For my dear sweet Georgie-poo

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We had to put George down yesterday. This is my first cat I've ever had (only other pets I've ever had were fish) and this was the hardest thing I've ever had to do in my life. 
 


We adopted him from the Humane Society in 2007, he was born in 2005. We loved him right away. He was the sweetest cat ever....more dog-like than a cat should be sometimes! He would come when called, loved to be around people, loved belly rubs and ear scratches, wagged his tail when he was happy, and would have even drank from the toilet if we would have let him! He knew if myself or my fiancee were feeling down and would come to comfort us. He loved catnip and treats of course. He also loved to play with anything that was free - ie. cardboard, paper, newspapers, shopping bags, balls of tinfoil, string, etc. He had a perfectly good cat bed to sleep in, but he was much happier in the empty cardboard tray from a 32 can pack of Coke. He would play in it and with it, and curl up and sleep in it when he tuckered himself out.

The past few days he hasn't been eating hardly any of his favourite kibble. We offered him some wet food instead as this usually helps him get enough food into him to pass whatever is causing him the problem, and then he'll go back to normal. He refused it. Soon he wouldn't even eat treats, or even drink the tiny dribble of milk out of my cereal bowl which was his custom every morning. I offered it to him yesterday, and although he tried to get to it, he let out a mournful meow and laid back down. That's when we knew something serious was up.

When we took him to the vet they x-rayed him and found kind of a dryed hairball/kibble ball that was stuck in his digestive tract, which is why he wasn't eating. This was a treatable issue, and we and the vet were optimistic. They kept him for the afternoon to treat him, and then take another x-ray. 

When the blockage moved, they took the second x-ray. It revealed a large mass/tumour of some kind that we couldn't see the first time because it was hidden behind the blockage, and George's condition began to rapidly decrease. We were taken to a room at the clinic which was made to be peaceful and comfortable - a place where I guess they bring the sick animals to be put to sleep so it doesn't have to be done in a cold operating room. We laid him down on his towels on the big leather couch. He was drooling from the treatments he had earlier, and we could tell he was in a lot of pain. Every once in awhile he would let out a sad little "help me" meow, and he kept shifting around to try and be more comfortable. His once bright and happy eyes were so sad...I think he knew his time was up. He was in so much pain and discomfort, and the vet said that the damage from this mass/tumour thing had been done and there was nothing that could be done to help him. The last and most merciful thing we could do for him was to put him to sleep. He wanted to be on the floor all of a sudden as he started shuffling towards the edge of the couch, so we laid him down there on his towels. My fiancee's parents were on the way down to the clinic, but George couldn't wait for them to get there. He suddenly became very still on the floor, and we thought he may have passed naturally, but then he gave another laboured breath. The vet said his heart was beating very slow and that we shouldn't wait any longer, so he gave him the anesthetic while we both petted George and told him we loved him. And then he was gone.

We took him home to my fiancee's parents house and buried him there, where they have laid some of their other pets to rest before. Before we buried him, we made up a little mold with some plaster of Paris in it, and took impressions of his paw prints so we have a moment of him. After we dug the hole, we put some cardboard down at the bottom with some treats, so he can always be laying on cardboard for eternity like he enjoyed doing in life.

He was such a good kitty, and he was too young to die. He was only 6.5. It's not fair that he didn't get much time, but I think we gave him the best life he could have ever hoped for once we took him home from the shelter. Someday I think we will rescue another cat, but right now we're just so torn up about our Georgie-poo. I think I will donate some of his things that are still good back to the shelter, and then I can tell them the story of how George had a good life once he came home with us.

I miss my friend so much. 




[George hanging out on top of the garbage can! He enjoyed sitting in the strangest places.]



[George enjoying playing in one of his many cardboard boxes over the years.]



[Sitting up on the couch, on the day we brought him home from the shelter. "This is great, I think I'm gonna like it here."]
 

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I'm so sorry for your loss. George was adorable, far too young to die, and is sure to have left an empty place in your lives, though not your hearts. The cardboard was a great idea - that's one a lot of people here will probably adopt. RIP, Georgie,
 

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What a handsome boy! I'm glad he adopted you. You gave him the best possible life, I'm sure. I'm so very sorry that your time together was cut short.

