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I'm looking for advice & hope you may be able to help. I’ve been caring for a semi-feral cat, at my work, for several years. In March, a second cat appeared, who I categorized as a stray – she talked to me, rolled over on her back & kneaded, from a distance of about 10 feet. When I had her TNR’d, in April, they told me she was about 8 months old, had a badly healed leg fracture & was 4lb 4oz (after I’d been fattening her up for 5 weeks). I'd fallen for this little girl. Within a month of her return to the grounds at my office, she allowed me to touch her &, 3 weeks after that, she turned into a lap kitty. I've never met a kitten who loves sitting on a lap for so long! She wouldn't allow any one else near her - in fact, few people at office EVER saw her - but we have a strong connection.
In July, the 16 year old cat I was fostering went back home, so of course, I decided to bring the kitty, Cali, home. The semi-feral cat at work was becoming more & more adversarial toward Cali. My oldest cat at home, Kitzen, has always had a companion cat & the rescue I adopted last fall, Marni, HATES other cats (despite the claims of the rescue group who I adopted her from). Over the course of the past year, we've kept Kitzen & Marni separated & they now respect each other's territory, for the most part.
My oldest cat has never been territorial, so I thought he'd accept Cali as his companion.
I brought her home on August 10 & she was so scared on the ride home that she pooped in her carrier, but she settled into her room reasonably well - purring & coming out of the closet to be with me, when I was in the room. However, the next day she escaped! Weird timing circumstances - she ran out the door of the room, as my husband was letting one of the other cats in from the back yard.
She was in my neighbor's yard for a couple of days, where I fed her. She would come near me, but not to me. When she did come near me & I grabbed her, she shredded my arm. Clearly, she was more traumatized/feral than I realized. Then, the day I got a live trap, she found her way into my backyard, only to be treed by Marni. Marni's only outside about 2 hours a day, so I hoped Cali would adapt to Marni's schedule & stay away from her.
She seemed really happy in my backyard & came whenever I called, but stayed about 20 feet away from me. She was gradually warming up, when Kitzen discovered her last Saturday. Kitzen chased her out of the yard. Kitzen stopped sleeping on the bed all day & took to patrolling the yard, trying to keep Cali out. As I said, Kitzen has never been territorial, so I don't know if it's his age (he's 13) or if he learned the behavior from Marni.
Yesterday, Kitzen beat up on her & she didn't come, when I called, last night. I was distraught (for the millionth time, since this saga started). This morning, she came to me & climbed on my lap & acted like nothing had ever happened. Tonight when I got home, Cali had found her way into the front yard. She was happily exploring, when Kitzen chased her toward the street.
My concern now is getting Kitzen to accept Cali as a member of our household. Cali has adapted well to living outside here - she's obviously bonded to me & the food I give her. But I'm wondering if I should bring her back inside & keep her in a room, as originally planned, with gradual introduction via baby gates to the other cats; so the cats understand that she belongs to us & isn't an interloper in our yard.
Sorry for the lengthy email, but I want you to understand the history. Do you have any thoughts/suggestions or know of a behaviorist who might be able to help me?
Thanks for listening to my tale of woe!
Liz
In July, the 16 year old cat I was fostering went back home, so of course, I decided to bring the kitty, Cali, home. The semi-feral cat at work was becoming more & more adversarial toward Cali. My oldest cat at home, Kitzen, has always had a companion cat & the rescue I adopted last fall, Marni, HATES other cats (despite the claims of the rescue group who I adopted her from). Over the course of the past year, we've kept Kitzen & Marni separated & they now respect each other's territory, for the most part.
My oldest cat has never been territorial, so I thought he'd accept Cali as his companion.
I brought her home on August 10 & she was so scared on the ride home that she pooped in her carrier, but she settled into her room reasonably well - purring & coming out of the closet to be with me, when I was in the room. However, the next day she escaped! Weird timing circumstances - she ran out the door of the room, as my husband was letting one of the other cats in from the back yard.
She was in my neighbor's yard for a couple of days, where I fed her. She would come near me, but not to me. When she did come near me & I grabbed her, she shredded my arm. Clearly, she was more traumatized/feral than I realized. Then, the day I got a live trap, she found her way into my backyard, only to be treed by Marni. Marni's only outside about 2 hours a day, so I hoped Cali would adapt to Marni's schedule & stay away from her.
She seemed really happy in my backyard & came whenever I called, but stayed about 20 feet away from me. She was gradually warming up, when Kitzen discovered her last Saturday. Kitzen chased her out of the yard. Kitzen stopped sleeping on the bed all day & took to patrolling the yard, trying to keep Cali out. As I said, Kitzen has never been territorial, so I don't know if it's his age (he's 13) or if he learned the behavior from Marni.
Yesterday, Kitzen beat up on her & she didn't come, when I called, last night. I was distraught (for the millionth time, since this saga started). This morning, she came to me & climbed on my lap & acted like nothing had ever happened. Tonight when I got home, Cali had found her way into the front yard. She was happily exploring, when Kitzen chased her toward the street.
My concern now is getting Kitzen to accept Cali as a member of our household. Cali has adapted well to living outside here - she's obviously bonded to me & the food I give her. But I'm wondering if I should bring her back inside & keep her in a room, as originally planned, with gradual introduction via baby gates to the other cats; so the cats understand that she belongs to us & isn't an interloper in our yard.
Sorry for the lengthy email, but I want you to understand the history. Do you have any thoughts/suggestions or know of a behaviorist who might be able to help me?
Thanks for listening to my tale of woe!
Liz