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I lost my dear, sweet Johnny on Thursday. He was everything to me. He was my child, my best friend, my everything. He was all that was good in my world. He was my life. He was 12, I had him since he was a few weeks old. I loved him since the first time I ever saw him. Although I think he loved me first, because he found me and picked me out of a crowd and stayed with me from that point on until the end of his life. I loved him more than ANYTHING. More than my husband, more than my parents. Now that he's gone I've realized that I only cared for or worried for my other cats and family - he was the only thing I ever truly loved. He was so beautiful and his spirit was so unique, not like any human or animal I've ever known. Everyone who knew me, knew Johnny. Knew that we were inseparable, we were bonded like no other. Now that he's gone I can't stand life. I literally feel like my insides are turning black, crumbling up and falling away. As if his loss isn't bad enough, I feel like I caused his death. And he died painfully and torturous. It's killing me.
On February 13, 2012 we rushed him to the vet because he was acting weird. I found out he was going into heart failure. I saw him on the table literally curling up and dying right in front of my eyes. If we had waited any longer, 5 minutes longer he wouldn't have made it. From then he was hospitalized for an entire week in an isolated oxygen tank. I visited him every single day he was there. Most days he didn't even move his head to look at me. He was in bad shape, I didn't think he would ever come home. But he did. He was so strong and he fought. From then on he had weekly vet visits to have fluid drained from his chest so he could breathe. Me, my husband and Johnny became very well known at the vet's office. I saw them all more than I saw anyone in my family in the past half year. To the point where my vet would completely waive entire visit fees, and let us come in the back and hold him while she drained him.
He wasn't only battling severe heart disease. He had a 5 heart murmur his entire life and has suffered from frequent upper respiratory infections. About 2 years ago episodes of syncope also started happening. For the past 6 months I dedicated ALL my time to him. Gave him his meds 3 times a day, fed him by hand every day, every time he needed to eat. I gave him special foods just for him, sardines, tuna water, previously deli meats until I was concerned with the sodium. Considering his condition he was hanging in there pretty well. He NEVER EVER complained about anything ever. God he was the best. About 2 weeks ago his bloodwork showed his potassium was low, so we were told to give him some twice a day. We gave it to him with the rest of his meds, except he gagged when we did so we decided to give it to him after his meds in case he spit his meds out and we didn't notice. That was our mistake.
We always gave his heart and diuretic meds perfectly on time, every day. Within the previous 4-5 days of his passing, I would accidentally fall asleep early and we ended up missing some of his potassium doses. I was stupid, so stupid and didn't realize how important it was. I didnt realize how low his levels were. Wednesday afternoon we brought him home from the vet from having fluid drained. They give him a small sedative because he is... was a ferocious panther when he started to feel better. He always acted weird after coming home while being on the sedative. When he was laying around or not drinking I didn't think anything of it because that's what he always did. Much later on in the evening I noticed he was on his side pressed up against the vent on the front of the fridge. He loved the rug in front of the fridge, but never laid against it. I tried to feed him some sardine juice, he bolted his head towards it like he always did but then hovered above it a few seconds and laid back down. He did this sometimes too, with his URI he wasn't always hungry. I thought it was a little off but not much. Then with a short burst of energy he moved himself to a pile of clothes next to the fridge, laid on his side. I thought maybe the sedatives were just still keeping him weird, that happened sometimes too. After a while I noticed... This is so hard for me to relive.
I noticed he was not moving, but his eyes were. He wasn't sleeping like I thought he was. He wasn't closing his eyes at all. I felt his paws and they were cold, but that happened sometimes. I would lift his arms and they would drop back down like nothing. I didn't know what to do so I went to the computer to look it up. Then I see him barely stumbling across the floor almost face planting. I laid down with him and didn't leave him til the next day. He couldn't walk... he couldn't eat or drink. He couldn't open his mouth. He.. he couldn't even close his eyelids. He was hungry and thirsty, he would try to drag himself with 1 arm in the direction to where the water was even though it was a room away. I would hold water for him and he could only lift his head if I lifted his body.. and it would only last a few seconds, his head would wobble and then slowly sink facedown in front of him. Then he would go to his side again. Sometimes his front arms would get so tight and curl up towards his chest. He definitely couldn't get to the litter box, and here we are jamming diuretics down his throat. My husband read symptoms of lack of potassium so we gave him the dose, plus 1. 30 mins after that he got up with a short burst of energy and laid on my purse I put in front of him. (He loved my purse. I buried him with him laying on it). We thought he was getting better. He could sit up for a 2 mins on his own without us holding him, but he still couldn't open his mouth. We slept with him on the kitchen floor that night. I held his cold paw in my hand all night. I tried to help massage his legs for blood flow. He laid there all night, eyes wide open looking around. His eyes would sink downwards a little bit, I feel like he was trying to sleep but couldn't. Every few hours I would wake up and blink his eyes for him, needless to say I got very little sleep that night. Sometimes his arms would slowly and tightly lift up to his face. Other times his arms would contract so hard and pull to his chest. By the next afternoon he was still not moving, only his eyes. After more potassium he could hold himself up longer, but still coudn't open his mouth. I was so worried that he couldn't pee that we finally decided to call the vet.
