For grown ups to act like, well, grown ups occasionally?
*sorry rant time, long post*
So I feel like I have been invaded, to some degree. But first I need to give some background......
Years ago I had this group of friends I hung around (All good, church friends). I was dating one of them (way before ricky came along), and he got busted by the FBI for chilld porn (long story. Another time). So naturally that split us up, and drastically changed the friendship cuz just ew. Anyway...... Fast forwarding many years.
I kept up a friendship with one of the original group- Call him Ronald. (Aside from the x, the others had moved away or lost contact etc), and this is a good friend I have known for probably 10+ years. Up until the past year, I had been this crazy "Old Mel", as evidenced by being so engrossed and shaken by the borderline personality disorder. Suffice it to say I was very immature, childish, and found that kind of stuff funny. I don't anymore, since I have become "the new mel", I have matured and grown ALOT the past year.
The last game night we had was at this friends house (normally DH and I host, and its our small group of close knit friends) we don't LIKE anyone invading. So with the move, we decided we were going to have Ronald host it at his house, which proved to be one headache after the next. Now alot of you have heard/read my posts about the amazing super awesome Nick that is our best friend. The reserved, proper law school graduate who if it had not been for him, I would still be stuck in this neurotic - borderline clingy childish state.
So knowing our close knit group (Me, DH, Nick, and Ronald) - Ronald invited some of his friends from his church. The red flag was, he didn't even ask us what we thought- he just pushed them on us. Enter the crazy friends. Loud cackling, laughing, & screeching. Ronald who is great but so annoying at times. we took a vote on what game to play for game night. Majority said Monopoly, but the problem is - Ronald and 2 of the others didn't want to play. So chaos ensues. You have the group that wants to play, that is laid back & reserved - Nick, Myself, DH and one other. What happens?
# 1- Loud cackling laughter, reminisciant of school girl teenager - The age of the person: 32
# 2 - Ronald has a knack for drawing all attention to him with non funny videos, songs etc- not only does he INSIST people watch them, he literally shoves the iPAD in their face to make them watch. I don't find his style of humor funny, even though I did at one point- it's childish, and I have matured and grown up- changed for the better.
And lastly, something I call "implied consent" happened when the X grabbed my phone and said here let me show you something. Implied consent is what happens when you imply the consent of the other person. Example:
When you come over Friday, can you bring milk? - The problem is, you never asked Can you come over Friday- it was assumed they would.
So that brings us to today.
I talk to Ronald about the surprise party for DH birthday coming up, and he says "Do you want to plan one for (x's name) too?
I say, DH is awkward considering x's and my extensive past history- plus he just doesn't know him. So we come to the conclusion, I am not hosting the party for X- but if Ronald wants to, feel free- and we will attend (as there is slight friendship there with X and I). So chaos ensues again, when I agree to come to the party- but ask Ronald to please please keep some degree of order in his house. I tell him the game night was really hard for me to handle, and I can't handle "Out of control craziness"" again, so naturally he asks what I mean. I explain about the videos, the laughing etc......... He says I have no right to try and control how people behave. I say its not crazy to expect adults to act like, well; adults.
Thoughts??
*sorry rant time, long post*
So I feel like I have been invaded, to some degree. But first I need to give some background......
Years ago I had this group of friends I hung around (All good, church friends). I was dating one of them (way before ricky came along), and he got busted by the FBI for chilld porn (long story. Another time). So naturally that split us up, and drastically changed the friendship cuz just ew. Anyway...... Fast forwarding many years.
I kept up a friendship with one of the original group- Call him Ronald. (Aside from the x, the others had moved away or lost contact etc), and this is a good friend I have known for probably 10+ years. Up until the past year, I had been this crazy "Old Mel", as evidenced by being so engrossed and shaken by the borderline personality disorder. Suffice it to say I was very immature, childish, and found that kind of stuff funny. I don't anymore, since I have become "the new mel", I have matured and grown ALOT the past year.
The last game night we had was at this friends house (normally DH and I host, and its our small group of close knit friends) we don't LIKE anyone invading. So with the move, we decided we were going to have Ronald host it at his house, which proved to be one headache after the next. Now alot of you have heard/read my posts about the amazing super awesome Nick that is our best friend. The reserved, proper law school graduate who if it had not been for him, I would still be stuck in this neurotic - borderline clingy childish state.
So knowing our close knit group (Me, DH, Nick, and Ronald) - Ronald invited some of his friends from his church. The red flag was, he didn't even ask us what we thought- he just pushed them on us. Enter the crazy friends. Loud cackling, laughing, & screeching. Ronald who is great but so annoying at times. we took a vote on what game to play for game night. Majority said Monopoly, but the problem is - Ronald and 2 of the others didn't want to play. So chaos ensues. You have the group that wants to play, that is laid back & reserved - Nick, Myself, DH and one other. What happens?
# 1- Loud cackling laughter, reminisciant of school girl teenager - The age of the person: 32
# 2 - Ronald has a knack for drawing all attention to him with non funny videos, songs etc- not only does he INSIST people watch them, he literally shoves the iPAD in their face to make them watch. I don't find his style of humor funny, even though I did at one point- it's childish, and I have matured and grown up- changed for the better.
And lastly, something I call "implied consent" happened when the X grabbed my phone and said here let me show you something. Implied consent is what happens when you imply the consent of the other person. Example:
When you come over Friday, can you bring milk? - The problem is, you never asked Can you come over Friday- it was assumed they would.
So that brings us to today.
I talk to Ronald about the surprise party for DH birthday coming up, and he says "Do you want to plan one for (x's name) too?
I say, DH is awkward considering x's and my extensive past history- plus he just doesn't know him. So we come to the conclusion, I am not hosting the party for X- but if Ronald wants to, feel free- and we will attend (as there is slight friendship there with X and I). So chaos ensues again, when I agree to come to the party- but ask Ronald to please please keep some degree of order in his house. I tell him the game night was really hard for me to handle, and I can't handle "Out of control craziness"" again, so naturally he asks what I mean. I explain about the videos, the laughing etc......... He says I have no right to try and control how people behave. I say its not crazy to expect adults to act like, well; adults.
Thoughts??