shell! You have moved forward.

Kudos to you sweetheart! Love you!

post #32 of 102
Thread Starter 
Thanks Hon! Tears are just flowing right now...tears of happiness & tears of sadness. I know it's the right thing to do...but it hurts. I just hate feeling this way. It just doesn't feel normal anymore...but what has been normal the past few years? Definitely not Bill & my relationship. It'll be good to be able to release all this extra burden on my back. It's left some bruises, but they will heal. It'll take a bit of time, but I'm sure it'll be ok.

I emailed Ric & told him that I wasn't going to meet Bill. Now we've got to come up with a plan for today. I'm hoping that maybe we can go out for lunch or do something fun. I'm still waiting for his reply though.
Thanks again Kell!
post #33 of 102
Just read this thread, have to say that I'm proud of you !
post #34 of 102
Thread Starter 
Thanks Cindy! Thanks for your support!
post #35 of 102
Shell, I am so proud of you! Sending more hugs your way.

You go, girl!
post #36 of 102
Shell i think you made the right choice and i'm proud of you for being strong enough to make that choice. Good job!
post #37 of 102
Thread Starter 
Thanks Guys! I appreciate it!

Sue, you better tell Tybalt!
post #38 of 102
Oh Man! Am I ever so glad to read this! Way to Go Girl, you showed your backbone!
post #39 of 102
Thread Starter 
MA...check your email! THANK YOU SO MUCH!
post #40 of 102
Originally posted by Shell
Ok Guys...I just got off the phone with him. I told him that I could not go up there & see him.
I was staying out of this because I don't know you well, and also didn't want to accidentally hurt your feelings...I am SO relieved to see this. Good for you for taking good care of you!

Now...I thought that Ric sounded wonderful, and I hope he *is* wonderful..I hope to read that you are getting to know him better.
post #41 of 102
You are quite welcome! I just now read your email and I have tears in my eyes.

Thank you Shell- now get going with the rest of your life!
post #42 of 102
Thread Starter 
Ric is something special...and just for the record, it's not a rebound thing either. He makes me laugh...which is something I haven't done in a long time. How sad is that? He's so dang funny though...my sides hurt when I get off the phone with him!

Now, I'm just hoping that our meeting will go good today! I'm sure it will, but I'm nervous & anxious. My body is doing some rollercoaster feelings today!
post #43 of 102
You go girl , you go girl you go girl
That was very brave of you to do that , I know it hurts bad and it will for a while . But in time there will come healing , peace and joy back to you . But the good news is , he wont be able to hurt you any more . Now you can go on with your own life , weather it is working out with Ric or not , but you are free from all ... and that what counds
post #44 of 102
Thread Starter 
Originally posted by hissy
You are quite welcome! I just now read your email and I have tears in my eyes.

Thank you Shell- now get going with the rest of your life!
That's my goal MA! I've learned from all of this & it's going to make me a better person in the long run. I'm ready to start fresh...and make myself proud!
Thanks again MA...you're such a sweetie! Love ya Hon!
post #45 of 102
I've learned from all of this & it's going to make me a better person in the long run. I'm ready to start fresh...and make myself proud!
You dont need to make yourself a better person, you are a GREAT person!
post #46 of 102
Shell, I am really glad you made that decision. You are such a sweet person, you deserve more than a lying, married man. Good for you, I know it had to be difficult, but you did it. Maybe that will give you the closure you need, since you were the one who decided not to see him.
post #47 of 102
Thread Starter 
Aww..thanks Kellye! I've always have beaten myself up for being the "mistress" and that always killed me inside. I've learned the hard way from my actions & his, so it did make me a better person. But thanks for the sweet words!
post #48 of 102
Yay Shell! You did the right things and I'm so proud of you! I know how hard it can be, and it takes a strong person to do what you did. I hope your "date" with ric goes well. Good luck!
post #49 of 102
Shell - it sounds like you made the smart move, but I am sure that it did hurt. I have always known that you were a strong woman and you just proved it again today. You deserve all of the happiness in the world. Good luck with Ric!
post #50 of 102
Thread Starter 
Thanks Ady & Laura!

I'm off to get ready to meet Ric! Wish me luck!
post #51 of 102
Have fun!
post #52 of 102
Michelle, I am SO proud of you!!! You made the absolute, no holds barred right choice.

Have fun with Ric today! Sounds like you are already on your way to a much happier future!
post #53 of 102
Thread Starter 
Thank you! OMG...I just can't believe I'm going to meet him! Wow...the nerves are going nuts in my body!!
post #54 of 102
When you get back - we want details!
post #55 of 102
Hi Shell,
I just saw this thread & was so worried for you...some men just have an aura, something about them that you just can't resist, and you go back again & again, even though you KNOW better, and you KNOW you deserve better.

I'm so proud you didn't go meet him and told him off like he deserves! You go girl!
I'm sorry you have to go through that pain though...it really stinks, but now you're finally finished with it.

You deserve a really good man.

Go out and have some fun today!

post #56 of 102
I just saw this thread, and I want to say I am so proud of you! I have been there, done that, got the scars to prove it, and it is no way to live. I wish the best with Ric. Have fun!
post #57 of 102

I am just seeing this now, and honestly, I haven't read the entire thread. I did get enough up to speed to see that you have told Bill to take a hike.

Good for you! That was EXACTLY what I was going to say: Do not, under any circumstances, go through with this meeting. If he is a weakness for you, then avoid him like the plague. This guy is not getting divorced. He wants to get you back in a place where he can play you.

Focus on Ric, and frankly, the hell with Bill. I wouldn't have any further contact.
post #58 of 102
Ah shell I just now got to read this! I am so proud of you!have loads of fun with Ric,and forget all about whats his name!
post #59 of 102
Oh Shell I started out so worried in the beginning of this thread and so sad that such a great person is being tormented by such a jerk and then I got to where you called him and said you couldn't meet and I wanted to jump for joy!!! What a major step for you to rid yourself of that and move on in your life and be happy! I am so glad you found the strength to do that! Hugs to you!!!!!

(Also waiting to hear how the date with Ric went! )
post #60 of 102
Good for you, Shell. Sending that two-timing butthead packing was the best thing that you could do.

Don't forget - we want dish about your date with Ric!
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