Our normal vet who I love so much and trust, left for vacation that day. We knew she was leaving so that's why we brought him in the day before to get drained. We did not trust anyone but her with Johnny. But I thought they could at least give him oxygen, maybe pain killers and put a catheter in. So we called, they told us to come right in. He was still laying on the kitchen floor where he had been all night. My husband didn't want to bring him in because he didn't trust the rentavets with his unique condition, but I did. It was my idea. I was hurrying to get dressed, my husband put him in the carrier like he always does. We brought him to the car, we didn't realize how hot it was. We usually give him an icepack in the carrier. He loved ice and snow. As soon as I sat with him... he started clawing the carrier, while laying on his side. And making barely audible muffled crying noises. In all his 12 years he NEVER ever complained about pain, never cried. Never ever anything. To hear him do that tore me into a million pieces, because I KNEW he was in unbearable pain. It got more violent.. never in his life did he ever poof up his tail for anything. Not dogs, not people, not anger. He never did it ever once. But he did then.
He went into heart failure/had a heart attack, he didn't make it a mile down the road. Our carrier was broken so it was twist tied shut at the front hinge and the door of it opened on the opposite side so I couldn't get my hand in to pet him. It was horrific, he was flailing and curling up (the little that he could), fluid was coming out of his mouth, his tail poofed up so huge. I was panicking so I was of course screaming my head off crying to see and hear him do that. I didn't get to say a real goodbye. I didn't get to soothe him, I was screaming. It was my idea to put him in the car, triggering the attack. I'm the one who forgot his potassium. I didn't think he was going to die in the car. He made it through SO many other times when he was on the brink of death, he was so strong. I thought he was going to get better, like he did so many times. Everything I feared would happen, everything I was sure I was going to protect him from at his death, happened. His last 24 hours were pure misery, and it was my fault. I WAS SUPPOSED TO PROTECT HIM. And I failed him.
The morning of his vet visit to be drained (Wednesday) he had a syncope attack. While he was laying on his side his back leg (and maybe front?) were shaking very very fast. It lasted..20 seconds? I can't remember. And the night before that (Tuesday night) I'm not sure what happened to him but we came home to him laying by the front door, leaning against it. He didn't really lay there, definitely not leaning against it. I think he might have fallen down the stairs and landed there. I thought maybe he had a syncope attack and had fallen down. Either way, it's still my fault. In the past 6 months I hardly ever left the house, unless for a vet visit. I left him for an hour and something happened to him while I was gone. I shouldn't have left. I want to believe he had a stroke either that night, or Wednesday morning. But I can't do it. At the vet visit Wednesday (the draining) she definitely noticed something was wrong with him, he wasn't acting right. We thought it was from his URI, infection making him sluggish.
I still feel like he's on his landing, or on his rug he loved. I keep feeling like I need to check on him in my sleep or get his meds at certain times. Now I just wake up in the middle of the night and cry myself back to sleep, over and over. As if the pain of losing him isn't destroying me, the guilt makes me hate myself and if I didnt have my other cats to take care of I'd probably end up commited. I had 1 job in this life, to take care of and protect him from the evils in this world. To make his life happy. Our vet even said she would come to our house to put him down when it was time, so he didn't have to have his last moments in the car, in the vet's office, scared or stressed. I thought that's how it would have ended. I really did.
