Did you know autism does not just mean a person is very low-functioning?
It is true. Autism is a spectrum disorder, which means it ranges in severity from barely disabled to inability to function. A person who is slightly disabled and was late developing does not want to be called autistic because of the stigma attached to that word, so they use a different term for the same disability: Asperger's syndrome, named after the European pediatrician who discovered it. I have this condition.
I understand some of my comments seem to be insensitive after they are brought to my attention. Sometimes it seems I make statements not to help others but for my own good. Let me set the record straight about this; I am not using a disability as an excuse for being bad. What I want to do is help people understand the reason for those insensitive comments is not that I don't care, but rather I lack social skills required to judge what a bad comment is because of my disability.
One symptom of AS that I struggle with is blindness to "negative overtones," meaning people get mad at me for saying what I think is a good, harmless statement. Example: When I saw bald spots on both sides of a cat's nose, I thought saying Patricia has almost the same thing might help that Persian's owner feel better about the fur loss. Instead, I got a PM advising me it is "insensitive" to say something about my own cat - as opposed to expressing concern for the Persian whose fur is not growing back. My thinking on that was by saying that fur loss is caused by old age, the OP would be assured it is normal and nothing is wrong with her cat.
I hope you will understand from now on I really do want to be your friend and never, ever say anything inflammatory on purpose.
It is true. Autism is a spectrum disorder, which means it ranges in severity from barely disabled to inability to function. A person who is slightly disabled and was late developing does not want to be called autistic because of the stigma attached to that word, so they use a different term for the same disability: Asperger's syndrome, named after the European pediatrician who discovered it. I have this condition.
I understand some of my comments seem to be insensitive after they are brought to my attention. Sometimes it seems I make statements not to help others but for my own good. Let me set the record straight about this; I am not using a disability as an excuse for being bad. What I want to do is help people understand the reason for those insensitive comments is not that I don't care, but rather I lack social skills required to judge what a bad comment is because of my disability.
One symptom of AS that I struggle with is blindness to "negative overtones," meaning people get mad at me for saying what I think is a good, harmless statement. Example: When I saw bald spots on both sides of a cat's nose, I thought saying Patricia has almost the same thing might help that Persian's owner feel better about the fur loss. Instead, I got a PM advising me it is "insensitive" to say something about my own cat - as opposed to expressing concern for the Persian whose fur is not growing back. My thinking on that was by saying that fur loss is caused by old age, the OP would be assured it is normal and nothing is wrong with her cat.
I hope you will understand from now on I really do want to be your friend and never, ever say anything inflammatory on purpose.