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Stanley's gone

post #1 of 28
Thread Starter 
I will write something for the Rainbow Bridge section, but I wanted to let everyone who may not check there, that Stanley passed on. The doctor said he had advanced liver disease, and that there was nothing more they could do for him. So, I went down and signed the papers to have him put to sleep. It killed me to do it, but I think it was better than allowing him to suffer anymore, and the vet said he was suffering.
post #2 of 28
Oh Hope, I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you and Stanley will be watching over you from the rainbow bridge.
post #3 of 28
Oh Hope, I'm so very sorry. Words cannot express. (((HUGS)))
post #4 of 28
Hope, I'm so sorry.
That had to be so hard for you to do, but you did what was best for your sweet Stanley.
(((((((hugs)))))))
post #5 of 28
I'm so sorry. I know how hard it must have been to let him go.

This reminds me of another lady and her story on a different site. She had two very very young kitties.. and all of a sudden they started throwing up and not eating being lethargic... well one died already and one is barely hanging on. She said it was liver disease. These babies were not even 2 years old! I dont understand it.
post #6 of 28
Hope I am sorry for your loss. I am moving this to Crossing the Bridge, but there will be a directional left here for others to follow. I am sorry you lost Stanley, now his pain is over and yours begins.
post #7 of 28
Hope,

I was so sorry to read about Stanly. I know we we are hoping that he would recover. My deepest sympathy goes out to you.
post #8 of 28
Hope, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. Stanley, RIP.
post #9 of 28
I'm so sorry.
post #10 of 28
Hope
You tell me what to say that has not been said already - i am here for you as you were for me last week with Vicki. Hope they are both having a heck of a game up there and chasing butterflies together..

My love, thoughts and best wishes to you - but you already knew that didn't you?

Kev
post #11 of 28
Thread Starter 
I still want to write a tribute to my little Stanley. I'm just still in too much shock right now, and I am hating myself for signing those papers. A part of me knows I did what would put him out of pain, and suffering, but the other part of me wishes I would have taken him around to different vets to get all of their opinions as well. I feel like I signed his death warrant, and it's so hard to live with that.
post #12 of 28


I'm so sorry.

Stanley is no longer in pain or suffering, and you did what was best for him. Your decision was based out of the love you had for him and you wanted his suffering to end.

R.I.P Stanley
post #13 of 28
Hope, I'm so sorry to hear about Stanley. But please remember, you shouldn't feel guilty. If he was sick and suffering, helping him over the Bridge was the most loving and compassionate thing you could do. Big (((hugs))) for you, and angels to look over you
post #14 of 28
Oh Hope, I'm so terribly sorry about Stanley. This just really upsets me because I know how I would feel if it happened to one of my kitties. I don't even want to think about it. My thoughts are with you, my dear.
post #15 of 28
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Originally posted by HopeHacker
I still want to write a tribute to my little Stanley. I'm just still in too much shock right now, and I am hating myself for signing those papers. A part of me knows I did what would put him out of pain, and suffering, but the other part of me wishes I would have taken him around to different vets to get all of their opinions as well. I feel like I signed his death warrant, and it's so hard to live with that.
Hope - I get the same feeling when I think of my grandmother as well as my cats in the past. We are lucky as we have the power to end suffering to animals in the kindest way - cannot do it to our fellow man- but would you have wanted the cat to suffer. Course not - you gave Stanley everything and I would recommend you do write a tribute. The greatest gift of love that Stanley has given you is memories - I know we never wanted memories but they alwaysd have a place in your heart and you never forget.
Had you taken him to different vets, the opinion would have been the same - it would have just upset and distressed the cat and that is not the way you want the cat to remember you.
Stanly loves you as I hope Vicki and all my other cats etc more for helping them do something they were powerless to do. Giving them dignity in the end.
Everyone tells you you will get over it - its BS, you never get over it - time heals - no way - its just days get a little easier and you cope a little more.
Do what i did, plant a rose see if there is a rose with a star in its name - as I know you Stanley is relating to Paul stanley and he always had a star on his face in Kiss days.

keep your chin up love

Kev
Still in my own state of shock after Vicki and stepfather died the same day but coping day by day and so will you.
post #16 of 28
Hope , I am so sorry . I think you did the right thing signing the papers . I had to put Samy down after his 2nd stroke and I know that it is not a easy task to do to sign the papers . My heart is going out to you . Your sweetie is in a better place with no pain at all .
post #17 of 28
Hope, I'm so sorry.
post #18 of 28
I'm so sorry
post #19 of 28
Oh Hope! I'm glad Stanley isn't suffering any more BUT I'm so so sorry you lost him!