I haven't eaten since Wednesday night, the blankets where we all slept together are still on the floor in the kitchen. His treats he didn't finish are still on the landing where he loved to lay. His food bowls are still everywhere. I can't go in the car, his carrier is still there ripped apart when I was trying to get into it, with his name on it. My seat is where.. he died. I can't get the images out of my head, I keep thinking I'm hearing him in the other room. I keep feeling like I need to go down tot he landing and check on him or feed him. His pills are still on the kitchen counter, I haven't gone in there since Wednesday. I can't stand it. What do I do? How do I deal with this? It's killing me. Before he died I believed I would see him again one day, I really did. Now that he's actually gone, I'm having a hard time believing it. All I want is to hold him one last time and just say I'm sorry for what I did to him. I still can't comprehend he's gone.
On February 13, 2012 we rushed him to the vet because he was acting weird. I found out he was going into heart failure. I saw him on the table literally curling up and dying right in front of my eyes. If we had waited any longer, 5 minutes longer he wouldn't have made it. From then he was hospitalized for an entire week in an isolated oxygen tank. I visited him every single day he was there. Most days he didn't even move his head to look at me. He was in bad shape, I didn't think he would ever come home. But he did. He was so strong and he fought. From then on he had weekly vet visits to have fluid drained from his chest so he could breathe. Me, my husband and Johnny became very well known at the vet's office. I saw them all more than I saw anyone in my family in the past half year. To the point where my vet would completely waive entire visit fees, and let us come in the back and hold him while she drained him.
He wasn't only battling severe heart disease. He had a 5 heart murmur his entire life and has suffered from frequent upper respiratory infections. About 2 years ago episodes of syncope also started happening. For the past 6 months I dedicated ALL my time to him. Gave him his meds 3 times a day, fed him by hand every day, every time he needed to eat. I gave him special foods just for him, sardines, tuna water, previously deli meats until I was concerned with the sodium. Considering his condition he was hanging in there pretty well. He NEVER EVER complained about anything ever. God he was the best. About 2 weeks ago his bloodwork showed his potassium was low, so we were told to give him some twice a day. We gave it to him with the rest of his meds, except he gagged when we did so we decided to give it to him after his meds in case he spit his meds out and we didn't notice. That was our mistake.
We always gave his heart and diuretic meds perfectly on time, every day. Within the previous 4-5 days of his passing, I would accidentally fall asleep early and we ended up missing some of his potassium doses. I was stupid, so stupid and didn't realize how important it was. I didnt realize how low his levels were. Wednesday afternoon we brought him home from the vet from having fluid drained. They give him a small sedative because he is... was a ferocious panther when he started to feel better. He always acted weird after coming home while being on the sedative. When he was laying around or not drinking I didn't think anything of it because that's what he always did. Much later on in the evening I noticed he was on his side pressed up against the vent on the front of the fridge. He loved the rug in front of the fridge, but never laid against it. I tried to feed him some sardine juice, he bolted his head towards it like he always did but then hovered above it a few seconds and laid back down. He did this sometimes too, with his URI he wasn't always hungry. I thought it was a little off but not much. Then with a short burst of energy he moved himself to a pile of clothes next to the fridge, laid on his side. I thought maybe the sedatives were just still keeping him weird, that happened sometimes too. After a while I noticed... This is so hard for me to relive.
I noticed he was not moving, but his eyes were. He wasn't sleeping like I thought he was. He wasn't closing his eyes at all. I felt his paws and they were cold, but that happened sometimes. I would lift his arms and they would drop back down like nothing. I didn't know what to do so I went to the computer to look it up. Then I see him barely stumbling across the floor almost face planting. I laid down with him and didn't leave him til the next day. He couldn't walk... he couldn't eat or drink. He couldn't open his mouth. He.. he couldn't even close his eyelids. He was hungry and thirsty, he would try to drag himself with 1 arm in the direction to where the water was even though it was a room away. I would hold water for him and he could only lift his head if I lifted his body.. and it would only last a few seconds, his head would wobble and then slowly sink facedown in front of him. Then he would go to his side again. Sometimes his front arms would get so tight and curl up towards his chest. He definitely couldn't get to the litter box, and here we are jamming diuretics down his throat. My husband read symptoms of lack of potassium so we gave him the dose, plus 1. 30 mins after that he got up with a short burst of energy and laid on my purse I put in front of him. (He loved my purse. I buried him with him laying on it). We thought he was getting better. He could sit up for a 2 mins on his own without us holding him, but he still couldn't open his mouth. We slept with him on the kitchen floor that night. I held his cold paw in my hand all night. I tried to help massage his legs for blood flow. He laid there all night, eyes wide open looking around. His eyes would sink downwards a little bit, I feel like he was trying to sleep but couldn't. Every few hours I would wake up and blink his eyes for him, needless to say I got very little sleep that night. Sometimes his arms would slowly and tightly lift up to his face. Other times his arms would contract so hard and pull to his chest. By the next afternoon he was still not moving, only his eyes. After more potassium he could hold himself up longer, but still coudn't open his mouth. I was so worried that he couldn't pee that we finally decided to call the vet.