RIP Georgie - run free and whole and healthy again at the Rainbow Bridge.

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I am literally crying here at work after reading this... What a gorgeous, precious boy... May George live forever in your heart!

 
 

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I'm sorry you lost your sweet George, and so suddenly like that. He was far too young. :(
 
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First of all, I'd like to say thank you all for your kind responses.

My fiancé and I have slowly moved into a point where we are more stable and able to function and go to work, but the hurt is still quite strong and will be for quite some time I'm sure. Personally, I find it the hardest in the morning when I eat my cereal for breakfast. George would always come running at the sound of cereal hitting the bowl, and stay by my side until I was finished so he could get his teeny drop of milk as the end. He would even sometimes tap me in the leg or the arm if I was taking too long, as if to say "Hurry up Meowmy! I don't have all day here!!" 
 I would often stroke his fur and talk to him as I ate. It was our morning bonding time before I would start off on my day. The quietness and loneliness of my breakfasts now is sometimes unbearable.


I sometimes catch myself continuing to do little habits that I developed while we had George with us, that I don't need to worry about anymore. Keeping the door to my closet closed. Keeping the door to the basement where his litter box was open. Taking care not to leave small things about that he could play with and accidentally eat. Putting my foot through the front door first when coming home, so that when George comes to greet me, he can't dart out the door. Once I realize that George isn't going to come running, or won't get into certain places, or won't come to drink the milk from my bowl, it breaks my heart in pieces all over again.

As I have been contemplating things over the past few days, and reading various posts in this category, I have realized that George did give us one final gift - he waited for us to get there to be with him. (I can't imagine how horrible of an experience it would be to lose a pet, and not be there when it happened.) He hadn't been doing well all afternoon while he was alone at the vet's, but he was stable. As soon as we were able to get back to him there, and he saw us and heard our voices, I think that he knew he could finally give up the painful fight that he had been fighting, and that his time to move on to a peaceful and painless existence at the Rainbow Bridge had come. It was absolutely horrendous for me to watch him deteriorate so quickly over the period of an hour, up until the point when the vet had to put the needle in his paw to put him to sleep. These are extremely painful memories that will haunt me for some time. But I am very thankful that we could at least be there for him one last time so that he knew that we did love him with all our hearts, and that we would miss him always.

Continuing on as best as we can without our little boy.....

~GeorgesPal
 

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AW hun.... I am truly sorry for your great loss. George was a very cute and adorable boy. Such a shock - to have lost him so quickly like that. Just know you are not alone and in time you will be able to come to terms with this terrible loss. Thoughts and prayers coming your way. George was obviously a very, very special cat for you both. :rub:

Fly Freely :rbheart: George :rbheart: You will be greatly missed :rub: :angel:
 
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Thankyou Feralvr, George was indeed a special cat for us both.

Today I sent a thankyou card to our vet, along with some photos of George while he was still happy and healthy. In the end, there was nothing our vet could do to save George, so I just wanted to let him know that all his care and patience with George (and with us as we were bawling our eyes out in his office) were greatly appreciated.

I also began painting the memorial tile that we made for George, which we pressed his paw prints into as the plaster was drying. This has been quite a therpeutic process for me, and it is allowing me to work through some of the sadness and grief, and get through to the part when all the happy memories come rushing back. I will post a picture of it when I'm done, but I'm still a few coats of paint away from that.

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Feeling like I'm going slightly crazy here......perhaps I just need to sleep. 


Back when George was with us, when I would sit on the couch and use my laptop, he would always walk up beside me and look up to see what I was doing, give me a "hello meow", and sometimes even hop up to join me. So I'm sitting on the couch again tonight, using the laptop again, and out of the corner of my eye I swear I see something there, where George used to make his appearances. I turn to look and there's nothing there (and we have no other fur-babies in our home, and fiancé has long since gone to bed). Feel like I'm losing my marbles, but I also do feel happy like I did when George was here....perhaps his spirit is stopping by to say hello. 


On another note I have the memorial tile thingy done, save for a few minor touchups. Will post a picture soon but I'm sleepy so I should get to bed.

