FIL issue...really could use some help! :(

My father in-law is planning a cookout this weekend and my husband wants to go, obviously. I do NOT. I have tried EVERYTHING to get it to happen at OUR home, but I am not sure if it is going to work.

See, my FIL is NOT the cleanest person in the world and I am VERY fussy about cleanliness and the food I eat. In the past, I have wiggled out of eating at his house by saying that I had a huge lunch..or I didn't feel well..or something like that..but this just can't go on...it looks really funny and I really believe my FIL is starting to think I don't like him. That isn't it at all...he is just a widower at 63 and just lives a bachelor life....which is much different than my own. I will admit, it has gotten better since he lost his dog (doesn't stink as much in there), but still...UGH. I just can't stomach it.

How do I handle this?? I just have a bad feeling that if I swallow anything over there, I will end up literally gagging on it in front of everyone.

So...what do you guys think?

Hi Carrie! It's nice to see you again!

As for the FIL, could you suggest that he "needs" some help getting the meal prepared. At least that way YOU know what you are eating and how it was prepared.

As for his uncleanliness, could Roger have a small chat with him? Or maybe Roger could say "Hey Dad, I know that you're going to be busy with getting ready for this party. How about Carrie and I come over a few hours before & help you clean?". Maybe he'll get the hint or maybe he won't. But at least you'd know that it was clean and somewhat sanitary.

Just adding my 2 cents to the pot...

Maybe you could offer to bring something along? Then bring a couple of dishes and only eat yours (though do put some of his stuff on your plate so he's not insulted).

Had he still had him, you could have snuck it to the dog under the table

Originally posted by Anne
Maybe you could offer to bring something along? Then bring a couple of dishes and only eat yours (though do put some of his stuff on your plate so he's not insulted).

Had he still had him, you could have snuck it to the dog under the table

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That's what I was going to suggest...take over a salad and a meat (and then have your husband do the grilling) so at least you have those items...maybe take a dessert too <S>.

I think Anne's suggestion is a great way to go. Best wishes,

Simple solution - eat before you leave = you will be so full by the time you get there - you dont have to eat! Thats my excuse many a time I dont want to go to the mother in laws for dinner - I grab a big mac from Mc's on the way home from work and before I collect my wife... so far I have a 100 per cent rate of success

kev

LOL! His Dad probably thinks you are anorexic because he never sees you eat anything

Those are good suggestions, to bring your own food or help clean up before the cookout.