Our normal vet who I love so much and trust, left for vacation that day. We knew she was leaving so that's why we brought him in the day before to get drained. We did not trust anyone but her with Johnny. But I thought they could at least give him oxygen, maybe pain killers and put a catheter in. So we called, they told us to come right in. He was still laying on the kitchen floor where he had been all night. My husband didn't want to bring him in because he didn't trust the rentavets with his unique condition, but I did. It was my idea. I was hurrying to get dressed, my husband put him in the carrier like he always does. We brought him to the car, we didn't realize how hot it was. We usually give him an icepack in the carrier. He loved ice and snow. As soon as I sat with him... he started clawing the carrier, while laying on his side. And making barely audible muffled crying noises. In all his 12 years he NEVER ever complained about pain, never cried. Never ever anything. To hear him do that tore me into a million pieces, because I KNEW he was in unbearable pain. It got more violent.. never in his life did he ever poof up his tail for anything. Not dogs, not people, not anger. He never did it ever once. But he did then.
He went into heart failure/had a heart attack, he didn't make it a mile down the road. Our carrier was broken so it was twist tied shut at the front hinge and the door of it opened on the opposite side so I couldn't get my hand in to pet him. It was horrific, he was flailing and curling up (the little that he could), fluid was coming out of his mouth, his tail poofed up so huge. I was panicking so I was of course screaming my head off crying to see and hear him do that. I didn't get to say a real goodbye. I didn't get to soothe him, I was screaming. It was my idea to put him in the car, triggering the attack. I'm the one who forgot his potassium. I didn't think he was going to die in the car. He made it through SO many other times when he was on the brink of death, he was so strong. I thought he was going to get better, like he did so many times. Everything I feared would happen, everything I was sure I was going to protect him from at his death, happened. His last 24 hours were pure misery, and it was my fault. I WAS SUPPOSED TO PROTECT HIM. And I failed him.
The morning of his vet visit to be drained (Wednesday) he had a syncope attack. While he was laying on his side his back leg (and maybe front?) were shaking very very fast. It lasted..20 seconds? I can't remember. And the night before that (Tuesday night) I'm not sure what happened to him but we came home to him laying by the front door, leaning against it. He didn't really lay there, definitely not leaning against it. I think he might have fallen down the stairs and landed there. I thought maybe he had a syncope attack and had fallen down. Either way, it's still my fault. In the past 6 months I hardly ever left the house, unless for a vet visit. I left him for an hour and something happened to him while I was gone. I shouldn't have left. I want to believe he had a stroke either that night, or Wednesday morning. But I can't do it. At the vet visit Wednesday (the draining) she definitely noticed something was wrong with him, he wasn't acting right. We thought it was from his URI, infection making him sluggish.
I still feel like he's on his landing, or on his rug he loved. I keep feeling like I need to check on him in my sleep or get his meds at certain times. Now I just wake up in the middle of the night and cry myself back to sleep, over and over. As if the pain of losing him isn't destroying me, the guilt makes me hate myself and if I didnt have my other cats to take care of I'd probably end up commited. I had 1 job in this life, to take care of and protect him from the evils in this world. To make his life happy. Our vet even said she would come to our house to put him down when it was time, so he didn't have to have his last moments in the car, in the vet's office, scared or stressed. I thought that's how it would have ended. I really did.
I haven't eaten since Wednesday night, the blankets where we all slept together are still on the floor in the kitchen. His treats he didn't finish are still on the landing where he loved to lay. His food bowls are still everywhere. I can't go in the car, his carrier is still there ripped apart when I was trying to get into it, with his name on it. My seat is where.. he died. I can't get the images out of my head, I keep thinking I'm hearing him in the other room. I keep feeling like I need to go down tot he landing and check on him or feed him. His pills are still on the kitchen counter, I haven't gone in there since Wednesday. I can't stand it. What do I do? How do I deal with this? It's killing me. Before he died I believed I would see him again one day, I really did. Now that he's actually gone, I'm having a hard time believing it. All I want is to hold him one last time and just say I'm sorry for what I did to him. I still can't comprehend he's gone.