R.I.P
post #20 of 28
I'm so sorry Hope. (***hugs***)
post #21 of 28
Originally posted by HopeHacker
Quote:
I feel like I signed his death warrant, and it's so hard to live with that.
Hope, this is the greatest act of kindness that can ever be given to an animal.


I know how difficult it is for you to have lost Stanley at such a young age, and that you will miss him terribly. Take care of yourself, and allow youself plenty of time to grieve for your loss. Stanley will always have a special place in your heart, and time will help to heal all the pain you are feeling now. My thoughts are with you.

R.I.P. Stanley
post #22 of 28
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Originally posted by kev
Hope
You tell me what to say that has not been said already - i am here for you as you were for me last week with Vicki. Hope they are both having a heck of a game up there and chasing butterflies together..
Kev
Kev/Hope - My George is up there leading the way for both your babies!
I had to make that painful decision for him too. . . . it's the hardest thing. . . . and yes, Kev the pain will always be there, but hopefully we will learn to replace our grief with joy as we think of the happy times we shared . . . . and knowing that our special kitties are still with us in spirit and always will be.

Hope. . . my deepest sympathy to you.

The following helped me through my grief. I placed George's picture on it and stuck it on my :censor::censor::censor::censor:. It's still there.

THE CAT BED IN THE SKY
Anon
I thought that you might like to know I got here safe and sound
Though you must feel rather strange not having me around;
Of course, I am not really gone, I've just moved out of sight,
And I don't need that old body, things had stopped working right.
Sometimes I'm sorely tempted, to pop back down and see,
Just how you are managing, without any help from me,
But I'm sure that you will understand I can't come back to stay,
Though I have it on good authority that we'll meet again some day.
The chow up here's delicious - Ambrosia brand, it's named,
Once you've tasted this stuff, Friskies won't taste the same,
And where do they get this nectar, which thick and creamy comes,
It's not like other dairy products cos it don't give me the runs.
I haven't found the litter tray, and THIS perplexes me,
That however much I wolf down, I never have to pee.
But there are other plus points, which cannot be ignored,
My claws have all come back again and there are drapes here to be clawed.
Another little oddity, that leaves me quite astounded,
Underneath my tail end are two lumps, furry and rounded -
I can't remember having them, when I lived down there with you,
And up here, all I can say - I've not sussed out their use.
Oh yes - I've got a comfy bed, just like mine down there at home,
So things here are quite adequate, I cannot gripe or groan;
But while I'm up here waiting, in my cat bed in the sky,
I'll regularly look in on you, and keep a watchful eye.
***

(((Hugs)))

Laurie
post #23 of 28
I'm so very sorry.
(((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))
post #24 of 28
I am sorry, Hope.
post #25 of 28
Hope I am sorry that you lost your boy Stanley You did the best thing for him, gave him a lifetime of love and the diginity to die without anymore pain.


{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}
post #26 of 28
I'm so sorry.
post #27 of 28
A bucket of words isn't going to make it feel any better, but you did the right thing. Lotsa hugs. Be gentle with yourself.
post #28 of 28
Thread Starter 
Thank you everyone. I'm still somewhat depressed, but I'm getting better. I know life goes on....... Luckily, I have my 3 other cats, Snoopy, Shane, and Simba (I renamed my kitten Simba from Simmons)and my lovable little dog Strutter, to help me get thru it, and all of you wonderful people here, who care.

Please read my tribute to Stanley. It kind of sums up what a sweet heart he was, and how he touched my life.

Thank you all, again.
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