(P.S. I hope I'm not being annoying by continually posting stuff here......for me, writing things out (especially when I am experiencing grief) helps me work through the process and get out all my emotions, so that I don't bottle it all up inside and go completely bonkers)  
 
 


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I am so sorry for your loss.  George was an adorable cat.  His eyes hynotize me.  I am no surprised that you saw what you did.  Others on this board have had experiences like that too.  When our Speedboat passed in 2010 we were devastated because it was sudden and we didn't know what was wrong.  Early one morning, hubby was making coffee and he kept hearing a cat meow, more specifically Speedboat's meow.  It was coming from our screen porch which is just out the kitchen door.  That is where hubby always fed him.  After that, I saw him in my hallway.  I think it is just a little thing that happens because we need it so much.  Don't be surprised to see your cat again.  Hugs.
 
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I've been thinking a lot about George lately, so I'm finally going to get around to posting a picture of my finished memorial "plate" that I made. We pressed George's paws into some plaster of Paris not long after he was gone, and after it dried, I spent a few days painting it to look like this. Down the right side, when the plaster was still wet, I pressed in some beads that had unique shapes. I made sure that they were ones that looked like they would be fun for George to play with.



[A before & after shot during the painting process.]



[A shot taken from the side to show the detail and the three dimensional qualities of the beads and his paw prints.]



[Our mantle in the living room, which has turned into a "George shrine" of sorts. From left to right: photos of George on his first day home with us, sympathy cards from our vet and my grandma, the memorial piece that I made, my pretty crystal vase with shells and palm crosses in it, George's blue collar that he detested so much, an amazing life-like drawing that my artist friend drew for me after we lost George, his favourite green jingly ball, and a photo of him and I with the caption "What part of MEOW don't you understand?" :D ]

My fiancé and I went to a couple of local shelters a month ago to take a look at possibly getting a new cat. We both felt we were ready when we were just looking at their pictures online, but once we got to the shelter and started interacting with the cats, I think my fiancé started to feel bad for George again so we left empty handed. I told it him it was fine that he needed more time, and that I would let him have all the time he needed. We both mourn differently, and I have suffered a lot more losses in my life than he has, so I think I'm just better or more experienced at grieving and I'm able to finish that process sooner. I'm really starting to miss having the interaction with a cat and having something to take care of, so I want to visit the subject again with fiancé but at the same time I don't want to push him. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to handle this kind of situation? I know I can't force him into anything because then he won't be happy with it, and then it also wouldn't be fair to the animal.

Well time for bed, it's past my bed time. Thanks for reading...

~GeorgesPal
 

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I'm so sorry for your loss of your precious George. He's a handsome little boy!. His paw prints are a lovely idea, because it's like he's still around you.

As for another cat, everyone's different. My sister to this day still can't get another dog after losing her German Shepherd over 7 years ago, but l would get another straight away to help take my mind off the loss and ease the pain.

I would keep visiting the shelters, because there could be one cat that chooses your fiance when he least expects it, plus you could mention how the cats in the shelters need a loving home rather than stay in a cage 
 

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 <3((((((((^^))))))))<3 handsome George, safe, healthy and whole now, free of pain, watching over you always until you are reunited in due time.  What a gorgeous little lion-man!  And he had a wonderful and LOVED life with you, which is the most important of all.  Though you would pray for many more years with him, I hope you are comforted knowing that his life was GOOD and that he enjoyed much happiness as a beloved member of your family.  You did good with him, absolutely!  

In time, if you feel so inclined as to open your home and hearts to another deserving cat (or cats), it will be the most meaningful and wonderful tribute to George that could ever be possible.  He certainly would be very glad and proud to know that you would choose to memorialize him and pay tribute to your love for him by saving another precious feline (or more than one).  For now, I hope you know that he is watching over you and that he loves you very much.  
 

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I'm so sorry for your loss. What an adorable boy George was! Thank you for sharing him with us. May your sweet boy RIP.

 
 

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Georgie was beautiful.  I'm so sorry for your loss.  I'm sitting her crying as I read this.  It was so touching.  I have also lost animals and it is very hard.  I love your paw prints.  That is such a nice idea.  I hope you eventually get another kitty.  They are pretty special little creatures.  

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